Do you call mil mum or by her name?

PandorasJar

Name... I only have one mum thanks! I see her lots and she's like a mate though, so it's all good on the first name terms!

However I do call the grandfolks nan and grandad. We live around the corner and are there all the time and they're like my own grandfolks

I've never done 'Uncle' 'Aunt' either, it's always been first names

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fayhare

My MIL is dead but I would never have called her anything but her actual name. My OH calls my parents by their first names, but will say your mam etc if talking about them to me.

I can't imagine calling my in-laws mum or dad, it reminds me of adults who call their own parents mummy and daddy...a little bit creepy. No idea why I feel like this though!

johnswife

My MIL died a couple of years ago and I never called her mum and rarely called her by her christian name. But i would refer to her by OH's mum or nanny.

My FIL aho comes over for meals 3 times a week is called Grandad.

Murray

I call my MIL & FIL by their 1st names or nicknames (same ones that DH uses when he's not using Mum & Dad)...however my Dad calls his in-laws Mum & Dad and it would be strange if it was any other way because he has known them since he was much younger and they were quite instrumental in his formation years! Also, my Dad didnt know his Dad so his FIL has been the only father figure in his life.

So...it depends on your circumstances.

squibbs25

OMG! I must be one of the rare one's that call the inlaws mum and dad LOL (i'm mid 30's), a few days before i married her son i asked her what i should call her/ what she would prefer to be called and she said straight away 'mum', i was happy with that and it shows respect on both sides. I must admit though she is lovely (i'm one of the lucky ones :T) and to call her anything else would have seemed so wrong.
I'm really suprised at the amount of you that dont know what to call the inlaws .

mumOf2wonderfulkids

i love my MIL to bits, couldn't wish for better but i call her by her first name, when the kids are around i always call her nanny.
i've wanted to call her mum as i think it is really nice (when other people do it) but for some reason i just don't feel comfortable to ask if she would mind

tandraig

I always called my parents in law mam and dad (but here in valleys that was the accepted way) and they treated me as a daughter! my OH calls my mother Mam and never anything else!
my daughter and sons partners though call me by my first name! though if they slip and say mam I dont mind!
for those who dont know what to call the inlaws (even if its years down the line) why on earth dont you ask them what they prefer to be called?
or carry on the MSE tradition and call them mill and phill (MIL & FIL - geddit)

mintymoneysaver

When I was introduced to my in laws they told me to call them by their first names, but I was only 18 and just couldn't do it ( they were in their 50s!) so I avoided calling them anything at all until I had children and they are now Grannie and Grandpa. When I am talking to one or other of them and referring to the other I will say " Oh yes, Joe said so...." but I still don't call them their names to their face!

Ada_Doom

I'm 34 and call my mother "mammy" most of the time. But MIL is very much called by her name (she is english so is "Mum" to my other half)

My kids are both born and bred in england so call me mum, which I have to say used to make me a little sad as i always wanted to be a "mammy" too!

creased-leach

First name. She's simply not my mum, so it wouldn't cross my mind to call her it.

She has an odd first name though, "Malevolent old Witch" doesn't exactly roll off the tongue.