Advice needed ?

Quackers

sunnyone wrote: »

How is your daughter?

ok. Thank you

Her cast is finally coming off at the end of next week.

Looking forward to seeing a skinny white hairy leg :rotfl:

She's had a cast on since 5th November :eek:

We wont know how successful the Op has been until we see the consultant in March

bestpud

Quackers wrote: »

ok. Thank you

Her cast is finally coming off at the end of next week.

Looking forward to seeing a skinny white hairy leg :rotfl:

She's had a cast on since 5th November :eek:

We wont know how successful the Op has been until we see the consultant in March

It's amazing how much hair grows under a cast isn't it!

My son looked half gorilla when he had his taken off! :rotfl:

Quackers

bestpud wrote: »

It's amazing how much hair grows under a cast isn't it!

My son looked half gorilla when he had his taken off! :rotfl:

I've never seen it before but have just been warned - I can also see how horribly dry and manky her skin is

I'm also pathetically squeamish and am really not looking forward to seeing all of the scars that are hiding under there :o:cool:

PaisleyPPL

pls dont take this the wrong way ,i really dont mean to be cheeky but im guessing your not an orthopaedic surgeon ,and neither am i ,which is why i originally stated that i didnt really want to get into the surgery because i dont know enough about it .As for foot problems running in your family ,that doesnt mean you know what my partners situation is .Futher to this you will know that waiting times for surgery can be months, if this surgery wasnt emergency then i really dont think between being seen at a&e and having his first op would be days rather than months ? I had bacterial menengitis 2years ago ,it doesnt make me an expert on the subject .I was in hospital for weeks ,where as i know a friend from work had the same thing and didnt need hospitalised. The point im trying to get at is there may be major differences between the problems experienced in your family and the problems my partner is experiencing .

Would also like to point out that is this was planned surgery we obviously would wait untill the summer untill we would be able to cope better financially wouldnt we ?

[Deleted User]

Minimum wage £5.80, you claim you're now working 70 hours a week, that's over £1,200 a month, add to that the £200 from ex partner for child and £280 sick pay, that's £1,600 per month. How exactly has the problem arose, unless I'm totally misunderstanding what you've said. If we work out your total income based on your first post that's just under £1200, we can see you've also got part of your outgoings on "luxuries" that could be easily cut out, so let's assume you drop the phones and sky, that leaves you with only £800 of outgoings, ergo ~£380 of income you have AFTER everything is paid. How is £380 not enough to live (albeit it very frugally)? I think I must be misunderstanding this, because £380 seems a suitable amount for living off.

Even if we assume that the £685 is child support + sick pay + your pay, that means you're doing under 10 hours of work a week, could you not just boost that up to ~30? That would get your through this, there is absolutely no need to do 70 hours a week (at minimum wage) to get through this, either you're doing the maths wrong, hiding something or sensationalising...

this all assumes you're earning minimum wage, which I doubt, but we can base it off that...

PaisleyPPL

sorry i think uve got abit mixed up there .

my partner is having the op ,which will take him onto £280 per month of which he has to pay HIS ex £200.

Im a full time student ,i work part time at nhs ,and yesterday took another job part time at a friends bar (starting next week) .so my week including all jobs and uni will be around 70hrs

[Deleted User]

PaisleyPPL wrote: »

sorry i think uve got abit mixed up there .

my partner is having the op ,which will take him onto £280 per month of which he has to pay HIS ex £200.

Im a full time student ,i work part time at nhs ,and yesterday took another job part time at a friends bar (starting next week) .so my week including all jobs and uni will be around 70hrs

ah okay, that makes sense! That is definitely a predicament, well, good luck with it!

sunnyone

PaisleyPPL wrote: »

pls dont take this the wrong way ,i really dont mean to be cheeky but im guessing your not an orthopaedic surgeon ,and neither am i ,which is why i originally stated that i didnt really want to get into the surgery because i dont know enough about it .As for foot problems running in your family ,that doesnt mean you know what my partners situation is .Futher to this you will know that waiting times for surgery can be months, if this surgery wasnt emergency then i really dont think between being seen at a&e and having his first op would be days rather than months ? I had bacterial menengitis 2years ago ,it doesnt make me an expert on the subject .I was in hospital for weeks ,where as i know a friend from work had the same thing and didnt need hospitalised. The point im trying to get at is there may be major differences between the problems experienced in your family and the problems my partner is experiencing .

Would also like to point out that is this was planned surgery we obviously would wait untill the summer untill we would be able to cope better financially wouldnt we ?

You are here for a woe is me, foot surgery isnt a major thing in life and its not unusual to have several procedures done together and having the toes broken is normal for many foot surgeries (and wouldnt need doing if it was for a fresh injury), his surgery isnt life or death, people go straight back to work after a few days when they have to to pay there own way especially when they havnt saved a months wage while both partners worked to cover emergencies like this.

I hope that you and anyone else reading this will consider what they would do if they had a emergency where there income reduced to a level below you need to survive, Martin said everyone should have 5 months or so of wages saved for emergencies, many people cant reach that far but missing one luxury in a while the money will mount up and be there as a cushion.

people work using wheelchairs and the red cross can loan you one for a donation or the hospital will provide crutches, thats all the help you will get for a short term procedure/disability on a otherwise healthy man equipment wise, you learn to cope in the home very quickly and just get on with it, after a car accident I was on crutches and my husband was in a wheelchair but we managed including looking after a toddler because we had too.

TOBRUK

What exactly is his job as I don't think you have said. I ask as with many employers they will find another job that will accomodate someone in this position until they are up to doing their usual job.

bestpud

PaisleyPPL wrote: »

sorry i think uve got abit mixed up there .

my partner is having the op ,which will take him onto £280 per month of which he[STRIKE] has[/STRIKE] chooses to pay HIS ex £200.

Im a full time student ,i work part time at nhs ,and yesterday took another job part time at a friends bar (starting next week) .so my week including all jobs and uni will be around 70hrs

Let's be clear about this - he does not HAVE to pay his ex that money, he CHOOSES to.

That is his problem, and he is making it yours.

If his ex is on benefits then she will be able to manage with less money while he is off work and he has every right to pay less.

That's something you need to take up with him because, in that sense, the problem is of his making.