Advice needed ?

healy

PaisleyPPL wrote: »

excuse me childish , u guys were the ones giving me !!!! for my spelling in the first place

If you cannot see the difference then I am not going to explain it to you.

bestpud

healy wrote: »

If you cannot see the difference then I am not going to explain it to you.

I'm beginning to wonder if this is a WUM...

PaisleyPPL

listen the difference was you were taking the mick out of me for my spelling i was just messin back with you ,further to that ppl are questioning my education because of that ,i worked damn hard to get a first in my honours year and i certainly will not be spoken to like an idiot by anyone

TOBRUK

If your partner is going to be 'off his feet' for a while when he comes out of hospital, have you thought of how you will care for him if he is unable to be on his feet? If you are going to care for him will you be able to attend university, or go to work? Have you got family around you who could help when you're not there?

Perhaps you could ask your GP about after care (although they will discuss this at hospital) I found my GP very good when I came out of hospital after a major operation recently. The GP may also be able to refer your to OT who could help.

PaisleyPPL

tobruk : unfortunately my partners family are all in dublin therefore will be caring for him myself .Have spoken to contacts as i work for nhs again really nothing available to us .My family dont live near us either so we have no choice .The hours ive got to work i have no choice in (i am not excited by a 70hr week believe me) ,we need to pay the bills .Im lucky in that my new job is in a friends bar very close to home ,so will be able to get back to him if he needs help

sulkisu

PaisleyPPL wrote: »

. My partners ex being a prime example ,a women who has 4 kids by 4 different dads doesnt pay a penny for anything ,when there are ppl out there working hard just to get by.

Your partners' ex is only half of the problem. Your partner (and the three other 'dads', and others like them who go sliding in without bothering to put something on the end of it, creating children in relatively short term, fickle relationships, which the rest of us then pay for) is the other half of the problem.

healy

PaisleyPPL wrote: »

listen the difference was you were taking the mick out of me for my spelling i was just messin back with you ,further to that ppl are questioning my education because of that ,i worked damn hard to get a first in my honours year and i certainly will not be spoken to like an idiot by anyone

I was not taking the mick, I just think that if people are capable of writing correctly then they should. It is not surprising that people question the education you have received when you write in the manner that you have. I have not spoken to you like an idiot but you are not doing yourself an favours here.

PaisleyPPL

sulkisu :i agree totally ,but atleast he pays and hasnt run like the rest

TOBRUK

I understand now that you will be coping and caring solely on your own and so it will not be easy - far from it. However, when he first comes out of hospital you may find that you will not be able to leave him at all for a while - toilet needs, fetching drinks and many other reasons. I really do think you should discuss this with your GP.

Another possibility is not to allow him to come out of hospital until he is able to get around on his own - as you state that he may not be able to be on his feet. They cannot discharge anyone if no one is at home to care for them.

PaisleyPPL

aparently keeping him in is not an option ,our health board is strapped as it is and there just isnt the beds available .believe me as i work within out of hours care, there is just no option for help other than emergency care which would not be suitable in his situation. We simply will have to get on with it ,if i dont work i will not be able to pay the bills ,and as for attending uni its a must .Will be looking into annual leave for the first week from my nhs job but as that stands we are so overloaded its doubtful i'll be able to take the time off