Do we have a brat camp type boarding school in the UK?

GIRLPOWER_2

Lillibet wrote:

I don't have teenagers so I could be totally out of order here & I hope you won't be offended, but based on this information I would question who is the parent here???

Not offended at all.

You are right.. He is.If I say ask him to get changed out of his uniform.. (and believe me if i did not he would not get changed and would fall asleep in it) He will blank me.. 3 times later I will send him to his room.. he will say in a minute.. I will approach him and push him in the direct of the stair.. he would put his face right upto mine and shout get off at the top of his voice.. so I threaten him with something like the removal of this PSP for 2 days if he does not get changed now. he will then go to his room and slam the door. I go check on the younger 2 who see me in tears and so thre next night you stop asking cos it's not worth the trouble.. so he wins!

GIRLPOWER_2

flybynight wrote:

hi, i am asgt in the ACf (cadets)... and believe it or no we get quite a few kids whose parents bribe/ blackmail /cajole them into coming to us and they do seem to make a go of it if not immediatley.Have you spoken to his indtructors?Is he going to annula camp, as 2 weeks of discipline routine and being worked/ exercised may make a difference. we have had quite a few cadets from different backgrounds go on 2 week camps wiht us and their parents cant believe the difference when they get back. we also promote the Dof E scheme so dont worry about enrolling him in a seperate one. we often get kids come to us that have a problem with other youth activites and school and they start to view cadets differently and it really makes a differnce on their outlook, so give him a bit of time to get used to the idea.

I have asked him about this because when I went down to enroll him they said every month they have a weekend away and once a year they go for a week.

I have told him I will pay him extra for the weekends or he would not go and he asked them last week when the next one is.. but they have told him he has to be a grade/ level 1 before he can attend them .

And I am sure He likes it sometimes like when they do the guns and pe bit.. it's the drill he hates.

Spendless

GIRLPOWER wrote:

Not offended at all.
.. so I threaten him with something like the removal of this PSP for 2 days if he does not get changed now.

Do you carry the threat out too if he doesn't do as asked GIRLPOWER?
I only saw one episode of teen angels (think someone gave a link earlier) and this is what Tanya had mum do, strip her teenage boys (twins)rooms of all their possessions, I think they had to earn them back. They kicked off big style to start off with -but came round in the end-eventually;)

GIRLPOWER_2

wigginsmum wrote:

Do I take it his father's not around?

He is but works away in the week... and sort of leaves everything to me.

All he wants to do is hit him (thinks that will resolve everything.. and it never did him any harm) and I will not allow it so we have arguments..

GIRLPOWER_2

Spendless wrote:

Do you carry the threat out too if he doesn't do as asked GIRLPOWER?
I only saw one episode of teen angels (think someone gave a link earlier) and this is what Tanya had mum do, strip her teenage boys (twins)rooms of all their possessions, I think they had to earn them back. They kicked off big style to start off with -but came round in the end-eventually;)

Yes.. I always do what I say. He is just quiet with me untill he gets it back.. but I always seem to be making threats to get him to do anything.. it really gets you down.

GIRLPOWER_2

culpepper wrote:

From here it sounds like
A. You all hate his guts
B. His little siblings are loved,he is not
C. You will pay money to be rid of him.
D. You will remove any comfort left in his life as a punishment.
LOL well im sure thats not how it is really but could he be thinking that it is?
The jacket thing always gets me...What does it matter if he wears it ,unless it is a technical lesson or P.E. His weapon with the teacher is NO he wont take it off but if the teacher ignores his wearing it,problem solved.

:rotfl:

Not quite true;) but I disagree about the jacket.. He sould do as he's told.. Who on earth does he think he's talking to?? he should have respect.

elona

Girlpower

The penny just dropped!

He needs his dad as a role model and friend!

Spending some pleasant time with his dad would do them both good.

Is there anything "blokey" that they would both enjoy? Football. fishing, swimming?

GIRLPOWER_2

dora37 wrote:

Whilst you are obviously having problems with your son, the Do it 4 Real Camp is not a 'brat/boot camp' it is an activity/creative holiday - surely you would be knowingly passing 'your problems/issues' onto someone else to deal with, especially if he felt that he was being 'sent away'?

My DS2 is going on a Performing Arts week with Do it 4 Real, however he is going because this is a subject he really enjoys and he sees it as being a treat.

I only hope my sons course is not full of children who have been sent away by parents who cannot address their child's issues.:mad:

He would not cause problems once there honest or I would not send him and spoil other childrens holidays. He will be the quiet one.... oh and I have tried for a long time to address his issues.. but thank you for your concern.

GIRLPOWER_2

elona wrote:

Girlpower

The penny just dropped!

He needs his dad as a role model and friend!

Spending some pleasant time with his dad would do them both good.

Is there anything "blokey" that they would both enjoy? Football. fishing, swimming?

They do not get on that well anymore.. it's gone too far.. his dad has had enough.. evrytime we make him come out with us on family days which he hates becase they are boring .. he spends the whole day.. every 2 minutes with the can I go home i'm bord.. but he never even tries to join in.

He loves football.. but gets kicked off all teams cos he walk off the pitch cos he's been fowled every 5 minutes or he will sit in the middle of the pitch cos no one is passing to him. again Dad got tired of watching him.. he makes you ashamed when your in public with him.

GIRLPOWER_2

Toto wrote:

Kids need to know that childhood isn't just about having fun, it's the training ground for adulthood. They need to understand that throughout their lives there will always be people in authority giving them rules to live by, not all they will agree with, but rules they have to keep or risk severe punishment. That's life.

So, I agree that if the child is breaking the household rules he should know the consequences and he should live with it.

This is spot on with my line of thinking.. Just went wrong for me somewhere down the line.