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xmaslolly76

Mrs Tine i have never really spoken to you before but i must say i havent laughed quite this much for a while as i have this morning :-)

MrsTinks

JBD wrote: »

Once again,it doesn't matter why someone makes a choice. It doesn't matter why you gave up breastfeeding as compared to someone else. You seemed to dislike being judged by someone else but you think it's alright to judge other people? It doesn't actually make you any better because you gave up for those reasons. Your baby is still being fed in the same way as any other bottle fed baby. And yes, people can dislike breastfeeding if they wish. How does that relate to poos wees and puke?

*sigh* again... I was mentioning theoretical scenarios - making clear several times that I have never actually met someone who gave up for these reasons. And the MAIN difference is that I would never TELL someone I thought their reasons "were not good enough".

If someone !!!!!! their baby just because they don't like BFing then I may not agree with it, but I don't feel the need to try REPEATEDLY to make them feel inadequat as a mum or parent for making that choice.

I think holding a view on something and judging others for not holding the same view is one thing - you can do so quietly and without purposely insulting or hurting people - and then there is vocalising that oppinion in a deeply patronising manner to their face (as it were - I appreciate this is a forum...).

It may not be different to you but to me it's 2 seperate things altogether

MrsTinks

xmaslolly76 wrote: »

Mrs Tine i have never really spoken to you before but i must say i havent laughed quite this much for a while as i have this morning :-)

Oh but you have... on the parents threads until I left because apparently I wasn't fluffy enough

It's been a while though

PrincessPlaty

MrsTine wrote: »

Oh but you have... on the parents threads until I left because apparently I wasn't fluffy enough

It's been a while though

Did you leave the parents thread :eek:

I never felt comfortable posting on there lots of people lots of posts got me all confused

xmaslolly76

ahh i do vaugly remember there being some long running feud on there tried to keep out of it each to their own and all that.

I dont go on the parenting thread either to be honest i found it could be a bit of a dictatorship at times although there are many lovely ladies on there :-)

MrsTinks

I don't think it was a long feud... I just didn't appreciate certain rude comments so I left Maybe dictatorship is a bit strong though?

I just know I didn't feel welcome there so left. End of really

SugarSpun

Now I feel all sad because you lovely mummies are nervous of the parenting thread
I'm not a dictator and like it when nice people talk about their children together. And if I get annoyed or hurt I can just close the lid of my laptop and lock you all in till I feel better.

MrsTinks

PrincessPlaty wrote: »

Did you leave the parents thread :eek:

I never felt comfortable posting on there lots of people lots of posts got me all confused

LOL... yes... seems a long long time ago
Can't say I've missed it

Although I could get addicted to the bad mums (and dads!) thread at this rate... :cool:

MrsTinks

SugarSpun wrote: »

Now I feel all sad because you lovely mummies are nervous of the parenting thread
I'm not a dictator and like it when nice people talk about their children together. And if I get annoyed or hurt I can just close the lid of my laptop and lock you all in till I feel better.

The problem isn't the nice mums SS - it's that too often differing oppinions become out-right fights and very catty. I love a good debate, but when it becomes personal it gets my back up and I get stubborn. I think without debates we'd probably never grow as people, but too often people can't agree to disagree - shame really

so I choose to stay away because I'm not fluffy enough for that thread

JBD

MrsTine wrote: »

*sigh* again... I was mentioning theoretical scenarios - making clear several times that I have never actually met someone who gave up for these reasons. And the MAIN difference is that I would never TELL someone I thought their reasons "were not good enough".

If someone !!!!!! their baby just because they don't like BFing then I may not agree with it, but I don't feel the need to try REPEATEDLY to make them feel inadequat as a mum or parent for making that choice.

I think holding a view on something and judging others for not holding the same view is one thing - you can do so quietly and without purposely insulting or hurting people - and then there is vocalising that oppinion in a deeply patronising manner to their face (as it were - I appreciate this is a forum...).

It may not be different to you but to me it's 2 seperate things altogether

Mrs Tine, on reading through my last post I felt I may have come across a little 'offensive ' to you, that was not my intention and if so I apologise.I just don 't think people have to justify themselves in how they bring up their children. That is as long as they are not neglected or abused. I didn't mean to attack you in any way.