Opinions pls. So upset...

mumslave

euronorris wrote: »

I see where you're coming from, and whilst you may have time to quit, sometimes, the damage is already done.

Just as everyone will react differently to coke, they also react differently to the smoke. Some get away with it, and some don't.

I used to be one also and it was bl00dy hard giving up (about 20 times!).

I also understand your point as only using this as a defence now. If it bothered him before, it is most likely he would've brought it up before.

Thank you, I can also see the points made about it being too late for some smokers when they do quit.

Zazen999

So, what ARE your thoughts on cocaine, being that you have said you don't actually understand it?

I think you should apologise and give up smoking; just to show that you aren't a hypocrite.

littlemissteapot_2

Well in my opinion I think I would have reacted a lot worse!! I am completley anti drugs (being a drugs worker I guess I would be!!)

You need to make it clear to him how upset & angry you are. If he is being agressive towards you it could be his guilt at doing something so utterly stupid or it could go deeper. Either way you don't deserve to feel like you are the one in the wrong. He has taken an illegal substance and broken the law. Whatever you decide I hope you get it sorted xx

Zazen999

littlemissteapot wrote: »

Well in my opinion I think I would have reacted a lot worse!! I am completley anti drugs (being a drugs worker I guess I would be!!)

You need to make it clear to him how upset & angry you are. If he is being agressive towards you it could be his guilt at doing something so utterly stupid or it could go deeper. Either way you don't deserve to feel like you are the one in the wrong. He has taken an illegal substance and broken the law. Whatever you decide I hope you get it sorted xx

Cocaine and crack are Class A drugs - illegal to have, give away or sell. Possession can get you up to seven years in jail. Supplying someone else, including your friends, can get you life and an unlimited fine.

Not illegal to actually take; just to have, give away or sell

jamespir

i think you are over reacting but i can understand your concerns but you made the big mistake of having a go infront of his mates and i probably wouldnt be speaking to my missus if she did that

confuseddotcom1

Truth is I dont think I am a hypocrit. As I said earlier he was well aware that I smoked prior to us going out together. Had I known he thought it was acceptable to snort coke whenever he felt like it Im not sure I would have started seeing him in the first place. I dont know all the ins and outs of cocaine as I stated. I just know that it can be extremely dangerous even if only taken once (which is enough information for me to know that I dont like the idea of it) and also from the experiences I have had around people that have taken it they act totally differently than they ordinarily would (which i witnessed a few weeks ago when it happened). I was angry because I was so worried about the what the effects of it could be to his health if he had a bad reaction to it and also because he has previously told me in discussions we have had that he wouldnt and doesnt take it. He is well aware of my feelings about it. I was also sickened at the idea of him and bunch of mates leaning over the sink in a pub bathroom snorting something, particularly without even knowing exactly what was in it (as he admitted.)

*Louise*

confuseddotcom1 wrote: »

Thanks for reply. I have done things I regret next day but if I knew it had upset my OH to the degree it has me I would at least step up and apologise for it, particularly when we have had conversations in the past and he knows how much I am opposed to it and how much it scares me. I think I perhaps did overreact based on what others have said and will apologise to him for that (i pretty much already have) but I cant apologise for being against it and for not agreeing with what he did or under the circumstances that he did it.

You shouldn't have to apologise for that part.

If more people were so anti-drugs the world would be a much less messy place.

jamespir

it seems your basing your judgment on stuff youve seen on tele and in the papers
if it was a one off then just epxlain to your partner your worries and that you would prefer him not to do it

he may Listen he may not

euronorris

jamespir wrote: »

he may Listen he may not

I think this is the issue at the moment. She's trying to talk, but he's blocking.

Unfortunately OP, the best advice is to talk, so you'll have to keep trying different approaches IF it's that important to you.

jamespir

euronorris wrote: »

I think this is the issue at the moment. She's trying to talk, but he's blocking.

Unfortunately OP, the best advice is to talk, so you'll have to keep trying different approaches IF it's that important to you.

yes but by the sound s of things she's not talking she shouting and sparring for an argument (like most women do) she needs to leave her emotinal ties out of it