Miscarriage support

Nicki

I think the last few posts are a shame. If you wanted to post these sentiments wouldn't they be better on the thread in the housing section rather than here? Isn't the whole point of this thread to be a place where women can come when they feel raw and vulnerable and vent about the things which have roused strong feelings in them, most of which are things which are perfectly reasonable and innocuous in themselves such as a friend announcing a pregnancy, but painful in the aftermath of losing a child.

Tinytear, I am sorry for your loss.

QQuaver

RedwoodBrook wrote: »

Does anyone know if there is a stillbirth thread? After reading a few of the posts on here im not sure this is the place for me. I am feeling ready to talk about things now.

Thanks in advance,

Not that I know of. You can post here if you like(((hugs))).

chucknorris69

tbs624 wrote: »

Whilst recognising the huge sadness and stresses that come with recurrent miscarriage, tiny_tear launched into a housing thread to personally attack another poster ( who is pregnant, living in a damp property and is facing an impending eviction ) apparently because she didn't like her signature's celebration of her pregnancy. Her pregnancy is viewed by others as relevant to the thread because of the timing of the termination of her housing contract. Another poster was already attacking the OP with unpleasant commentary about pregnant women.

Perhaps the OP in that thread could equally feel that it was insensitive of a home owner to leap in with comments which had nothing to do with offering any support or valid comment but more with Tiny_tears using the thread to express her understandable frustration and upset with her personal/medical situation.

Tiny_tears - you may like to know that you can
(a) use the ignore function
(b) choose to set your User CP so that other posters signatures are not visible to you
(c) choose not to return to threads that you find personally upsetting, especially when you are not logged in because of course your personal settings won't be operative.

The fact that you are currently having a really hard time should not make you totally oblivious to the fact that others have areas of stress in their lives too. Is it right to expect others to be sensitive only to your needs, whilst you lambast someone who is having also hard time?

I hope that both you and the OP in the other thread get the support that you respectively need.

I had not actually looked at the thread in question - was just trying to offer support. Sorry.

tiny_tear

I have now sent a PM to the OP on the other thread and edited my post there and others were removed at my request.
Apologies for a blip in my sanity, i had a very tough week.
i was hanging on fine, i even participated in the baby sweepstake for one of my colleagues at work (didn't win, missed out by two days) and things were better

i guess i should look for the leaflet about councelling they gave me at the hospital

RedwoodBrook

QQuaver wrote: »

Not that I know of. You can post here if you like(((hugs))).

Thank you, although I'm not sure the things I have to say would be relevent. Having had both a miscarriage and a stillbirth, I know which I found harder to cope with.
I wouldn't want to be seen to be belittling the experiences of the other women (and men) who use this thread by saying mine was 'worse' and in the course of discussion I may well do that. I wouldn't mean to be insensitive, I just find it difficult to discuss with anyone other than my soon-to-be (yay) husband.

Hopefully I won't feel like that forever and will be able to come back here. I wish you all the very very best in the meantime.

RedwoodBrook

The previous post didn't come out as I wanted it to. I've had a bit of a tough day so maybe thats the reason I don't feel like I can talk about it. Maybe I will try again tomorrow.

Thank you again

tiny_tear

RedwoodBrook wrote: »

The previous post didn't come out as I wanted it to. I've had a bit of a tough day so maybe thats the reason I don't feel like I can talk about it. Maybe I will try again tomorrow.

Thank you again

*hugs*

knowing the pain of a miscarriage i can imagine your pain is 1000 times worth

x

crazygirl

RedwoodBrook wrote: »

Does anyone know if there is a stillbirth thread? After reading a few of the posts on here im not sure this is the place for me. I am feeling ready to talk about things now.

Thanks in advance,

There is a forum called Baby and Bump with a stillbirth section here. I hope that helps, sorry for your loss.

RedwoodBrook

crazygirl wrote: »

There is a forum called Baby and Bump with a stillbirth section here. I hope that helps, sorry for your loss.

Thank you for this. I will bookmark the link for a later date, im starting to think that perhaps Im not ready to talk about it yet

portsmouthali

tiny_tear wrote: »

I have now sent a PM to the OP on the other thread and edited my post there and others were removed at my request.
Apologies for a blip in my sanity, i had a very tough week.
i was hanging on fine, i even participated in the baby sweepstake for one of my colleagues at work (didn't win, missed out by two days) and things were better

i guess i should look for the leaflet about councelling they gave me at the hospital

Hey tinytear, so sorry for your losses. I have had many many moments when I've feared for my sanity over the last 18 months or so. I hope you feel you can continue to post here when you need a bit of support. It's a long road, and I wish you all the best xxx