Miscarriage support

Catw0man

((((HUGS)))) Portsmouth, don't give up hope, but don't hold back on the grief either

portsmouthali

Thanks guys

Popped in to see my lovely GP this morning, he says to keep an open mind which is what I'm trying to do. Things are still the same as yesterday, still bleeding with the odd bit of cramping. No better, but no worse either.

He said I'm to rest for a couple of days to see if things ease up, and to go back if I'm in a lot of pain. Doesn't want to scan for another 2 weeks if possible as it's so early - that's fine by me as I hate the dildo scan! Am trying no to stress too much. What will be, will be.

msb5262

Ali -

thinking of you a lot...it sounds as if you're having a really hard time but being brave and calm.

Everything is crossed for you here. Hope to hear better news from you in the next few days.

with love

MsB x

alwaystryyourbest

If you are thinking of giving up on trying to get pregnant again,you need to think again of how you might think in a few years or 5 when getting pregnant might be very hard,,
might be third time lucky for you,,Good luck in whatever you deceide,,

squoog

I have had a similar experience, I lost one at 23 weeks, 1 at 12 weeks and went on to have 4 early miscarriages. I was eventually sent for tests at St Marys in London at the recurrent miscarriage clinic for a condition called Anti Phospholipid syndrome(a condition that causes tiny clots in the placenta, therefore causing baby to die in utero.). My results were borderline but they felt I should be treated if pregnant again. process took about 4 months and when I got the diagnosis I was already pregnant so started treatment. It involved taking junior aspirin daily and injecting myself with heparin. My pregnancy was successful and my twins are now nearly 5 yrs old!
I also have 2 older boys. I don't think you are mad to want more, but be aware of what it all does to you and your body. No one could have stopped me trying, the desire was too strong.
I would go to the Gp tomorrow and ask for testing at the nearest specialist centre. If it was me, I would take a daily aspirin if I was trying to conceive, just in case. I really hope things go well for you. Good luck x

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A friend of mine had a miscarriage, then a successful pregnancy, then 2 more miscarraiges, the was advised to take aspirin as well and went onto have a baby girl shortly after. I can't remember what the aspirin was treating but it worked.

That isn't medical advice just sharing what happened.

jcr16

i don't see any reason why you can't try for another. but it all depends on how you will feel is you decided not to. could you 5 yrs down the line look back and say that was the right choice or will you say i wish we'd tried just once more. there is no easy answer.

sending hugs to you tho hun, hubby and i have an angel in the sky after i miscarried when i was 21. time is a great healer but still hard. i've since gone on to have 3 others with no prob's. so there is no reason to say you won't go on to carry fine next time. but i can understand what a hard choice it must be for you. big hugs hun x

sassyblue

Hi Jules, sorry to hear what you've been through, there's nothing to say the same thing would happen again next time and you certainly aren't being silly for wanting a third baby. I lost 3 babies before l got my much longed for little boy.

You could visit your doctors and get a good health review, check your bloods and stuff to see if there's any underlying problem though?

Good luck for the future and please don't shoot me down in flames but l didn't like the babies being called 'it'. God bless your angel babies.

jules68

Thank you all for your kind words.It initially looked like my little boy Jack had died of the umbilical cord wrapping round.We were then told that it might not have been the only cause so we are going ahead with a post mortem.The doctor said that he felt his ears were a little low which might indicate something.As the first miscarriage was only 7 weeks, no one will know what caused that one.

I feel guilty thinking about trying again when we have not even buried our little angel, but I cant help it.

digitalphase

Oh bless you hun, I really feel for you

I have suffered a MMC too at 8 weeks and that was awful enough, but thankfully now pregnant again. Terrified of something going wrong though.

Only you know what is best for you, but give your body time to heal and grieve for your little one. I am so sorry, I cannot imagine the pain of it.