Miscarriage support

chucknorris69

I have been a long time lurker and felt compelled to register when I found this thread; which I have read from beginning to end and felt the need to tell my story. I found out I was pregnant (my first) at the end of July this year and found out at the end of September when I went for my 12 week scan that the baby had stopped growing at eight weeks and that I had had a missed miscarriage. I had realised that something was wrong as had started bleeding and had stopped feeling pregnant a few days beforehand. Despite knowing something wasnt right I was still shocked to discover the news at the scan as it confirmed my worst fears. I opted to take the natural approach especially as I had already started to bleed, my body had finally caught up with the fact that the baby wasnt alive anymore.

My emotions are all over the place and am due to go back to work tomorrow which I am not looking forward to. I just wanted to say thanks to all those who have posted as it is helping me to come to terms with what has happened. x

gratefulforhelp_2

Horrible, isn't it, chucknorris? Don't rush back to work unless you think it will help.

chucknorris69

Thanks for replying gratefulforhelp, I feel that I need to go back to work as need to try and get some normality back if that is possible. I know if I stayed at home I would just mope around and think about things which I think will be worse. I am just hoping that I can get through the day without crying! It is horrible and just hope it gets easier in time.

gratefulforhelp_2

If people at work know, then tell them not to be nice to you! Its people being nice and sympathetic that always sets me off!

Hope it goes ok.

chucknorris69

Thank you, that is great advice. All it takes is a smile at present and I am in tears! I shall tell the people who know straight away when I get to work in the morning and then fingers crossed can keep my head down and get the day over with. thanks again.

mumOf2wonderfulkids

chucknorris69 wrote: »

I have been a long time lurker and felt compelled to register when I found this thread; which I have read from beginning to end and felt the need to tell my story. I found out I was pregnant (my first) at the end of July this year and found out at the end of September when I went for my 12 week scan that the baby had stopped growing at eight weeks and that I had had a missed miscarriage. I had realised that something was wrong as had started bleeding and had stopped feeling pregnant a few days beforehand. Despite knowing something wasnt right I was still shocked to discover the news at the scan as it confirmed my worst fears. I opted to take the natural approach especially as I had already started to bleed, my body had finally caught up with the fact that the baby wasnt alive anymore.

**hugs** my first miscarriage was a missed one, back then they didnt do 12 week scans - my bubs died at 8 weeks but i carried until 16 weeks until my body started recognising it.


i cant say anything that will make it better - the tears do eventually stop but the memory never fades. my little bubs would have been 11 this september :A

thinking of you xx

chucknorris69

Thank you for sharing your story with me, it is just so helpful to be able to talk to people who understand and also to know that there are many happy endings out there x

Catw0man

Hi all,

I've just come across this thread, and although I haven't had time to read right through yet, I thought I would share my story with you all.

We started trying for a baby in January last year, and I fell pretty quick getting my bfp in March, we were elated, but I had a little spotting early on - no-one was overly concerned but they sent me for an early scan at 10 weeks, and the midwife was lovely but gave me the news I was dreading - there was no heartbeat, the baby had stopped growing at about 6 weeks. I opted for a d&c to get it over with as quickly as possible. I took 2 days compassionate leave and then 2 more days sick when I went in to hospital, then went back to work. I did start to tell people, because they were asking questions - everyone was lovely and supportive.

We were told we could start trying right away if we wanted - I had one af before we started trying again, and got a bfp right away again. A little apprehensive but happy all the same, went for an early scan at 8 weeks, and got the same news - no heartbeat, baby stopped growing at 6 weeks. Went back in for another d&c, took 2 weeks off work as I was having a rough time at work too at this time. I really started speaking about it to people then - I feel that not enough people speak about it - so many people have been through it, though when it happens to you it is such a lonely time.

I fell pregnant once more very quickly, and this time I didn't let myself build my hopes up. It was almost as if I knew it was happening again. Once more I went for an early scan - this time it showed something different - there didn't appear to be a foetus. They suspected an ectopic. I had to go to hospital every 2 days to get my hcg levels checked, and eventually was admitted - it was very traumatic and the doctor on the gynae ward was not very understanding. I was told I would be having a laparoscopy and having the ectopic removed along with a tube - they had no confirmation of ectopic. To cut a long story short I ended up having another d&c following my weeks of monitoring my bloods.

I then started getting tests to see if there was a reason for the multiple mc's which showed nothing. At this point we stopped trying, January this year, I wasn't sure I could carry on. We were being careful, but on Easter Monday, I had another bfp - I was panicking. I had early scans at 6 weeks - heartbeat, 8 weeks - heartbeat and growth, 10 weeks - it looked like a baby.....

I am now 32 weeks pregnant! We never thought we would get here, but I would just say to anyone that has suffered an mc, not to give up hope. If anyone wants to speak to me about anything to do with this, feel free to pm me - I'm always happy to speak about it.

Sorry for the epic post!

Catw0man

The one thing I would say that I am worried about now is that this baby is due one week after the due date that I had for my first mc, this was also the week that I went through the 3rd mc/ectopic. And I am worried how I will cope at this time, as I know I will be emotional anyway.

portsmouthali

Hello Chuck, it is nervewracking returning to work but after the first day you will feel better. Everyone was so kind to me when I went back, and I did shed a couple of tears here & there but I felt glad to be back in the swing of things.

It really does get better in time I promise. You never forget but time heals, as always xxxx