Miscarriage support

portsmouthali

Hi Catw0man, thanks for posting. Your story is very very reassuring, just what I need xxxx

I think I am now going through my 3rd miscarriage Can't believe it's happened again.

It's really early days, around 5 weeks I think. Got my BFP a week ago, but started bleeding earlier today and am now having period-like pains. Exactly the same as last 2 times, just earlier. I can't face going through the horrid vaginal scans again, only to be told there's nothing there.

Only silver lining is OH says it's made him realise how much he really does want another baby so we can definitely try again

jules68

I have just had a 2nd miscarriage.First one died at around 8 weeks, had a D&C.Second one got to 20 weeks and was told it had died.Had to go through with giving birth which was so traumatic.Am I being silly even wanyting to try again!!! I am nearly 42 and feel that I should just give up as I have 2 wonderfuls boys already but part of me wants another one with my partner but so scared I will miscarry again.

amandada

I don't have any useful advice to give you but I'm so sorry this has happened to you. Giving birth can't have been easy xxxxx

Savvy_Sue

Hugs. Your feelings are quite understandable, even if they don't seem to make sense to you atm.

Have you heard of the The Miscarriage Association?

sleepystar1975

So sorry this is happening to you. Did your hospital offer any councelling? If so, please consider taking it up. Also, consider the miscarriage association.

Did your hospital offer an explanation as to why this little one died at 20 weeks? When you feel emotionally strong enough, please ask, as it may put your mind at rest. If it was something like a cord accident, then sadly it could happen to anyone, and nothing medical or physical could have been done to prevent it. You do need to find out what happened though, as you will never feel the sense of "closure" otherwise.

I went through 14 miscarriages before finally being blessed with my little girl, so can understand the hurt and confusion.
If you want to talk to someone who's been through it, PM me and I'll give you my email.

One piece of advice I will give here and now though is don't make the mistake that I did, and alienate your partner. I rejected any comfort he offered me, even though he was feeling the loss too. If anything, he had a double loss, as he felt the loss of the miscarriage, and the loss of me where I was constantly shunning him. Just hold each other, a hug can say so much more than words sometime.

gratefulforhelp_2

God Bless you, you poor thing, how dreadful.

You will know, in time, if you want to try again and whatever you decide will be right.

gratefulforhelp_2

portsmouth hugs.

Neeny82

I'm so very very sorry for your loss.

Only you can answer your question though. Things will be very raw right now so perhaps hold off making a decision for a couple of months and concentrate on grieving your terrible loss and having some 'you' time.

I have suffered 2 missed miscarriages this year and have found it very traumatic but for me personally it made me want to fight for a baby even more. I am currently pregnant again and so far so good but i'm terrified every day that I may lose this one too.

I again want to send lots of love and healing hugs to you. Life can be so damn cruel sometimes x x x x x x

Shelley3774

Hugs to everyone on here it's such a traumatic thing to go through.

My baby would have been due tomorrow and I am a little bit tearful. The strangest thing is since last night I have been having awful stomach pains which resemble labour pains. I have been so ill I had to go back to bed earlier!!! It must be psychological !

portsmouthali

So so sorry Jules, must have been so traumatic.

As others have said, only you can decide what is best for you and your family. There is no right or wrong, go with your instinct. Thinking of you xxx