Miscarriage support

portsmouthali

Just did a really stupid thing, and went to look at the pregnancy thread to check out who has a baby due around now, and whether they've had them yet or not.

Mine would have been due 6/9/10. Feeling so dreadfully sad, and got no-one to speak to - if I get upset about it in front of OH, he just says I'm trying to use emotional blackmail to get him to agree to another baby.

I'll be OK once I get through the next week.

Metranil_Vavin

Big hugs Ali xxx

My mc'd baby was due around now too. It's still dreadfully sad.

X

msb5262

portsmouthali wrote: »

Just did a really stupid thing, and went to look at the pregnancy thread to check out who has a baby due around now, and whether they've had them yet or not.

Mine would have been due 6/9/10. Feeling so dreadfully sad, and got no-one to speak to - if I get upset about it in front of OH, he just says I'm trying to use emotional blackmail to get him to agree to another baby.

So sorry, Ali - it's just an incredibly sad time.
I don't think it was a really stupid thing to do; you're feeling the need to acknowledge what happened. It is dreadfully sad that you lost your baby and if you weren't feeling that particularly at the moment, it would be very odd. It would also mean that you'd have to go through all those feelings at another time, because they don't just go away.

Have you thought about doing something to mark the date? It might be just playing a special piece of music by yourself, or lighting a candle, in church if that's your sort of thing, or making a donation to a charity which is important to you. Or just spending a few minutes alone, allowing yourself to grieve.

You might want to do absolutely nothing, just to keep these thoughts and feelings in your heart for a week or two - but please remember that you're not alone. Everyone else who has miscarried will understand what you're going through, and you will certainly be in my thoughts over the next week or two.

Best wishes

MsB x

VK-2008

i had a m/c last sept, at approx 8 weeks our baby would of been and gone and i should be holding it in my arms. i hurt quite a lot of time and cry. my dh is supporrtive as we are still trying to concrieve

i am hoping and praying that a year later we may fall pg

its a horrible thing and my doc was not supportive at all when it happened

we took home pg test and got positive, went to doc who told us too come back in a few weeks as it was a faint bfp! we went too docs at 6 weeks when we went back to go back at 8 weeks i bled like crazy and the doc just went well ur obviously not pg

i was like great thanks for support

Amara

portsmouthali wrote: »

(((((hugs))))) Amara. I'm also trying to focus on other things, but it's hard. There's a lady I work with who is about 6 months pregnant, who is constantly moaning about how fat she feels, how uncomfortable she is. Drives me up the wall! :mad: I just feel like shouting "Do you know how flaming lucky you are?!!" I wish the pain would end.

What type of business do you have?

Thanks A cleaning business. I'm getting better, slowly, but OK. I keep on advertising.

Metranil_Vavin

My MC'd baby would have been due today.

I'm so thankful for the baby I have growing inside me now, but am still so sad for the lost one and will never forget them x :A

hitchins

Portsmouthali and Amara - I tried for over a year with my DD, obsessing with ovulating kits etc, after 10 months or so I just thought "whatever" and didn't bother, fell pregnant, unfortunately M/C at 5 weeks and then fell on with DD straight after.

This time I was the same, again been trying for nearly a year, charting etc....started not to bother and here I am 14 weeks pregnant and I'm 35 in November, so don't let age be an issue.

So the moral of my story is, I do think you can try too hard, and these things can happen when you least expect. Good luck with the new venture Amara, and I wish you both and everyone else the very best of luck.

((hugs)) :A

QQuaver

Metranil_Vavin wrote: »

My MC'd baby would have been due today.

I'm so thankful for the baby I have growing inside me now, but am still so sad for the lost one and will never forget them x :A

(((Hugs))).

Metranil_Vavin

I'm 37 so I agree with hitchins, age isn't an issue.

I'm still pertrified that something will go wrong with this pregnancy too, even though I am 5 and a half months now.

I haven't felt any movements as such yet (that I've recognised anyway), and despite having seen 2 scans and heard his heartbeat on several occasions, I still worry.

I dont think it ever stops, especially for those of us who have been through the heartbreak of a miscarriage.

I had my 5 mins of tears earlier, now I want to get home and raise a toast with OH to our boy

SusanC_2

Hi, I was just wondering if anyone else was really tired after having a miscarriage? I've had plenty of rest and have hardly been doing anything but even this morning when I've had a good night's sleep I still feel exhausted.