Miscarriage support

Metranil_Vavin

Hugs Caroline. I think your friends sound pretty insensitive given what you have been through.

If it were me and someone was pestering me to go to a pregnancy announcement party after I'd already declined, I'd be inclined to tell them where to go.

Unless you've been through a miscarriage yourself, you have no idea how emotionally painful it is.

When I had mone I just made a point of avoiding people who were less than sensitive about it.

IWantToBeFree_2

Woke up this morning and the physical pain has subsided and the bleeding has gone back to just like period blood. The doc said last night when they examined me on the ward that my cervix was closed and he thinks I've passed everything. It's been an awful and hopefully one i won't have to repeat,

Going to have a bit of R&R and see how we then feel about trying again. Lucky I have age on my side and I'm sure everything will come good in the end

carolineb23

IWTBF - I'm so sorry, hopefully you have lots of support around you.
Take care
x

IWantToBeFree_2

Hi all

Thought I would give you an update on my condition seen as the woman in the bed opposit is snoring that loud that sleep is not an option!!

I was led to believe that I was all set to come home this morning (well yest morning now) but they didn't make ms aware that they wanted to scan me in the afternoon. The scan was at 3:40 and leading upto this my pain had started again and the bleeding a little heavier.

The scan showed that I have passed the sac but there were still some tissue etc left in the womb so I was sent back to the ward. The doctor came to see me and said I could go home and let everything pass or he could start on the medical management and have the tablets inserted to quicken the process. I chose that option as I just wanted it all over and done with.

I had the tablets inserted at 4:30 and by 5 I was in excruciating pain. I had 3 different types of painkillers, non if which even slightly helped, and was in flood of tears as the cramps took hold. After the nurses found me in the toilets a complete wreck, they decided enough was enough and gave me morphine. I was struggling to pass blood never mind clots, and whilst the morphine took the edge off the pain, less than an hour down the line I was in agony again.

They were going to give me more morphine, but I had been sick, had cold sweats and looked like a ghost and my observations were shocking, my heart rate was double what it should be so they called a doctor again.

They don't normally examine until 6 hours have passed but the doc took my bloods and put a canular in for easy access if I needed fluids. An internal examination revealed that the clots and tissue were blocked hence the pain and the doctor removed these and confirmed my cervix was open once again.

I was all padded up with a huge nappy type pad and sexy pants, and sent back to bed with another shot of morphine feeling high as a kite!!! The pain subsided and I had a top up of painkillers (paracetamol and codine) prior to going to sleep.

Now wide awake due to the bloody snoring big in no pain, just feel a little drained which is to be expected.

They are going to examine me in the morning and hopefully everything will have passed, as if not, it is likely that surgery will be the only option and I haven't gone through all of this to end up in theatre anyway.

I wish I had been given more information by the hospital (a different one to where I am now) when I was told the baby was no longer there. As I mentioned no one even indicated how bad the pain would be etc.

Hopefully by posting mh experience, I can at least give an insight into what can happen a d help people make a decision on miscarriage management.

portsmouthali

IWTBF, thanks so much for posting. Hope everything goes well for you today xx

Caroline, I reckon everyone on this thread has felt the same as you, so you're not alone. My first due date was in May, and a lady at work had a baby around that time. She came into work last week with her baby, and I'm afraid I had to avoid her as I knew I would cry I work in a large office with loads of women in their 20s/30s so there is always somebody who is pregnant. It does get easier with time xxxxx

babyboysmommy

It's hard. My cousin & I had our due dates 2 days apart. I am very very happy for her as she too has experienced miscarriage in the past but it's going to be really hard, a very visual & constant reminder for life as to what I've lost. I had the ERPC on Monday. Was fine until yesterday afternoon & now I'm in pain. Think I'm going to have to see my GP. Last time I developed an infection afterwards, worried the same might be happening this time.

Thinking of everyone xx

babyboysmommy

Saw my GP this morning & I have got an infection. Now on penicillin, feel rotten & just want the physical side of this over with as it will help with the emotional healing. So fed up

Metranil_Vavin

IWTBF - so sorry you have had such a rough time of it . I hope you are feeling a bit better today and make a speedy recovery.

It just reminds me again what a horrible business this all is

Fortunately (if you can call it that) when I had my mc, everything just passed naturally out of me. It was like a very heavy 2 week period, with only one evening that I can remember of painful cramping where I couldnt get up from the sofa. When I went back for my check up, everything had gone so I didnt need the ERPC, although if I had it obviously would have been over quicker and I wouldnt have had to pass clots and the sac in the toilet..awful

BBM - hope your infection clears up quickly.

Ali - How are you doing hon? x

portsmouthali

Hey MV, I'm good thanks. OH is still wavering over the idea of another baby, but our son is DESPERATE for a brother or sister and if anyone can talk him round, it's him. I reckon by the end of the year I'll be back on the ttc thread x

BBM, hope the penicillin is kicking in and you're feeling a bit better xx

MERFE

ali My OH needed convincing to keep trying as well, especially since we have two healthy children. We had actually decided not to try anymore when it happened - isn't that just typical. I wish you all the best if you do try again xx

IWTBF I hope you are all over the worst of it now. I too agree that the hospital told me I could experience some pain, like really bad period pain and that didn't come close to the pain I had with my first miscarriage it was awful, luckily I did manage to pass it all naturally at home though. The second and third mc were a breeze in comparison pain wise, unfortunatley the second one was an emotional rollercoaster.