Miscarriage support

portsmouthali

BBM so sorry xx We're here if/when you need us. Please take care of yourself xxxxx

msb5262

I'm so sorry - everyone here ^^^ has said it all.
Thinking of you.
MsB x

marywooyeah

BBM I am sorry to hear about your loss xxx

babyboysmommy

Thank you. I'm struggling, it's hard enough going through this once, but 3 times now & it just gets even harder. So tired, will be glad to get the surgery over with.

Lauralou

BBM i am so sorry, everyone has said it all.

I have also had three miscarriages and it really is the most awful thing to go through, i am here or send me a PM if you ever want to talk. I am sending you the biggest hug ever.

gratefulforhelp_2

bbm so sorry for your loss.

piggers said she had had 7 miscarriages I think, I can't imagine more than one, frankly.

Please rest if you can and take it easy. Hugs.

Amara

BBM, I'm so sorry for your loss. I've been waiting for your post, how sad... Big hugs for you.

Neeny82

Hi there,

Firstly I would like to say how very sorry I am to hear of your losses - hugs to you all.

I got married last August and we decided on honeymoon that we would try for our first baby. I came of the pill, had one period and then found out we were expecting! As you can imagine we were on cloud nine!! I had many pregnancy symptoms (none too extreme) and was having what I felt was a normal pregnancy up until our first scan on 30th Dec 2009. I was 12+4. They said baby only measured 6 weeks - obviously I knew this couldn't be the case and was heartbroken - because the embryo measured less than 6mm (I think) they said it was procedure to wait a week and then get rescanned to see if there was any change. There wasn't and we were broken. I had an ERPC operation two days after on the 8th Jan (14 weeks). It was such a horrible hard time for us and I was completely obsessed with getting pregnant again. After the op I waited 37 days to get my period and we said we'd try again.

At the end of that month I got a positive pregnancy test - on mothers day no less. I felt like it was a gift from my angel and was a lot more excited than I thought I would be given my recent experience.

I got to 8 weeks and we getting increasingly anxious about how the pregnancy was progressing. I felt that I would not be able to wait until 12 weeks to find out if all was well so we booked a private scan at 8 weeks (10th April 2010).

Bad news AGAIN!! They said that I was measuring 6 weeks again - I knew that was not possible as it meant that I would have not even have been pregnant when I got (many) positive pregnancy tests. Again I had to wait a week then go to the EPU for a rescan. They confirmed it and booked me in for another ERPC on 20th April.

This time I was furious!!!! Furious that my body was failing my babies - that it was even stupid enough not to have realised that my babies had died weeks earlier and i was still getting symptoms, furious at other people's stupid (albeit well meaning) statements which did not help, furious that me and my husband wanted a baby so much and there are so many children born into this world who are not wanted or loved.

I could not speak to anyone (apart from hubby) for weeks. I was broken. Hubby was and is very supportive. The first time killed him as he never ever imagined anything could go wrong - he'd never heard of a missed miscarriage before, the second time he was obviously very sad but not with the same sense of shock as the first time as we knew then that scans are not always happy.

I waited 50 days after the op to get AF - I then decided I would wait another cycle to see what had happened to my periods and got my next after 31 days.

And now i'm here! In a much better frame of mind. We are trying but not putting pressure on ourselves.

I refuse at this point to think there is something 'wrong' with us and instead choose to beleive that we were just incredibly unlucky and the next baby will be a healthy kicking one that we will get to hold in our arms. If we are unfortunate enough to suffer another loss then I pray that it is something that they can fix. we'll be fab parents - probably better ones than we would have been before because it will be all the more precious to us now. I certainly will never take for granted to small things.

Anyway......thank you for reading.......and wish me luck!

Neen xx

Amara

Neeny, big hugs for you. It's so hard. Don't give up a hope and try again. It's great you believe you'll be a mum to healthy baby soon. Because you will

Neeny82

Thank you hun x x x