Miscarriage support

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babyboysmommy wrote: »

I had my scan this morning & I have my little miracle! I am officially pregnant, my records state it is a viable singleton pregnancy with fetal heartbeat present. I got to see it beating away!!!

Lord bless this little baby and keep him/her healthy and growing.

I'm blubbing like a girl (ooh I am a girl!)

butterflylady131 wrote: »

Me and my husband have been trying to conceive for 4 and a half years, without success, until we found out on Saturday I am 6 weeks pregnant. I started to spot bleed on Monday, and have been doing so on and off since then, no cramping, just backache.
The docs have told me that I have to wait 2 weeks to get an early scan to see if there is any hearbeat, but there is a very large liklihood that the bleeding was the early signs of miscarriage. I can't describe the way I'm feeling. Just want this to be over, and everything to go back to normal.:(

Bled in pregnancy with DD1 and DD2, they are healthy and well. Fingers crossed.

babyboysmommy

gratefulforhelp wrote: »

Lord bless this little baby and keep him/her healthy and growing.

I'm blubbing like a girl (ooh I am a girl!)

Bled in pregnancy with DD1 and DD2, they are healthy and well. Fingers crossed.

Thank you, I feel very touched by your prayer I keep praying for peace as I try very hard not to worry & stress, easier said than done.

babyboysmommy

butterflylady131 wrote: »

Me and my husband have been trying to conceive for 4 and a half years, without success, until we found out on Saturday I am 6 weeks pregnant. I started to spot bleed on Monday, and have been doing so on and off since then, no cramping, just backache.
The docs have told me that I have to wait 2 weeks to get an early scan to see if there is any hearbeat, but there is a very large liklihood that the bleeding was the early signs of miscarriage. I can't describe the way I'm feeling. Just want this to be over, and everything to go back to normal.:(

How are you doing today? Just wanted you to know you are still in my thoughts & prayers.

butterflylady131

Hi,
I just wanted to thank you all for your kind words, and thoughts. I am still spotting on and off, boobs sore, feel nauseous (sp?) when my stomach is empty, and sleeping a lot. All the signs for being pregnant are there, but they were last time, and I still lost it!
I never had stomach cramps, just backache, which is what I have now. I lost it at 6 weeks, but it was only discovered when I went for my scan at 10 weeks, and then I had to go into hospital overnight to have it "evacuated".

Can't help but think that the same has occurred again. Trying to stay positive, but it's difficult when I'm at home all day, after being signed off. And I also worry that other people will think I'm being too sensitive, and that the situation isn't as bad as I'm making out.:(

babyboysmommy

butterflylady131 wrote: »

Hi,
I just wanted to thank you all for your kind words, and thoughts. I am still spotting on and off, boobs sore, feel nauseous (sp?) when my stomach is empty, and sleeping a lot. All the signs for being pregnant are there, but they were last time, and I still lost it!
I never had stomach cramps, just backache, which is what I have now. I lost it at 6 weeks, but it was only discovered when I went for my scan at 10 weeks, and then I had to go into hospital overnight to have it "evacuated".

Can't help but think that the same has occurred again. Trying to stay positive, but it's difficult when I'm at home all day, after being signed off. And I also worry that other people will think I'm being too sensitive, and that the situation isn't as bad as I'm making out.:(

I can so relate to that. I have all the symptoms but it doesn't stop me worrying. One of the many heart aches of miscarriage, especially missed miscarriage is that it makes future pregnancies that much more stressful. Every so often I poke my breasts just to make sure they really are still sore, I wonder if the exhaustion is because of the baby or other stressful events going on around me, I wonder if the nausea is just because of the heat, I worry that the baby will suffer because of the stress I'm under & so it goes on. I very much doubt that I am alone in my fears. This is why this thread is so wonderful, we get to talk & share about those things that normally go unsaid.

You are not being over sensitive, you are worried about your baby & have real fears based on past experiences. Please don't be hard on yourself but try to hold on to the hope that your little one is just fine & that in time it will be giving you something else to worry about like lack of sleep

summerday

Hello,
Hope no-one minds me posting on here. I went for my 1st scan today, at 11+5. Sadly, there was just an empty sac. They think the baby was lost at 7-8 weeks and was re-absorbed into my body. It was a bit of a shock, as I never had a spot of blood all the way through and no real cramps/pain, but I never completely belived there was a baby in there anyway, without having seen it, so I think that protected me a bit when I found out there really wasn't one.

I have to take the tablets on Weds to prepare for the embryonic sac to start to come out of Friday, when I'll stay in hopital.

I have accepted it, it's just a shock and disappointment when I thought I was almost 12 weeks with no bad symptoms, so almost 'safe'. But hey ho, what's meant to be and all that.

Please can I ask others, how long did you take to get pg again after a mc?

babyboysmommy

So sorry to hear your news, I've had a missed miscarriage in the past, difficult times. They will advise you at the hospital about when it's OK to try again. I was told to wait a few months. I ended up having DS just a few days after the first anniversary of my miscarriage. One thing that took me by surprise was just how much I didn't want my son to be born on the first anniversary so it proved to be a bit stressful at the time.

jimbms

saraht: sorry to hear that, first of all welcome to this thread and please feel free to come on whenever you need it, lots will help, same goes to your partner too, many men come on here now for a bit of support, you say hey ho and all that but dont worry a lot here know how you feel, don't give up just give it time and good luck.

summerday

Thanks all of you. You're so kind, as were all the staff at the hospital today, they were completely brilliant and understanding,even the men. If anything that made me more emotional. Where are the brusque old battleaxe nurses when you need them?!

Has anyone else had this D&C where you take pills 2 days before going into hopital to bring the remains of pregnancy out? If so, please can you tell me how you find it? How long did you bleed for, did they make you feel sick, or any other side effects?

That's nice what you say about partners being welcome too, jimbms. My husband is upset, I'm trying to be strong for him as he has so much on at work and it's a bit uncertain about his job, so I don't want him to worry about me as well. This baby was very much planned for and wanted, so it's a shock and a disappointment, esp as I'd had no signs anything was wrong.

jimbms

saraht wrote: »

That's nice what you say about partners being welcome too, jimbms. My husband is upset, I'm trying to be strong for him as he has so much on at work and it's a bit uncertain about his job, so I don't want him to worry about me as well. This baby was very much planned for and wanted, so it's a shock and a disappointment, esp as I'd had no signs anything was wrong.

Please both of you take time to sit and talk and often, I cannot over state how isolated he will fell now, all he will see is everyone round you and nobody asking him, go give him a hug when he gets home.