Miscarriage support

gratefulforhelp_2

Sarah hugs babe. Same happened to us at Easter.

Getting pregnant again can vary, some get pg straight away, some can't face thinking about it, some take a while for their body to go back to normal.

I looked into having the medical intervention, with drugs instead of the op. As it went, it happened naturally. It was quite horrible as there was an awful lot of tissue and blood. It may be less traumatic to be in hospital and be looked after.

I ended up there anyway towards the end of the process as I had lost so much blood and was faint.

Lots and lots of hugs for you and your DH. It will have affected him, but he may find it hard to talk about yet.

winnie72

Hi,

I had the treatment with tablets. The first lot I went home after and then went back to hospital and stayed in for the day and they gave me tablets that dissolve under the tongue. I was advised I could have any pain relief I wanted from paracetomol and entonox up to morphine. Your body is forced to contract to expel the pregnancy. I found I needed some pain relief and it wasn't pleasant passing the pregnancy as you have to do it in a a pan over the toilet. I did find it a bit distressing but I had no bleeding after that day and my body did recover quite quickly. I felt more in control than having surgery and was advised the body tends to recover quicker as it is just being forced to do what it will eventually do anyway.
My main advice would be to ask for pain releief as soon as the cramps start, it does make things a little easier.

FairyShazza

Sorry to hear your news saraht missed miscarriages are so hard as you spend so long going along believing everything is ok. I will never forget finding out at our 13 week scan that this ‘baby’ I had been treasuring hadn’t even been growing for half of that time – it was almost like our world came crashing down around us

I will echo what others have said try to make sure you and your OH talk, cuddle and look after each other. He will need you as much as you need him – the men seem to get forgotten about in the aftermath a bit and they are hurting too. Being there for each other was the thing that helped me and my husband get through it and in a way it brought us even closer.

As for getting pregnant afterwards unfortunately it differs from person to person. Some people are lucky and fall pregnant straight away others don’t find it so easy. We found out about our mmc at the end of November which resulted in a D & C operation. We then started trying again on 1st January this year but as yet have not had any success in getting pregnant again

summerday

Thanks for your replies. I'm not really looiking forward to Friday, but need to get it over with so I can move on with life. We want a child so very much, so as soon as have a normal period again think we will start trying.

It must be so hard with future pregnancies, I don't think I will relax and enjoy it at all.

Also, they told me that I have a heart-shaped uterus/womb, which can cause miscarriage in some women, as well as premature labour and breech birth. It seems quite rare, approx 3% of women have it, I don't suppose any of you have experienced it or know anyone who has?

portsmouthali

Hello Sarah, so sorry for your loss.

My ex's mum had a heart shaped uterus - she took a long time to conceive, but then had my ex, and had a normal pregnancy & delivery. She only had the one, but I think that was her choice as she'd had such a lot of stress getting pregnant.

As for getting pregnant again, there is a theory that you're more fertile straight after a miscarriage. I lost a baby in October '09 and was pregnant again in December. Sadly I miscarried again, and we've made a concious decision not to try again for the moment, but it was a great comfort to know that I CAN get pregnant I hope it happens again for you soon xxxx I am fearful of what another pregnancy may bring but I hope it happens for me too, and everyone else who wants this so desperately

delain

Apparently I have a heart shaped uterus. I have had two normal pregnancies (one with twins) and one mc. All my children were born in the usual way, so it needn't be the end of things for you!

I am currently 30 weeks wih baby number 4.

babyboysmommy

My baby has died. I didn't get my miracle. I'm booked in for surgery on Monday. Devastated doesn't even come close...

jimbms

babyboysmommy wrote: »

My baby has died. I didn't get my miracle. I'm booked in for surgery on Monday. Devastated doesn't even come close...

My heart goes out to you, everytime I see a new post has appeared here I dread coming in to see what it is, if it's any help a few tears are now shed here for you. Wont say any more xxx

ClareEmily

babyboysmommy wrote: »

My baby has died. I didn't get my miracle. I'm booked in for surgery on Monday. Devastated doesn't even come close...

I am so sorry I have been waiting for you to post, how heartbreaking, don't know what to say but thinking of you xxx

Metranil_Vavin

BBM I am so sorry for your loss x