Miscarriage support

tinkwings

Me too MV huge downer today my house is full of flowers I know people mean well but it makes me sad

Metranil_Vavin

yep...would much prefer that the flowers my work sent me were 'congratulations' rather than 'we're sorry'

portsmouthali

I feel so sorry for all of you. And myself of course MV, the day after my first miscarriage was the worst day ever, even worse than the actual day I found out. I remember waking up, thinking that yesterday I'd been pregnant and now I wasn't, and bursting into tears. So I was thinking of you today ((hugs))

I was doing OK today until I noticed this evening on facebook a friend of my OH's whose wife is pregnant and due in May (same time as I would have been if I'd not mc'd in Oct) and it's put me on a massive downer (we should start a club!). My OH says I should probably stay off of facebook for a bit, and I think he's right. My mood swings are driving me mad! I just want to feel normal again. As much as we all know what has happened to us is for the best, it doesn't take away this unbelievable sadness

Metranil_Vavin

woke up devestated again.

just feel like returning to work/life before my preg is going to be really hard..and i dont want to IFYSWIM.

Everything covered in snow again this morning...how random is that.

The day i got my BFP and phoned to tell my mum (Dec 21st), it started to snow..it was magical.

coco1980

Hi I dont't know if this is an option or would help but after my mc, I went and left the country:o my house was full of flowers and cards and baby stuff and I just felt I had to get away from it all on my own for a few days, it did help being able to cry when I wanted without everyone else getting upset, everyone else was on eggshells round me and I felt worse putting them in that position.

QQuaver

I went away 2 weeks later too, but that was planned;)

ladylegs

At first, I cried and rationalised my miscarriage as just an act of nature.
I was handling it well, maybe too well. OH seems to be getting on with life again and says that "next time" it'll be different and I know he is being my rock but I silently scream that I wanted THIS baby at this time. I miss being pg and a combination of heavy painful af and reading a glut of BFPs recently makes me ask, "Why me?"
Normally I'm excited to see the good news but I just feel sad and jealous at the moment and really let down by my body. :mad:
(I will be sorry for this rant in a day or two.)
I can't send any PMA to you lovely ladies as haven't got any but should be stocking up next week after this evil flow goes.

Just want you to know that you are not alone in feeling !!!!!! xx

MERFE

Coco I think that would be fantastic and if I could of after my first and second MC I would have, I really needed to get away. I spent days trawling holiday sites both times but at the end of the day we couldnt afford it and didnt have the time to take off work. Although the first time I nearly booked a holiday to disney on my credit card but the holiday would have been 6 months later, I just needed something I could look forward to. This time I dont feel as bad, probably because it was so early on and has happened so quickly, bled for only 3 days, less than a normal AF. It does keep hitting me but I try not to think of it most the time. Back to work tomorrow, I'm gonna warn my manager I might not be in the best of moods and will not be good company,normally busy on a sunday but if its not I might get sent home early here is hoping, I hate going to work (I love my job and my collegues just hate the time it takes up, I'd rather spend it enjoying the little ones I have been lucky to have).

tinkwings

Metranil_Vavin wrote: »

woke up devestated again.

just feel like returning to work/life before my preg is going to be really hard..and i dont want to IFYSWIM.

Everything covered in snow again this morning...how random is that.

The day i got my BFP and phoned to tell my mum (Dec 21st), it started to snow..it was magical.

I feel totally the same I keep touching my belly and crying x

Metranil_Vavin

We're giving the flat a good clean..it's been neglected a bit recently.

I threw myself in, but now I just cn't be bothered..who cares?

Got another massive bouquet of flowers this morning from a friend from work..bless her heart.

thing is, I don't really want anymore flowers. All my vases are full and it's beginning to resemble a funeral parlour in here.

I know I sound so ungrateful. I just wish they could have been for a happier reason.

Found my scans. OH hadn't hidden them that well and cried over those. In the second one the bean looks so tiny...like it was slipping away

i just don't know what to do with myself. I cry a lot. I'm still bleeding too although its darker browny blood now. As I started dusting the living room a clot appeared, the pad I was wearing needed changing straight away. It's so depressing.

My best friend and her OH are coming over tonight to eat takeaway and watch a DVD. I asked her not to bring me any flowers (lucky as she was going to). Not sure how much company I'll be or even if I want them to come over.

All I want is my baby and for OH and I to be happy again.