Miscarriage support

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big hugs mv ((((()))))

xxxxx

Metranil_Vavin

ladylegs wrote: »

At first, I cried and rationalised my miscarriage as just an act of nature.
I was handling it well, maybe too well. OH seems to be getting on with life again and says that "next time" it'll be different and I know he is being my rock but I silently scream that I wanted THIS baby at this time. I miss being pg and a combination of heavy painful af and reading a glut of BFPs recently makes me ask, "Why me?"
Normally I'm excited to see the good news but I just feel sad and jealous at the moment and really let down by my body. :mad:
(I will be sorry for this rant in a day or two.)
I can't send any PMA to you lovely ladies as haven't got any but should be stocking up next week after this evil flow goes.

Just want you to know that you are not alone in feeling !!!!!! xx

I know exactly how you feel LL. I'm staying away from the other threads for the time being too. I'm happy for everyone of course but it just feels like another slap when I'm feeling so low.

Take care X

portsmouthali

I'm staying away from other threads too, and I've hidden all my friends on facebook who are pregnant or have recently had babies. I would never admit that anywhere else in case people thought I was mental!

I got a huge bunch of flowers last time from work, as much as it was lovely I asked my boss not to send any this time, as nobody else knows and I didn't want my mum or my son asking why I'd had the flowers, and also every time I looked at them it would be a reminder. Thing is, I understand why people send them, and I've sent them myself to friends in the past who have miscarried so I felt a bit mean saying that to my boss she understood though.

Gonna have a glass of wine and an evening in front of the box. TV burp is up first!

Metranil_Vavin

I'm having a glass of wine this evening too. Strangely I feel a bit guilty for some reason.

OH bought us a takeaway and I had some sushi. Something I love but obviously havent been able to eat recently.

I'm still taking my Pregnacare vits though.

My best friend didn't make it in the end. Her OH was ill so she was going to come over here on the train/tube. It's a horrendous journey so I told her not to come..didnt want her spending an hour and half coming all the way here just to eat a takeaway with us and watch tv..bless her.

So we're just watching Only Fools and Horses and then Most Haunted which we love.

Feeling okish right now, but know I'll probably cry again before bedtime.

Mrs_Ryan

firstly, what a lovely thread this is - and *hugs* to everyone who has a felt a loss.

I had MC number 6 2 weeks ago - I've told very few people but last night was the first night I thought about it, I guess I've become used to it now - sounds awful but I've cried enough tears and felt enough heartbreak to last me a lifetime I'm only 29 and the doctors are saying my body cannot cope anymore - they've done all the tests and everything and know what the problem is but unfortunately they're never in time to catch it.

I really feel for you all - its horrible to have to go through and its nice we can support each other. xx

portsmouthali

How awful for you Mrs R so sorry for your losses. You must be very strong

I must admit even after 2 mc's there were things this time that I was oddly blase about, although I was just as upset (in a way a little bit more this time, as I'm not sure we'll try again) but in some ways I felt like "oh here we go again" That made me feel a bit guilty as this baby was wanted just as much.

Metranil_Vavin

Mrs R - sorry for your sad losses. So is there something rhat can be done to help your situation?

it's all so sad

mornings are def the worst time for me

Dreading OH going back to work tomorrow too..don't know what I'm going to do with myself.

mariagti

Just wanted to pop my head in and say hello.

Im sorry for your losses, my heart goes out to anyone having a m/c and anyone who has been through one.

Im 26 and found out that my baby had no heartbeat and i had had a missed miscarriage at my scan at 12 weeks. Its by far the hardest thing ive ever been through. I had to have a erpc at hosiptal, the first time i had ever been out to sleep so i was so scared.

At the time i said to my OH im not sure when i will ever be ready to TTC again as im so scared this would happen again. But 2 months on and im now ready to TTC again, many of my friends came to me and said they also had a m/c and tried again after and now have healthy children so not to give up.

(((Hugs))) to anyone going through this. xxx

retro_bluebell

Ive just read this entire thread and I have tears streaming....I have not been in your situation so I cannot begin to know what you ladies are feeling or have gone through but just wanted to say that I think you are all extremely brave and I hope you all get the bean you all deserve in the future.....sorry I dont want to be insensitive or sound patronising I just want to send you all hugs xx

rik1978

hello I haven't been in the forums for a few days so wasn't aware of this thread until now, thank you so much Portsmouthali for setting this up. I just wanted to say how sorry I am to all of you currently going through a hard time at the moment, sending you all big ((hugs)).
Some of you may know me from the TTC thread although I don't post very often as I never feel I have anything worth posting IYKWIM, but I lurk often and have been thinking of many of you that have been suffering recently.

I had two missed miscarriages last year, the first in April when I started spotting at 10 wk 6 days and a scan showed that there was no heartbeat and no development since 7/8 weeks. I opted for an ERPC as I just wanted it to be over with but bled quite heavily for a week of so afterwards and had a lot of pain. Like some of you may have I felt that I needed to pg again so we tried and I fell in June. Booked in with the MW at 8 weeks but she could tell I was very upset and stressed out as I thought things had gone wrong so she sent me to the EPU where a scan showed a heartbeat and dated me at 8 wks and 2 days, I was assured that everything looked normal but I couldn't feel happy - just protecting myself I suppose. I started to spot at 11 weeks and knew what was happening, the doc tried to reassure me but the scan showed I had lost at 9 weeks. I opted for natural mc as I thought it would easier to recover, waited 5 days and it all happened very suddenly but complications meant I collapsed form all the bllod loss and had to be rushed into hospital and kept in overnight on a drip to replace fluid and get my bp back up. that was back in August and was abolutely terrified of TTC again, we waited, had some tests done but feel ready to try again, so we have been.
that poem that was posted earlier was very moving and its true that OH's get unintentionally 'forgotten'. my hubby remained strong for me while I recovered and tried to get over the depression. the 'black cloud' that hung over me lifted at the end of October which I think is when my hubby finally let go of being strong and allowed himself to finally grieve. we had a hard few weeks but are both feeling a lot more positive now, to everyone struggling right now, I promise you it does get easier, just hang on in there. I found taking up some new hobbies helped me take my mind off of things and allowed me to stay in as I felt I didn't want to go out socialising. I made all my own xmas cards, cross stitched a fab gift for my sis and bil-to-be and taught myself how to knit, very relaxing hobbies and something I can do while watching TV.

anyway sorry for the long ramble but really felt the need to post

hugs to all xxxx