Miscarriage support

Metranil_Vavin

Sounds like a good job tinks. My job wouldn't be so bad if I didn't have such a long commute. 3 hours a day in total..its crazy!

I'm not going in this week, but am aiming to be back next week. I hate leaving my work undone, although I do have a blackberry and am trying to keep on top of things where necessary. I'm missing loads of meetings this week too...but I'm trying to just forget about that stuff as it's not important in the grand scheme of things.

I just want to move forward and get preg again..although I know I'll be terrified when it does happen.

portsmouthali

Hello all,

Been to see my GP today, he was absolutely lovely, so kind. I got a bit upset while I was there I think because I have only really spoken to OH about it, when I explain it all to anyone else it makes it seem much more "real" and as I'm explaining it I can't believe it's happened! Anyway, I was planning on going back to work this week, but it kind of proved that perhaps I'm not as ready as I thought. He's signed me off until next Tuesday, but has told me not to rush myself and said if I need longer then I can phone the surgery, leave a message for him and he'll do another note for me. He also said I was welcome to make an appointment if I needed to talk, and to pass on his condolences to my OH which I thought was nice.

I'm sitting here feeling really guilty as I know work is so busy at the moment, and my boss will be struggling, but I know this is daft. As you said MV, it doesn't really matter in the grand scheme of things! I don't like being off sick though, I always feel guilty. I'm still bleeding fairly heavily though, which would be quite vile at work. Got cramps back again today too, which is annoying :mad:

Tinks, how awful for your hubby that no-one made any reference to your mc at work. People do feel awkward, but just "I'm sorry" or something similar is all thats needed.

Hope your plumber has turned up MV xx

Metranil_Vavin

Hi Ali - I'm glad that your GP was kind to you, and you probably needed to get your emotions out to someone other than OH.

Sorry that you are still suffering bleeding and cramps..I hope the physical symptoms leave you soon so you can move forward again.

Don't even think about going back to work until you are good and ready, and don't feeling guilty. It's not as if we are sitting at home having a lovely time is it? I'd far rather be at work and still be pregnant than the other way around

I'm sure your boss understands hon.

I have to go back to EPU a week on Weds for them to scan me again and check to see if there is anything left. I'm hoping that I won't need any medical proceedures. My bleeding seems to have stopped, so I guess the 2 weeks of bleeding I had were everything coming out, only I didn't know it at the time.

XXX

stef240377

Ali sorry to hear you are still going through it and hopefully you wont have to go through much more.

MV glad to hear your bleeding has stopped and good luck for your scan.

I have been and stocked up on OPK's and pg tests today. Am ready now to go through it all. Not happy to go straight back on clomid tho due to the increased chance of a mulitple birth so will see how the next 2 AF's go and plan from there.

Metranil_Vavin

Glad you have stocked up on bits and bobs Stef..a positive step forward! :T

We bought some OPK's yesterday too, so those are ready to crack open as soon as I am ready to go again.

At least our hot water appears to be working again

tinkwings

MV Yipee for hot water !!! :T

Stef Happy for you have your are making a step forward in the right direction sending you my love & best wishes for a BFP soon :A

I have been looking @ OV stuff today to & restocked up on PG tests. I guess things /Life has to start again one day.

DH & I did BD on Saturday as I had stopped bleeding on thursday he was under cover for the event I just wanted to get it over & done with if that makes any sense????:o:o

The Bleesing from this AM has stopped again I don't seem to have lost much blood at all I hope that means that all is ok?????

tinkwings

Ali I am so happy to read your GP sounds AMAZING X

valkirn

Hi, all i just wanted to post a poem i recieved when i lost my bean a couple of months ago now x

What Makes A Mother

I thought of you and closed my eyes
And prayed to God today
I asked "What makes a Mother?"
And I know I heard him say
A Mother has a baby
This we know is true
But, God, can you be a mother
When your baby's not with you?

Yes, you can he replied
With confidence in his voice
I give many women babies
When they leave it is not their choice
Some I send for a lifetime
And others for the day
And some I send to feel your womb
But there's no need to stay.

I just don't understand this God
I want my baby here

He took a breath
and cleared his throat
And then I saw a tear
I wish I could show you
What your child is doing today
If you could see your child smile
With other children and say
"We go to earth to learn our lessons
of love and life and fear
My mommy loved me so much
I got to come straight here
I feel so lucky to have a Mom who had so much love for me
I learned my lessons very quickly
My Mommy set me free.

I miss my Mommy oh so much
But I visit her each day
When she goes to sleep
On her pillow is where I lay
I stroke her hair and kiss her cheek
And whisper in her ear
Mommy don't be sad today
I'm your baby and I am here"

So you see my dear sweet one
Your children are okay
Your babies are here in My home
And this is where they'll stay
They'll wait for you with Me
Until your lessons are through
And on the day you come home
they'll be at the gates for you

So now you see
What makes a Mother
It's the feeling in your heart
It's the love you had so much of
Right from the very start
Though some on earth
May not realize
Until their time is done
Remember all the love you have
And know that you are
A Special Mom

Author Unknown

:A :A

Metranil_Vavin

V - that poem brought a tear to my eyes X

valkirn

MV - its the end of that poem that gets me everytime xx

Im glad this thread was started, i do go on another site but it has the due in forums on it and i cant help myself but go and have a nosy at how everyone else is getting on, and then i upset myself even more cos it suddenly hits me that i should have been at the stage theyre at too