Miscarriage support

sweaty_betty

PM - I'm thinking of you, days like this are so hard.

keepergirl

hi everyone ive not posted on this thread before but i really need to now, its my little baby boys birthday on monday, it still hurts like hell i lost him at 30 weeks, no heartbeat he just died inside me, its been years now but it still is a big deal to me I think about him still. my oh at the time was unsupportive to say the least he dropped me off at the hospital and that was about it, i had to carry my little boys coffin to his grave on my own a fortnight later when it was his funeral service, i am now married to a fantastic man who loves me and is my rock, we want a baby so much, i have had 2 chemical/early miscarriages.

lauradora

Good evening guys


How are we all doing?


I'm currently signed off sick, again. Just undergone surgery for 2nd ectopic, this is my fourth miscarriage....


So...I feel the need to come back and talk to you lovely lot xxxx

minimuffin12

Hey guys, I recently had a missed mc after going for 8week scan and baby had stopped developing about 5/6weeks. I had a erpc nearly 2weeks ago and I am finding it really difficult. Currently go through every motion possible, anger, sadness, feel lost etc. Just need somewhere to offload really and to stop myself from researching.

So sorry laura, it is so unfair that you have had 4mcs, have you been referred for tests? And keepersgirl, how awful for you, big hugs xx

Gelly123

So sorry to see this thread bumped because of need rather than just a catch up.

Big hugs to both lauradora and minimuffin - it's super hard but does get better, I can promise you that.

We went through every emotion possible but after the last one, it was more disbelief it could happen so often and so the tears didn't flow but my goodness, they did with the first two MC's.

Thankfully this thread hasn't been as active as it once was but it doesn't mean to say that we're not thinking of you when it's gets tough.

Which brings me on to keepergirl's thread - thinking of you specifically today and so sorry I didn't see your post before now. Time does help heal but you never ever forget those significant dates and what you went through.

Always here for you all.
Love Gelly
Xxx

minimuffin12

Thanks for the reply Gelly. Im so sorry that it has happened to you so much, I hope you get answers soon. I think im still in a state of shock tbh, one minute ill kind of forget about it then it all floods back. It is so cruel, and I don't really know how to deal with it but im trying.

Gelly123

minimuffin12 wrote: »

It is so cruel, and I don't really know how to deal with it but im trying.

Nobody gives you handbook do they - but that's probably because everybody deals with it in their own way so we are all different.

We dealt with the first two MC's by talking to each other, hugging, crying and generally being there for each other. It brought us even closer. After each one, we have been given absolutely no help or follow up from Watford General hospital. Following my GP's referral for tests, we've been to the Luton & Dunstable hospital to see a particular specialist and immediately, we were given information about a local support group who I've since been in touch with.

The quality of care throughout the NHS for miscarriage seems to vary dramatically but I can honestly recommend speaking to any local support groups or the miscarriage association.

http://www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk/support/

I realised that we had been trying to block out the losses and just focus on the future and whilst that's probably a good thing, it did make me realise how I'd not dealt with them particularly well. The counsellor reminded me that we are parents to 5 babies who we've lost in the last year, just that we never got to hold them.

Always happy to talk if you wish but there are definitely people out there who are much more experienced and know what they are doing. For me, it's just trial and error....

Big hugs
Gelly
x

lauradora

Hi guys how are we doing? Im really struggling physically to get over this one. Still experiencing pain, cravings, nausea and tiredness and thats getting me down. Back to work on Thursday. Looking forward to getting my head into something.

How's everyone else doing?:A

minimuffin12

Hey laura, sorry to hear you are in pain. I have just stopped bleeding after erpc but it had been very light. All the best with your return to work, I didnt take any time off really as I just wanted to keep busy which was prob not a good idea in hindsight. Sorry that you are still having symptoms, mine have disappeared (2weeks post erpc) altho still faintly testing +ve on hpts.

Gelly thanks for that link, they have some useful info. Im glad you are seeing a specialist and really hope they have answers for you. X

Miss_Imaginative

Digging up the thread in case anybody is in need of it.

I'm having a few bad days at the moment, I'm very up and down and the pregnancy hormones will not be helping in the slightest. Tomorrow will probably be the worst given that it will be a year since we lost our little boy at 19+6. It feels quite surreal to be honest, in some ways it feels a lifetime ago and in other ways it feels like no time at all has passed. Needless to say I'm going to be trying to keep myself rather busy the next few days!

Hope everyone else is doing as well as can be expected.

Mrs_I x