Miscarriage support

wendz86

Really sorry Pinkshoes. Is horrible you have to wait x

runawaybride

hi i dont normally come over here now but the forum name caught my attention today i dont know why. anyway i just wanted to leave a message for all you ladies (and men) who are going through the worst hell imaginable at the minute.
after 7yrs with my now husband and 3 yrs of trying i got pregnant there arent words for how delighted we were. then at 5 weeks i misscarried 2 months later i found out i was pregnant again we were cautious but hopeful we got past 5 weeks and i started to feel better then at 8 weeks i misscarried again our world turned upside down and i thought i would never have another baby. the following month i was pregnant again i couldnt believe it it had took 3 yrs for the first pregnancy and yet it was true i panicked we got past 5 weeks then 8 weeks i never stopped worrying i had spotting throughout i had a high risk of downs and had to have a cvs which could of caused misscarriage. then 3 weeks before my due date i gave birth to our beautiful, healthy perfect baby girl. 6 months later i was shocked to find out i was again pregnant and again it was a horrendous pregnancy we decided against the test for down syndrome this time as it was just too stressful but then at the scan they thought our baby had a heart defect we had to have further scans etc at a specialist hospital but thankfully they showed that everything was fine and our gorgeous perfect baby boy was born just over a year after our daughter.
after all the years of worry, stress, heartache and tears we now have 2 perfect, cheeky, bouncy, gorgeous toddlers who run us ragged stress us out and panic us everytime they fall over or sneeze but who are our entire world.
so i just wanted to say dont give up hope, cry all the tears you have and then some more, talk to anyone who will listen, morn your loss, however early your misscarriage is you will still of planned your babys future (i named my lost babies but only i know that, it helps me) then pick yourself up and try again it can happen.
i hope my story has given someone some hope or comfort and if its upset anyone then im truely sorry. my thoughts are with you all today take care.

Gelly123

Pinkshoes - I'm so sorry to see you over here and had hoped you would have happier news. I've been through the same as you (2 MC's, first one was a missed MC) so totally understand how you are feeling right now.

Both times, we had to have scans and then repeat scans a week later - it's the longest week of your life and deep down, you know what the answer will be but still have to go through with it and be told those horrible words that you've definitely miscarried.

After the first MC and the second scan at EPU, I had the ERPC that night as things had ended about 2-3 weeks before so was running the risk of infection and needed to have them removed ASAP.

If you want to talk about anything at all, feel free to send me a PM if you wish - I'd be happy to talk things through with you. Thinking of you both at this very difficult time.

runawaybride - so lovely to hear your story and gives us all hope for the future.

Hugs to all
Gelly
x

pinkshoes

Thanks Gelly123. Can I ask what the ERPC was like? Did you bleed a lot afterwards?

I was also offered the two tablets, but that would involve two trips to hospital, and it's over an hours drive each way, then I didn't like the idea of waiting for 'it' to happen. I felt the ERPC was more straightforward.

The waiting is so horrible.

My inlaws kindly looked after DS today, but they are SO unreliable with timing. I'd planned a late afternoon of normality and a play date at a friends house, as they were supposed to be back at 3pm, but they're only just on their way back...! Grrrrr.

Tilly_dreams

Hi Pinkshoes, so sorry you have to post on this thread but I'm glad you've got somewhere with your EPU.

I just wanted to say I had a 'surgical evacuation of my uterus' under general anaesthetic after I had some ridiculously heavy bleeding after the birth of my sleeping baby. It was fine, I was ready to go half an hour after waking up and I just had light spotting for a couple of days afterwards then I was back to normal cycles. So please don't worry about that.

I hope you're feeling ok and remember to look after yourself x

Gelly123

Hi Pinkshoes,
The ERPC was ok actually and the whole thing seemed less emotional than the natural miscarriage and much more clinical but it all happened rather quickly after the second scan.

The nurses I saw were all nice enough although it didn't feel very personal and was a bit conveyor-belt style as sadly I wasn't the only person on the ward having the same op that evening.

I had to fast from the scan at 2pm for another 6 hours as I'd had lunch and wasn't expecting to have the op - went in for surgery at about 11.30pm and was back on the ward by 12.30am and discharged by 8.45am the following morning but still a bit dopey according to hubby!

Although I'm very familiar with hospitals because of my parents ill health, thankfully I've never been ill before and despite being a little scared, it was fine. Never had an operation or had anaesthetic before but it was ok and with pain killers afterwards, it was all manageable.

I seem to remember bleeding for about 2-3 weeks but it was heavy for about 7 days and it took 3-4 weeks before I got a negative pregnancy test.

There was no follow up appointment with anybody at the hospital or with my GP.

Hope this helps a little but if you've got any questions at all, I'm very happy to chat to you about them

Giving you a big hug :grouphug:

Love Gelly x

Caz3121

I am not a poster on this board but I read an article in a local paper and thought it would be good to share
http://www.edinburghnews.scotsman.com/news/health/six-miscarriages-and-15k-but-baby-dream-came-true-1-3548715

sweaty_betty

Hello all
Sorry to bring this thread to the surface again.

Found out today that my latest pregnancy isn't viable - empty gestational sac at 6w4, low hcg and progesterone. Going back for another hormone blood test in a couple of days, then (or in the meantime) I'll be waiting for the miscarriage to get started.

Almost exactly the same timing and circumstances as the miscarriage I had a few months ago.

I'm so fed up with this. At some point I'm going to have to say enough is enough. I'm not usually a quitter (especially with something so important - and time critical), but I don't know how many more loads of bad news in the ultrasound room I can take.

On top of it all I have a busy week at work ahead and don't want to cancel anything because: 1 - I don't want anyone to know as far as possible; and 2 - it might take a while to happen so don't want to cancel anything unnecessarily (would rather have time off when it's happening).

Sorry for the rant.

Gelly123

Oh sweaty, just logged on and saw your name against this thread- I'm so sorry Hun and know that nothing I can say or do will make it any better either.

I went through similar myself a couple of times this year and do understand how you are feeling, it's absolutely horrible being in limbo knowing there's nothing you can do about it.

I wanted to let you know I'm thinking about you and your other half and if there's anything I can do to help, please shout or send me a PM

Big hugs xxxx

msb5262

Betty I was also hoping that you weren't here for yourself - I'm so sorry. No wonder you are feeling awful. No words really but I'm keeping you in my thoughts. Look after yourself xxx