Miscarriage support

Miss_Imaginative

So sorry to hear of the latest losses.

Kira, I sadly don't know about HCG levels and such. Are the doctors looking into a possible cause, or going to give you more support next time round, so you might be able to ask about the HCG levels then?? Being all over the place is perfectly normal, as is the obsessing over what you can do next time, and is part of the process. I found keeping busy helped, doing things that you could see the final product, e.g. decorating the house, spring-clean, etc - it really helped not only pass the time, but give you time to process everything. As I said on the TTC board, take care of yourself, don't rush yourself for trying again - it takes time. It took me and my OH six months before we were properly ready to try again after losing our son.

devildolly, it's horrible to try and get your head around the fact that it's "one of those things" or "just bad luck", isn't it? It doesn't make it any easier to bear in the slightest. Are the doctors helping with trying to identify causes, given you have had two losses? I really hope you get some answers soon.

ttc39, *big big hugs to you* on your little one's due date being next week. I had similar; a former friend of mine had her baby boy barely dates after mine would have been due, and it really stung (understatement of the century) that she had her baby boy and I didn't. I really hope you feel better once this week has passed, and even if you don't, that is absolutely fine. You will be ready when you are ready and not before. Be kind to yourself. xx I haven't been pregnant since our loss, we are trying but haven't caught yet, but really I hate that we will never have the innocence or excitement that most people get. We will always be haunted by the "what ifs" and the constant fear of a repeat up until our little one is in our arms. And it's not fair.

sweaty betty, I really hope your scan is all clear tomorrow. I'm also really pleased you had an appointment with the recurrent miscarriage clinic and have an action plan in place for next time - it helps to put your mind at rest, just a little, doesn't it?

Big hugs to anyone who needs them, posters and lurkers alike.

Mrs_I x

Cookiee

Hi ladies. Firstly I am sorry we are all here x


I hope you don't mind me joining. I am currently going through my 5th mc this year. I would have been 6+5 yesterday but a sudden mc hit like a tonne of bricks and I went through 12 pads in 6 hours. Had to be taken to a&e due to amount of blood lost. I had lots of small clots and then 3 very large clots, which I can only assume was my baby. I know my mc was not as far as long as others on this board but it had been the longest I had been pregnant. Unlike my previous mc (classified as chemicals but I hate that term) this one is completely pain free. Apart from the amount of blood and 3 clots yesterday, I would not be able to tell I had a mc.


I stopped bleeding about 16 hours after I first started. Is this normal? With my previous mc they lasted at least 5 days and were agony. I have nothing on this. No back ache, pain, nothing. Infact I still feel really sick, my sense of smell is high and my boobs still hurt, but I am guessing this is due to my HCG levels. My doc wont do a hcg test and my epu has asked me to call them in 2 weeks with a negative test. If it is positive then I need to go in for a scan.


I feel detatched. Almost like I cant accept it at the moment. After a year of trying and 4 previous mc, this almost seemed to good to be true and it appears that it was.


I have had numerous tests for reoccurring mc but all have come back clear, so next step is referral to St Mary's in London. Has anyone been referred there?


Thank you x

lauradora

HI guys,


How we all doing?


I just sat and watched bloody what to expect when your expecting....what a stupid mistake :wall:

sweaty_betty

lauradora wrote: »

HI guys,


How we all doing?


I just sat and watched bloody what to expect when your expecting....what a stupid mistake :wall:

Hi Lauradora - I've watched Call the Midwife tonight, which is always a mistake (although at least it wasn't the one where the baby died a few weeks ago). Why do we do this???

Gelly123

Hi Laura & SB, hope you are both well?

I must admit, I can't watch Call The Midwife - it really doesn't interest me - not sure if it's because it's fictional but I do love a good OBEM - I must be nuts!

Have got our appt next week with the recurrent miscarriage clinic on the NHS. To be honest, I couldn't care less about it at the moment - my Dad is terminally ill and has taken a dip recently, had to put him into a nursing home last weekend so I really don't think BDing is on the cards at the moment.

Stay strong ladies - always here for you xxx

Part_Mouse

Sorry to dig up the thread,i hope everyones bearing up as ok as can be expected?

When does it get easier? its my due date tommorow meh :(:(

Gelly123

Part_Mouse wrote: »

Sorry to dig up the thread,i hope everyones bearing up as ok as can be expected?

When does it get easier? its my due date tommorow meh :(:(

Hi Part Mouse

I'm sure today is a tough enough day for you and your OH but I wanted you to know that you aren't alone and I'm thinking of you on this difficult day.

Big hugs to you both
Gelly
x

Miss_Imaginative

Part_Mouse wrote: »

Sorry to dig up the thread,i hope everyones bearing up as ok as can be expected?

When does it get easier? its my due date tommorow meh :(:(

PM, I just wanted you to know that I'm thinking of you and your OH today. Be kind to yourself, hon. xx

Mrs_I x

tea_lover

PM - thinking of you today. Take care xx.

Part_Mouse

Thanks ladies,just been to church to light a candle and sobbed my heart out