Miscarriage support

Toooldforthis

skintchick wrote: »

I think this is totally normal. I'm pregnant after five miscarriages, although I had my daughter after the first one, and this time I didn;t tell anyone except close family till the 20 week scan. And I'd have waited even longer if I hadn;t been showing by then.

Even now, at six months, i don;t feel very confident and would rather not talk to people about it.

I think you will know when you feel ready to tell people, and before that time just keep it to yourself. There''s no official time to tell people.

Skintchick thats fab news :-) ... I can't even bring myself to tell the OH. I've decided I'm just going to ignore it (not in a nasty way) and take care of myself if that makes sense. Only 5 weeks and have had 3 miscarriages before 7/8 weeks ( other one at 12+6) so shall let time take its course xx

Miss_Imaginative

Lara44 wrote: »

Glad the consultant didn't seem too worried Miss_I. I hope everything rights itself as he said.

Thank you for the optimism, Lara - things sadly did not right themselves and I have just today got out of a 10 day stint in hospital after being admitted with signs of sepsis on Mon 28th. After deteriorating further Monday night/Tuesday morning with a temperature of 42C and rising, I was rushed into emergency surgery on Tuesday morning where they removed yet more after-birth/placenta from my uterus.

We thought that was problem solved! Sadly not, as my temperature continued to spike throughout the week and I continued to be quite unwell and flummoxing a vast number of consultants. After further ultrasound scans and CT scans (which highlighted a queried fibroid, but again, didn't look right and many consultants unsure) I ended up back in emergency surgery again on Sunday night. After lots of guidance from a very talented ultrasound scanner yet more products were removed from very high in my uterus - thankfully this seems to have worked and I have stopped exhibiting signs of sepsis.

Thankfully now home; tired, emotional and wanting all of this to be over. Got many antibiotics to take for the next 10 days.

Thomas' funeral was postponed as a result of my going into hospital, so now the process begins of re-arranging that and preparing ourselves for that day. Probably the end of next week, but for now I need to sleep and try and physically recover a bit.

Toooldforthis and skintchick, such huge congratulations on your news. I hope you are both feeling a bit more confident now time has passed since your posts. Everything crossed for you both!

Mrs_I

Gelly123

Oh Miss I, I can't believe what a really tough time you've been through recently, I am truly thinking of you and hope you continue to recover well.

I hope the re-arranging of Thomas' funeral and the day itself goes as well as it can.

I went to the funeral of a friends 26 weeks gestation baby and it was so sad but I felt honoured to be asked to attend and we're much closer now than ever, she's a wonderful friend.

Thinking of you, please take good care of yourself and your OH, I'm sure this has brought you so close.

Massive hugs
Gelly
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Lara44

Oh gosh Miss_I, I am so sorry to hear that. You've really been through such a lot already and I am sure it was awful feeling so unwell and stressful being at hospital. I am very glad that you're on the road to recovery now. Sending you really huge hugs. I'm glad to hear you're home, and hope you have your partner and family around to take care of you.

I hope you can get things rescheduled for Thomas' funeral. The most important thing is to take care of yourself and pause anything else. Thinking of you.

ttc39

sorry to hear all youve been through Miss I.

I have 2 more lots of bloods to give on 2nd June and the consultant appointment has come through for the 20 June, just before we go on hols. so chuffed we have an appointment and just hope they can help me and hubbie with getting a baby to stick around xx

Miss-L

Miss_I: I really hope the worst is over for you now. I developed sepsis - although it was gone within a few days - so I know how it makes you feel. I hope you're getting good care from the hospital and your family.


There is a memorial baby loss service which I'm going to attend for my little girl Jemima on Thursday. I went to one for me first baby too, who I miscarriage at 12weeks. If you need any advice on what to expect then please just ask.

ttc39: Write a list of questions before your consultant appt. My consultant was very caring and hopefully just as keen as you and your husband for a successful pregnancy next time around!

Toooldforthis & skintchick: I really hope your pregnancies continue to progress well.

Good luck everyone

msb5262

Just dropped in to say hello and to send love and best wishes to everyone. I will be keeping both Thomas and Jemima, and of course their families in my thoughts xxx

Miss_Imaginative

Thank you all of you wonderful people for keeping Thomas, Hubby and I in your thoughts. Physically I'm slowly on the way up; feeling better in myself but I still get tired very quickly. Am signed off work for the physical side of things for 2 more weeks. We'll see how I am nearer the time in terms of emotion-wise whether I'll be ready to return to work.

Thomas' funeral is arranged for this coming Friday. Whilst I am dreading it and know it will be one of the worst days of my life, at the same time I want it to happen as it'll be a month on Wednesday since we lost him and Hubby and I feel in limbo emotions wise. I feel like we need it to happen in order for our grief to move forwards, asitwere. Does that make sense?

We also have our follow up appointment with our consultant booked for June 18th, where we will have the results of the post-mortem and hopefully some answers as to why this happened and whether it may happen again in future pregnancies. I'm starting to write questions down ready for that appointment.

Gelly, thank you so much for your kind words and support. Thomas' funeral is re-arranged and everything is in place - touch wood nothing happens to cause it to be postponed again! We contemplated inviting friends to Thomas' funeral, but decided against it (mainly due to physical distance) and have kept it to our parents and siblings - but I can understand that it has bought you so much closer to your friend as it is such a personal experience to share. Hubby and I were already pretty close, or so I thought, but you are quite right we are far closer now than I thought possible. How are you doing? I hope your midwife appointment goes okay on Wednesday. (I confess I have been lurking on the Less than 12 Week thread... it's a hard habit to break!).

Lara, thanks again. The hardest thing about being in hospital was feeling like we'd put our grief on hold whilst focusing on getting me physically well, so in some ways I felt like I'd gone back to square one emotionally once I was out of hospital. I don't feel quite as lost as I did now, so I think it was more of a re-adjusting once out of hospital thing. I'm just so very glad we've got such supportive family around Hubby and I, it makes things a bit easier to bear.

Thank you for your support, ttc39 - I'm glad you've got your consultant appointment through. I hope you're doing alright. x

Miss-L, I really hope the worst is over now too. It's been over a week since my surgery and I do feel so much better, so fingers crossed we're past the worst. The hospital have been absolutely superb, cannot fault their treatment in the slightest. Family have also been wonderful, despite the physical distance between us. I hope the memorial service for Jemima goes as well as it can do.

msb5262, thank you for keeping us all in your thoughts. x

Mrs_I

Frankieloo

Hello all

I hope you don't mind me posting here. I haven't had a chance to read through your stories yet but hoped I might be able to find someone who has gone through something similar.

Yesterday. At our 12 week scan we were told that our baby had abnormally high amounts of fluid around it ( they said hydrops) and a extremely high NT measurement. We have been told to go back on Monday for more scans and tests to try and find what has caused it but the outlook for our baby looks really grim.

I'm so devastated that this is the case as we had an early private scan at 9 weeks and were lulled into a false sense of security when everything looked ok.

I'm also so frightened about what is going to happen over the next few weeks and that all of our plans for our future have just dissolved in a moment.

OH and I just sat in silence all last night. I don't know where to go from here.

Gelly123

Miss I - thinking of you and your OH today - much love xxx

Frankieloo - sorry to see you over here asking advice. Afraid I haven't been through anything like that so really don't know what to suggest but I didn't want to read and run - hugs

Gelly
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