Miscarriage support

gratefulforhelp_2

I've been reading a leaflet from the John Radcliffe hosp saying you can do it with drugs instead, but I wasn't offered that. Think I might have to make a big fuss, or maybe the technology hasn't got here yet! They'll probably drill a hole in my head to let the evil spirits out...

QQuaver

gratefulforhelp wrote: »

I've been reading a leaflet from the John Radcliffe hosp saying you can do it with drugs instead, but I wasn't offered that. Think I might have to make a big fuss, or maybe the technology hasn't got here yet! They'll probably drill a hole in my head to let the evil spirits out...

Oh yes, I've heard about the pill. Perhaps you should ask?
I wasn't offered that either.

FairyShazza

gratefulforhelp wrote: »

Anyone who has had ERPC, did you have to have time off work, and if so, how much?

So sorry to hear you are going through this GFH.

When I had my mmc I was offered medical management (tablets) these basically start your body mc'ing naturally. You go to hispital and take one tablet and then return to take another the following day I didn't take this option as I have read stories of people who did who found that they then didn't pass everything and they then had to have an erpc anyway.

I opted for an erpc. I had to wait a week between finding out and the operation which was horrible I didn't go to work in that time as I had been warned my body may start mc'ing naturally in that time. I went into hospital at 7.45 on the day of the erpc, was taken down to surgery at about 9.30 and was home by 2pm. I was scared but it wasn't all that bad - the staff were lovely and I had very minimal bleeding afterwards.

I asked my doctor for a sick note and he automatically signed me off for 4 weeks which I thought was too long. In all honesty looking back a month was a good amount of time as even though physically I was ok, emotionally and mentally it took a lot longer to feel well enough to return to work as I was so up and down.

Its such a crappy thing to go through and I feel for you so much. We are all here if you need an ear *hugs*

Metranil_Vavin

My mc managed itself, which I am glad of even though it took about 10 days all in. I'm terrified of anesthetic so the although I would of course have had the ERPC if needed, I'm quite glad I didnt have to in the end. The dr said that most had expelled anyway, and over the next few days I bled a bit more then it just stopped.

I think I went back to work too early too. I was off for 9 days in total, and I still struggle today being at work sometimes. I've really come to dislike my job and dont really give a damn what happensd there now. I find the constant 'baby chatter' I'm surrounded with pretty unbearable at times too I feel like no one cares, but then again why should they? I'm only a work colleague..no one of any real importance to any of them.

Out again for this month too..AF is late but think its starting. We did everything right. I found my ov days, we BD'd all the right days, I was having reflexology and relaxing...and nothing.

I totally feel it's never going to happen at the moment. I'm thoroughly low and depressed.

Thankfully I have a day off today.

sorry to be such a misery but I struggle to find anyone I can talk to about this who knows what I'm going on about/cares etc

gratefulforhelp_2

Hugs here too. Lots of hugs, MV.

Thanks for sharing your stories, guys.

msb5262

Hello all and especially MV this morning.
You sound as if you're really struggling.

"sorry to be such a misery but I struggle to find anyone I can talk to about this who knows what I'm going on about/cares etc"

Don't forget, everyone here does know what you're on about and we do care. You are doing well but it's just not easy. As time passes, you will feel like this less often; don't be too hard on yourself and try to plan some nice things even if it's only buying a new magazine, ringing a friend, watching something on TV you'll enjoy...

love from MsB x

QQuaver

Hugs (((MV))).
How are you today GFH?

We are all different, and in my case I bounced back very quickly.
Also, 2 weeks after erpc, I was away for work so it was a good change (no OH);)
I talk about my mc/ttc with my family/forums all the time which helped I think:p

I do feel like MV in a way that I'll never ever be a mum, but I haven't given up hope yet. Will try IVF if needs be.

gratefulforhelp_2

More hugs to MV.

QQ thanks, been out to the beach today, think m/c is happening naturally, so may not need to go in to hosp. This would be better for me than an op.

It is easier for me because I have two DDs, I realise that, but I've heard so many stories of people giving up on contraception because they believed they couldn't get preg and then they did, it just takes longer for some people. You guys are young and you will get there, and just think how loved those babies will be!

Metranil_Vavin

Thanks guys.

Grateful if only I was young..I'm 37 now..one of the reasons I'm so afraid we'll never get there

msb5262

Hello MV,
my sister and my best friend from school both struggled to get pregnant and both had mmcs but both had the babies they wanted. My sister was your age at the start and best friend was 40 so don't be too pessimistic - you are very likely indeed to get there in the end.
MsB x