Miscarriage support

pigpen

Durig the ERPC.. they ram your feet in stirrups behind your ears just about.. lift your bum off the bed which would be incredibly uncomfortable if you were awake (they dislocated my hip last time they did this to me!.. don't panic, i have dodgy hips anyway) they then open the cervix slightly which is painful by all accounts.. then do what they do which is equally if not more painful...

Are you sure you'd want to be awake?!

Oh.. my last one... they knocked me out at 9:02am and I was conscious again by 9:45.. and leaving hospital at 12ish... it really isn't so bad.

msb5262

Hello all,

Very sorry to hear gratefulforhelp's sad news. How rotten.

I remember having a general anaesthetic for ERPC (actually twice) and it was fine - the nursing staff were fantastic, very gentle and kind, and the whole experience did make me feel that something sad had happened and that this was acknowledged. I know it sounds nutty but that helped me to recover emotionally in the long run.

A missed miscarriage is very peculiar in emotional terms because nothing seems to have "happened" - it's more what hasn't happened. Partners seem particularly capable of expecting instant bouncing back, which (surprise, surprise) doesn't seem to work.

WHO can explain why, after you've miscarried, there are suddenly so many things around you that you can't cope with? eg. pregnant women, new babies, pram adverts, scan pictures, parents who don't seem to want the children they've got.....etc etc etc.

Everyone who has noticed this, be reassured; it's not just you. We've all seen it.

Best wishes and love to all who need it
(sounds like most people here today)

MsB x

Metranil_Vavin

GFH I'm so sorry XXX

gratefulforhelp_2

moneysaver599 wrote: »

hi grateful

i just popped in to say i'm really devastated for you, i've been watching you on the less than 12 weeks board. i had the same in my last pg although i did have a little bleeding before the 12 week scan so was more prepared than you. get lots of rest, support & hugs xxx

Thanks, oddly enough I had been wittering on about not feeling pregnant and I did have a tiny bleed.

tinkwings wrote: »

Hi Honey. You ask as many questions as you want to.

I don't know why you have to have an general for an ERPC but you do it is classed as a surgical procudure so I guess that maybe why.

That was the same as us our bean passed at 6 weeks also. When will you have your op?

Always here for you honey. Feel free to PM me xoxo :A

I should be 6 weeks tomorrow and we are hoping for a scan next week. If not than we will be paying for a private one.

thanks, I'm not sure, they said they would ring me in a week, they were all fixed to do it there and then, but I said booger off!

Thanks, you're all so kind. I'm really ok, met a friend by chance to day who hadn't known I was pregnant and was telling me there's still time to have another!! Poor woman, if I'd told her she would have felt guilty for months.

MV I'm so sorry you're feeling so carp. I think there are very very few people who never manage it, I'm sure you will in time.

Piggers thanks for the info. I felt sure you would have told them to booger off, armed with all the facts, so I guess if you didn't, then its inevitable.

elliebobs

GFH; I'm really sorry to hear your news; not sure if you remember me from the TTC thread. Pigpen beat me to the answer as to why you have a GA whilst undergoing an ERPC. I know because I myself asked the consultant the same thing after my MC in December. Believe me, you really don't want to be conscious.

Anyway, you take it easy and have some quality time out. Take care

Ellie x

QQuaver

portsmouthali wrote: »

but I feel like if I don't get pregnant again that I'll never stop feeling like this.

I feel the same too:o I know it won't bring back the baby, but still.

GFH, like Pigpen said, I think one needs GA. Mine took about 15 mins, I feel like I've been awake the whole time, but obviously not since I can't remember a thing. It didn't hurt.

Mine was a 10 week baby, I've seen the baby alive at 9 weeks, so a week later, it was a lot was bigger, I wish I asked for a pic, but it's in my head forever.

gratefulforhelp_2

Oh dear God, QQ, you poor thing. Thanks for the replies girls.

Metranil_Vavin

How are you today Grateful? x

I know exactly what you mean about being pregnant feels like it's the only thing that will help

I try very hard not to get terribly disappointed each month I get a BFN, but it is so hard.

Lots of love to you though hon. With your obvious strength of charater you'll get through it xx

gratefulforhelp_2

Thanks, MV. I had a feeling all wasn't right, so its not such a shock, and we all know someone who's been through it and gone on to successful pregnancy.

Think we need to build up other things in life so we don't think about it so much.

hugs xx

Shelley3774

Haven't been able to post for a few days but I did actually start bleeding a little yesterday and had terrible back pain. It had eased off this morning but came back with a vengeance for about an hr this afternoon but seems to have eased off again. I now have a hot water bottle perched on my back and it seems to be helping. I'm just wondering how long this process is going to take?
So sorry to hear GFH's sad news and big hugs to all who need them x