Miscarriage support

SUESMITH_2

penny, that time will hopefully come for you. its differant for every person/couple and its their choice.

ive known peole get discharged from the hospital and start trying as soon as they get home (no, im not joking) whereas for some it can take months if not years - neither one is right or wrong. only you will know when that time is, until then do whatever will make you and oh happy and ignore other people -its your life, not theirs

thinking of you, and lots of hugs!

Shelley3774

I hope you don't mind me joining in but I stumbled across this thread and have found it very supportive. I'm currently going through it myself I have 2 beautiful little boys but found out in Feb that i was expecting my 3rd. It was a big shock but both my OH and myself were thrilled. I had my 12 week scan on 30th March and couldn't believe what I was hearing I had a blighted ovum and there was no baby in the sac! It was devastating and so hard to come to terms with. I had no signs that anything was wrong, no spotting and was suffering with nausea, growing belly, sore boobs etc! The scan revealed that the pregnancy sac and placenta were still being maintained by my body. I was sent to Gynae ward asap and Dr explained that he thought it was better I went naturally. Not knowing anything about what a blighted ovum means I returned home devastated.
I have to go back on the 13th April for another scan (I will be 14 weeks then) and then will probably have a d&c. The waiting has been torture and not knowing what to expect is awful.
However I've just been to the loo and there was some blood on the tissue paper. I haven't had any cramping or anything so really not sure if this is the start??
Has anyone else on here been diagnosed with a blighted ovum as late as myself? Most people I've spoken to have miscarried earlier so I'm a bit in the dark as to what to expect

QQuaver

Metranil_Vavin wrote: »

It's particularly hard as I work in a small office of young parents, who have long forgotten what I've been through,

(((Hugs))). Fortunately, there are no young parents around me, and the closest is an older childless long time married lady who seems to think mc is better than not being pg at all, and a forever single girl who wishes she could find an OH with whom she could even think about having a baby with:o

Shelley3774 wrote: »

Has anyone else on here been diagnosed with a blighted ovum as late as myself? Most people I've spoken to have miscarried earlier so I'm a bit in the dark as to what to expect

Mine was not a blighted ovum, but found out I mc'd at 11 weeks. The baby's previously beating heart stopped the week before.

It was a missed miscarriage, so no bleeding etc so had a really big shock at the docs.. Had ERPC few days later.

It was in August, so I have recovered somewhat.
Perhaps your bleeding is the start of your mc?
(((Hugs))) and take care.

msb5262

Hello Shelley3774

I think this thread is for everyone at whatever stage during or after miscarriage.
FWIW I'd agree with QQuaver - your bleeding is probably the start of your mc.

Very sorry to hear your sad news, nothing particular to add but please feel free to keep "talking" on this thread. Everyone is at different stages and you will find sympathy and support here.

You must feel particularly lost at the moment because you'd been having what looked like a perfectly normal pregnancy right up to 12 weeks. This baby wasn't meant to be but that doesn't mean it wasn't loved and wanted. You are obviously having a very sad time of it all, and feeling confused about the physical processes and what happens next doesn't help.

I'm so sorry that this has happened. Many people reading this thread will be thinking of you and sending you their best wishes, as I am.


MsB x

Metranil_Vavin

Welcome Shelley..sorry that you find yourself here, but as msb has said, this board is for support for ladies (and OH's) who have suffered a mc at any stage.

I am so sorry that you are having to wait for the inevitable.

Lots of love and hugs coming to you x

Shelley3774

Thank you ladies for your lovely words they really are a comfort at this time. I would also like to send hugs to everyone here xx

spendaholiceejit

Shelly, I just want to tell you I am sorry for your loss. I also have 2 children and I miscarried my third baby in November. I think of the baby every day. I worked in a baby shop at the time so it was painful to see pregnant women.

The bleeding is probably the start of the miscarriage. Mine was at 10 weeks which was obviously a lot earlier than you and I was "lucky" it was quick and only painful for one day.

Take comfort in your two little ones, they will get you through this. Cry when you need to. When people ask if you are ok, it's ok to say No I am blooming not ok. he hormones dropped for me about 3 days after I started to bleed and that was the toughest day, even weeks afterwards I would cry out of the blue.

Take Care xxx

tinkwings

Had the most horrible dream last night that we had a scan & history repeated itself. Really upset me and freaked me out.:(:(

Think it's because I am 6 weeks and this is when our lost bean passed away. It has really freaked me out I have been awake and freaked since 4 am

gratefulforhelp_2

Hi, guys, can I join you? Went for 12 week scan yesterday to be told that foetus had stopped developing at 6 weeks? Thanks.

Tink honey, just because you dream it, doesn't mean its true. Hugs.

eta and can I ask a question? Why do you have to have a general anaesthetic for ERPC?

Bufger

gratefulforhelp wrote: »

Hi, guys, can I join you? Went for 12 week scan yesterday to be told that foetus had stopped developing at 6 weeks? Thanks.

Tink honey, just because you dream it, doesn't mean its true. Hugs.

everyone look after our friend gratefulforhelp or i'll :mad:

All the best ladies xx