Miscarriage support

Metranil_Vavin

Hugs Ali...you're no more of a drama queen than any of us ttc'ers...it's all consuming, and like I said earlier, unless you've been there you have no idea.

I hope it works out for us all x

money_saving_diva

Big hugs ladies. I posted earlier in the thread - I had a mmc last april. I just wanted to say that it what you are going through at the moment is what I went through (so feel it is normal) and it does get easier - I think even ttc gets easier as the months go by.

I didn't want to be around people some days because no one would mention my mc to me. Also dh stopped mentioning it because he didn't want to upset me. I told him he I was always thinking about it and it all upset me so he was to talk about it if he wanted. It helped.

All I wanted to do was to get pregnant (I am now). It doesn't take the pain of loosing your angel away and you worry lots once you get pregnant but in some ways it makes things easier - but not as easy as I thought. It is coming up to a year since loosing my angel and I feel I am getting the depressive mood back I am dreading the anniversary of the mmc and my erpc. I know i will find it hard and I am trying not to think about it because I don't want to stress my body out now in case I do any harm to the baby I am carrying now.

I, like all of you probably, ask myself every day - why did this have to happen to me and I am sure we are 'normal' to think this and want to hide ourselves away.

snipzychick

I'm feeling really sad today

It should have been my first midwife appointment this morning, and it's really got me down. I've been reasonably okay for the last few days, it's the little things that get to you isn't it?

My maternity exemption certificate arrived the morning after my m/c, which seemed cruel! I've only just had the mental strength to return it yesterday.

I feel like i've taken one step forward, then two back! Pah!! The birdsong is annoying me this morning too!! I normally love it, but it just seems like another reminder that spring is coming, time is moving on, but my baby isn't here anymore.

I'm sorry that I sound so miserable, my DH offered to take the day off work to stay with me, which was nice of him, but he is self employed, so doesn't get paid if he doesn't work, and as he had the week off last week, we really need the money!!

tinkwings

I am in the same boat today I had a Panic attack this morning managed to get my daughter who is 12 and was scared to see me like it to school amd have just made it home again.

Metranil_Vavin

Hugs to all who need them.

Grrrrr this whole thing is so unbelievably crap at times I just cant stand it :mad:

having to wait to test for ov, wait to try, wait to test, then wait some more when you get a BFN...it's painful.

Already worrying that OH wont step up to the mark with me this month..I seriously think that if we wenet for it hammer and tong for a whole week, we'd get there, but it just wont happen.

It frustrates me that its 50% out of my control. I can manage the household finances, organisie social stuff, vet appts for the cats, etc etc, but half of this baby making thing is out of my control.

Makes me sound awful, but I dont mean it to be...just want to have a baby before I get too old

tinkwings

Metranil_Vavin wrote: »

Hugs to all who need them.

Grrrrr this whole thing is so unbelievably crap at times I just cant stand it :mad:

having to wait to test for ov, wait to try, wait to test, then wait some more when you get a BFN...it's painful.

Already worrying that OH wont step up to the mark with me this month..I seriously think that if we wenet for it hammer and tong for a whole week, we'd get there, but it just wont happen.

It frustrates me that its 50% out of my control. I can manage the household finances, organisie social stuff, vet appts for the cats, etc etc, but half of this baby making thing is out of my control.

Makes me sound awful, but I dont mean it to be...just want to have a baby before I get too old

MV that was just like reading ME

I have just tested again BFN I really don't know why I did it to myself I am feeling so low today hence panic attack that I just needed to ........

I am so angry and part of me is blamimg DH that we didn't continue are BDing after we came home as if we had I am sure it would be a +. I am angry & upset & just feel like it will NEVER happen :mad::mad::mad::mad::mad:

Metranil_Vavin

Tinks - I know it's hard but try not to keep testing early. If you are preg it may well be too early to tell, and if you're not...then isn't it better to get one BFN and one let downs rather than 3 or 4?

At least you have your DD (she looks gorgeous btw..seen your FB Pics ) and I have every faith in the fact she WILL have a brother or sister to join her.

xxx

Lauralou

tinkwings please stop testing(i know its hard) but just think it is only making you feel worse, please for me?!!:):rotfl:. Try and think positive, look towards to future, you got your blessing coming up soon, so just try and concentrate on that, it will be one off the happiest days in your life:D

snipzychick sorry you are having a sad day, i still often have bad day but i just try and stay positive, i just try and keep myself busy, dont feel like your taking one steo forward, two steps back everything always takes time.:)

Metranil_Vavin

Laura!! How are you doing?? havent seen you around for ages!:)

snipzychick

tinkwings wrote: »

I am in the same boat today I had a Panic attack this morning managed to get my daughter who is 12 and was scared to see me like it to school amd have just made it home again.

Oh poor you (((hugs))) I've been having panic attacks since my m/c I thought it was just me!!!!!! I managed to ward one off this afternoon, by telling myself off and singing and dancing around the house!! I've never had them before so they came as a shock. Hope you're feeling better now hun x