Miscarriage support

pigpen

Just popped in to send my best wishes and hugs to grateful.. hope your stay here is brief sweetie.. xx

snipzychick

gratefulforhelp wrote: »

Hi, guys, can I join you? Went for 12 week scan yesterday to be told that foetus had stopped developing at 6 weeks? Thanks

Aww grateful, I'm so sorry to see you here I remember you from the pregnancy thread.

So sorry for your loss, you've come to the right place, all the ladies are very supportive in here, and we do all understand what you're going through.

Take care x

Penny35_2

GFH - I am so sorry to hear this.

Penny
xx

QQuaver

gratefulforhelp wrote: »

Hi, guys, can I join you? Went for 12 week scan yesterday to be told that foetus had stopped developing at 6 weeks? Thanks.

Oh noooo. Hugs (((gratefulforhelp))):(

moneysaver599

hi grateful

i just popped in to say i'm really devastated for you, i've been watching you on the less than 12 weeks board. i had the same in my last pg although i did have a little bleeding before the 12 week scan so was more prepared than you. get lots of rest, support & hugs xxx

FairyShazza

Metranil_Vavin wrote: »

I'm still stuck in the 'it's never going to happen for us' rut..I feel quite helpless and depressed some days.

It's affected me in more ways than I could ever imagine, one of the scariest being what I can only descibe now as a 'social phobia'.

I really struggle with large groups of people, and whereas I've always been a party girl and very sociable, at the moment I just cant be bothered and find myself 'zoneing out' when people are talking to me..its very odd.

OH thinks I should see the dr, but I cant even raise the energy to do that!

You are not alone I have been the same hun.

Since our mmc all I can concentrate on is getting pregnant again. I've totally stopped drinking and to be honest I don't care if I never have a drink again if it means we can have a baby.

There have been a few times we have been out and I just can't seem to be able to mingle with people like I could before. People have started noticing as each time I go out I get people asking if I am ok and saying that I seemed a little quiet.

I stupidly and naively thought that we would get pregant quickly after the erpc and almost 6 months on we are still trying without any success. As each day passes I keep thinking was that the only chance we are going to get? Are we ever going to get pregnant again?

What makes it worse is that all of my buddies who I built up friendships with on another forum who had experienced their mc's at the same time as me are now pregnant again and I feel like I've been left behind

Everything is a reminder in 3 weeks I would've been going on maternity leave from work and my EDD is approaching rapidly. All the things I had planned were meant to be happening with a bump (being bridemsaid for my friends, trips away etc) and instead I'm right back at square one.

I don't know what else we can do - we are doing everything we possibly can to fall again but it just doesn't seem to be working

Am so fed up and like a lot of you am always feeling like nobody really understands. I only have one friend who I can really turn to who has had a mc herself and so does understand but most of my friends aren't even thinking about kids yet let alone trying for them. OH tries but I just don't think it is possible for a man to understand just how upsetting it is everytime AF arrives.

QQuaver

FairyShazza wrote: »

What makes it worse is that all of my buddies who I built up friendships with on another forum who had experienced their mc's at the same time as me are now pregnant again and I feel like I've been left behind

Don't worry, I had mmc in August, and have still not got pregnant:o

Courgette

gratefulforhelp wrote: »

Hi, guys, can I join you? Went for 12 week scan yesterday to be told that foetus had stopped developing at 6 weeks? Thanks.

GFH, I'm so sorry to hear this. You are in my thoughts, as are all the ladies currently going through such a horrible thing

xxx

portsmouthali

Massive hugs to GFH and Shelley, so sorry you're going through this xxx GFH, not had ERPC with either of my mc's so don't know the answer to your question but I'm guessing that it may be because it would be even more distressing to be "awake" Shelley, if you need to ask any more questions, please go ahead - nothing is TMI xxx

I haven't been on here for a while but I'm glad I popped back - MV, I feel so dreadfully sorry for you. I have a similar thing at work in that 2 members of my team have announced that they're pregnant in the last couple of weeks, there are loads more pregnant ladies and I'm finding it so hard to keep smiling whilst looking at scan pictures (I keep seeing that black screen with the empty sac ) It's not that I'm not pleased for them, or I don't want them to have babies - I just want mine back OH doesn't want to try anymore and says we should be grateful for what we have, but I feel like if I don't get pregnant again that I'll never stop feeling like this. We don't really talk about it anymore as it usually ends in a row, with him saying I'm trying to use emotional blackmail in order to get him to agree to try again. Which I am, I suppose I think it's my age and my biological clock ticking away. I don't know what the answer is, but I'm glad to have this place to vent

tinkwings

gratefulforhelp wrote: »

Hi, guys, can I join you? Went for 12 week scan yesterday to be told that foetus had stopped developing at 6 weeks? Thanks.

Tink honey, just because you dream it, doesn't mean its true. Hugs.

eta and can I ask a question? Why do you have to have a general anaesthetic for ERPC?

Hi Honey. You ask as many questions as you want to.

I don't know why you have to have an general for an ERPC but you do it is classed as a surgical procudure so I guess that maybe why.

That was the same as us our bean passed at 6 weeks also. When will you have your op?

Always here for you honey. Feel free to PM me xoxo :A

I should be 6 weeks tomorrow and we are hoping for a scan next week. If not than we will be paying for a private one.