Miscarriage support

Silver-Cat

Were u given follow up dates straight away? I've pretty much been discharged with no follow up apart from GP today. Not that I need it but wondered if that was it and now I need to get on with my life.

BadlyWrittenPoem

Silver-Cat wrote: »

Were u given follow up dates straight away? I've pretty much been discharged with no follow up apart from GP today. Not that I need it but wondered if that was it and now I need to get on with my life.

I was supposed to be sent an appointment in the post but this never happened and I ended up phoning up and actually had my appointment about three months after giving birth. From what I can gather this was probably because prior to it all happening I had requested a copy of my hospital notes which meant that there was a delay in my notes being passed on to the consultant's secretary for her to arrange an appointment as they were taken to be copied first so is probably an unusual occurence.

claire16c

Silver-Cat wrote: »

Were u given follow up dates straight away? I've pretty much been discharged with no follow up apart from GP today. Not that I need it but wondered if that was it and now I need to get on with my life.

I think if you have a miscarriage in the first trimester that's what happens, once you are discharged there aren't any.

However, you can see your dr if you wish. I spoke to mine on the phone to get a sick note for work & if I'd have needed another one he said I should come in and talk to him. I suspect he was thinking incase I was depressed.

claretsgirl

I think you're right claire16. All I got was a scan to check all was ok and that was it. I even telephoned to cancel my antenatal and scan appointments myself. I couldn't bear the thought of the midwife calling to ask why I hadn't gone to them. They don't often communicate that information from the hospital I had to attend to the midwife I saw.
I have to admit I feel a bit lost now. It sometimes feels like it was all a bad dream and maybe I was never pregnant in the first place.
X

Silver-Cat

claire16c wrote: »

I think if you have a miscarriage in the first trimester that's what happens, once you are discharged there aren't any.

However, you can see your dr if you wish. I spoke to mine on the phone to get a sick note for work & if I'd have needed another one he said I should come in and talk to him. I suspect he was thinking incase I was depressed.

My GP was really nice, just said if i need to talk then come back or if worried about the pain or bleeding to contact them. I sort of sat there not saying much feeling a bit uncomfy. I'm not the best at face to face with people I'm not close to.

I am plain miserable and tired right now and am now starting to take it out on my partner mainly as I keep thinking about a nasty comment he made in an arguement as we were deciding what to do before the night which keeps going through my mind. I'm my own worst enemy here and I'm pathetic for even writing like this.

BadlyWrittenPoem

Silver-Cat wrote: »

My GP was really nice, just said if i need to talk then come back or if worried about the pain or bleeding to contact them. I sort of sat there not saying much feeling a bit uncomfy. I'm not the best at face to face with people I'm not close to.

I am plain miserable and tired right now and am now starting to take it out on my partner mainly as I keep thinking about a nasty comment he made in an arguement as we were deciding what to do before the night which keeps going through my mind. I'm my own worst enemy here and I'm pathetic for even writing like this.

You are not pathetic at all. You have been through a difficult time and this thread is a good place to write about it and gain support.

Silver-Cat

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Miss-L

All I seem to do is search for 'the reason why' my PPROM happened. I have so many questions I think I'll drive the consultant at my follow-up appointment crazy!

Earlier tonight I asked my boyfriend how my late miscarriage and loosing our baby has affected him. He just said he doesn't know. He won't talk , gets cross when I want to know his feelings and is unsupportive. Can anyone relate to this


I feel so desperate. I want someone to look into a crystal ball and tell me that I will get my happy ending one day

samtoby

When something bad happens to us we always want reasons and sometimes not having them just makes it worse.

I have a school friend who had a baby at 18 and he was born at 24 weeks, died within about an hour of being born, there were reasons behind it and treatments meant she went on to have 3 healthy children. In my case although it was a miscarriage in the early stages being told they would not investigate unless I was on my 3rd or subsequent miscarriage was absolutly devestating to me, I wanted a reason. Why was I taken out the scan room via the back door and everyone else went out the front with their little picture tickets to get their scan pictures.

Your consultant may give the answers you require for the questions you have without you having the need to ask.

As for speaking to your partner, I think sometimes men and even women shut out emotion completly for fear of looking weak or showing feelings. My partner had 'forgotten' that our baby probably would have been born last week or this week, but I couldn't get angry, he always shuts out what he does not want to remember.

Do you have anyone else to speak to?

Toooldforthis

Morn. .. back again I'm afraid miscarriage number 4 ... the physical pain I can cope with the mental pain is another matter x