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LJ9982

please-let-me-be-lucky wrote: »

Scary isn't it? Thankfully I was already in hospital when I blacked out, your poor DH must have been so frightened. Big hugs for both of you.

Make sure you get on iron tablets for at least 3 months. I was only given a week's worth by the hospital and I've never felt so ill and weak in my life. My GP was disgusted.

I hope you can relax a little now that the worst (physical) bit is over. Please keep talking on here though as the emotional bits are just as bad to deal with Xx

Your the second person who's said the same thing happened to them.... Is blacking out common when it happens? I had no idea to expect that.

I did read this article the day before which was really helpful. http://www.netmums.com/coffeehouse/advice-support-40/miscarriage-stillbirth-loss-child-boards-548/miscarriage-stillbirth-loss-child-49/273370-truth-about-miscarriage-what-happens-all.html We decided to keep 'baby' and will put him (convinced it was a boy) in a wooden box and we will do a burial somewhere nice soon

please-let-me-be-lucky

I think the blacking out is due to shock.

That's a goid article and it's nice that you get to bury the baby. Xx

LJ9982

Yes I think so too. Not so much me in shock but my body at the sudden loss? I just remember this big gush and then as soon as that happened, I felt sick, went dizzy and vision blurred then couldn't hear for buzzing in my ears then next thing I remember is my DH bringing me round by slapping sick out of me (sorry if TMI)

please-let-me-be-lucky

Yes, physical body shock. I felt the same as you as well as super hot, and the next thing I remember was all the hustle and bustle of loads of nursing staff crowding around as they lifted me on to a bed.

claire16c

LJ9982 wrote: »

We are at home now - hospital protocol is just to administer the medication and check your vitals for a couple of hours after to check no reactions to the medication and then send you off - you only come back to them if the bleeding/pain is 'more than a heavy period/too painful' - their words...... My other half was with me and is home with me now. Just in bed - it's just the waiting now for it to start

Oh I see. Seems like considering what happened to you perhaps they need to alter it and get people to stay in longer!

LJ9982 wrote: »

Morning everyone ..... Had ambulance out last night as I blacked out after a big blood loss (including baby) and was sick whilst unconscious much 'better' now tho and think most of it is over now just like a heavy period now.....

Oh poor you that sounds horrible.

How awful. I'm glad your DH was there to help you. That's exactly why I was so annoyed with my friends husband for going to work incase something like that happened to her.

claire16c

LJ9982 wrote: »

Your the second person who's said the same thing happened to them.... Is blacking out common when it happens? I had no idea to expect that.

I did read this article the day before which was really helpful. http://www.netmums.com/coffeehouse/advice-support-40/miscarriage-stillbirth-loss-child-boards-548/miscarriage-stillbirth-loss-child-49/273370-truth-about-miscarriage-what-happens-all.html We decided to keep 'baby' and will put him (convinced it was a boy) in a wooden box and we will do a burial somewhere nice soon

I had the operation but someone had a good suggestion on here before, if you bury the box somewhere perhaps do it in a large plant pot/planter incase you move house one day x

Adrenalina

I can't face going to work. Not many people knew, but still. I know they'll think "what's the big fuss, it's not as if it was a proper baby". It's not just the physical loss. In my mind I already had two children, and could see them playing together, looking after each other when I'm gone... It's the loss of this future that upsets me the most. And I guess that's what's so hard to explain.

please-let-me-be-lucky

It doesn't matter what other people think Adrenalina, however I have to say I've not encountered anything like that and I've been through it 3 times at 3 different stages, once with twins. People are usually quite lovely, almost too lovely sometimes! You will be surprised how many people say "I've been through it too" and "I know how you feel".

Take all the time off that you need though Xx

LJ9982

Adrenalina wrote: »

I can't face going to work. Not many people knew, but still. I know they'll think "what's the big fuss, it's not as if it was a proper baby". It's not just the physical loss. In my mind I already had two children, and could see them playing together, looking after each other when I'm gone... It's the loss of this future that upsets me the most. And I guess that's what's so hard to explain.

Can you phone your doctors surgery and explain what's happened and get a certficate to sign you off? Hospital signed me off for a week but said most doctors will extend (just tell them your still bleeding even if you aren't)

I can't face work just yet either - just want some time to grieve with my DH xx

LJ9982

claire16c wrote: »

I had the operation but someone had a good suggestion on here before, if you bury the box somewhere perhaps do it in a large plant pot/planter incase you move house one day x

Yes I think that's possibly the plan xx