Miscarriage support

LJ9982

Thanks ladies - just really anxious had a few mild cramps today. Like period pain ..... Funny how a day after scan I suddenly don't feel normal like I did pre-scan suspecting no problems

Just want to get things out of the way and hope tablets work quickly

please-let-me-be-lucky

samtoby wrote: »

I am really good PLMBL - we are both doing well. I know this sounds silly being pregnant now but I am dreading February when angel baby would have been due. I am not sure how I will feel. I feel it will be wrong to be upset but also that I am only human. It still feels like yesterday.

I am glad you are doing well now, are you trying again? xx

It won't be wrong to be upset, you are mourning the loss of something you wanted badly. In years to come you will be thrilled to have the little one you are expecting now and will feel it was meant to be, but the angel baby will always be in your heart.

I don't think we will try again. I've been through too much losing the 4 I already have, and I don't want to risk it again. I'm lucky enough to have 2 gorgeous boys and I need to be there for them first and foremost. My DH's seizures have become more of an issue than they were when we were trying before, and I don't know that I can add babies to the mix right now. It saddens me a lot but will see how I feel about it all in a couple of months. Xx

please-let-me-be-lucky

LJ9982 wrote: »

Thanks ladies - just really anxious had a few mild cramps today. Like period pain ..... Funny how a day after scan I suddenly don't feel normal like I did pre-scan suspecting no problems

Just want to get things out of the way and hope tablets work quickly

I said exactly the same. It's like when your head knows there is something wrong your body suddenly acts on it.

I hope it goes quick for you too Xx

samtoby

PLMBL - I do hope things go ok. You really have had a tough odd time. I do hope the fits calm down must be very hard xx

please-let-me-be-lucky

Thanks Sam. It's all just so uncertain with DH because it's post head injury. We have learned to expect the unexpected! Xx

claire16c

please-let-me-be-lucky wrote: »

I said exactly the same. It's like when your head knows there is something wrong your body suddenly acts on it.

I hope it goes quick for you too Xx

The sonographer said that to me. I had no bleeding or anything then I think 1 or 2 days after the scan whilst I was waiting for the op I had a big bit of brown discharge. And I think the morning after the scan I had a tiny bit of spotting.

She said it's like when your mind knows your body let's go.

However not always to the needed effect hence operations or tablets being needed, but it is weird how that happens.

claire16c

please-let-me-be-lucky wrote: »

It won't be wrong to be upset, you are mourning the loss of something you wanted badly. In years to come you will be thrilled to have the little one you are expecting now and will feel it was meant to be, but the angel baby will always be in your heart.

I don't think we will try again. I've been through too much losing the 4 I already have, and I don't want to risk it again. I'm lucky enough to have 2 gorgeous boys and I need to be there for them first and foremost. My DH's seizures have become more of an issue than they were when we were trying before, and I don't know that I can add babies to the mix right now. It saddens me a lot but will see how I feel about it all in a couple of months. Xx

It is very sad.

But I am very glad for you you do have two boys. I don't think anything ever replaces or stops the pain but I would imagine if I had a child before my miscarriage they'd give me a lot of strength.

tea_lover

LJ - so sorry to hear your news. We're all here for you xx.

Adrenalina

Good morning, I'm trying to find some comfort in the last 200-odd pages. I lost my baby yesterday at 10 weeks. I had brown spotting over ten days, got cramping and red bleeding over the weekend. Spent Monday in denial, Tuesday desperately trying to hold on and finally went to emergency gyn yesterday in agony. Got scanned at midday, inconclusive, sent home, and passed the sac just after 6. I thank the universe for my two year old sunshine, without her I don't think I can get through this with my sanity intact.
It's comforting and also scary how many women have suffered this loss. Maybe there is strength in numbers.

claire16c

Adrenalina wrote: »

Good morning, I'm trying to find some comfort in the last 200-odd pages. I lost my baby yesterday at 10 weeks. I had brown spotting over ten days, got cramping and red bleeding over the weekend. Spent Monday in denial, Tuesday desperately trying to hold on and finally went to emergency gyn yesterday in agony. Got scanned at midday, inconclusive, sent home, and passed the sac just after 6. I thank the universe for my two year old sunshine, without her I don't think I can get through this with my sanity intact.
It's comforting and also scary how many women have suffered this loss. Maybe there is strength in numbers.

Someone on here once said 'its the club no one wants to join.'

That really sums it up for me.

Im so sorry for your loss. Its so sad. Im glad you have your daughter to comfort you.

I think I read this entire thread when I had a mmc. It really did help.

Im glad for you the physical part is at least over, its the mental part that is the worst. Make sure you take some time off work to rest x