Miscarriage support

samtoby

Having a struggle day today. Must remain positive! xx

sweaty_betty

samtoby wrote: »

Having a struggle day today. Must remain positive! xx

Sorry you're struggling. Want to talk about it?

samtoby

Juts got the 12 week scan a week Monday and despite having an early scan I am not reassured anymore as I did last time and I still received the bad news. So worried I will have to go in the same room, to receive the same news if that makes sense, I need to remain strong but as the days and weeks get nearer I just get more worried. xx

sweaty_betty

samtoby wrote: »

Juts got the 12 week scan a week Monday and despite having an early scan I am not reassured anymore as I did last time and I still received the bad news. So worried I will have to go in the same room, to receive the same news if that makes sense, I need to remain strong but as the days and weeks get nearer I just get more worried. xx

I understand ( as much as any other person can understand how another is feeling). When I became pregnant after my early miscarriage I was on edge for the entire time up to the 12w scan (and had at least 3 extra scans between 6-12 weeks because I had bleeding etc). It's a horrible time. I told my OH I needed some kind of kangaroo-type pouch which would allow me to keep checking on the baby at any time!

We're all really hoping this is a much better outcome for you. Is there anything you can do/plan to fill your time to take your mind off worrying for at least some of the time? I know it's more easily said than done, but it's the only thing I can think of.

Lara44

Glad that you had your appointment, Lucky. I am sure you must feel very conflicted about the test results. On the one hand, it's good not to have a major problem, but having a reason definitely brings its own closure.

I also think you and Betty have handled some very difficult things over the last few years in amazing ways.

This is a very caring thread and I have also really appreciated it.

samtoby

I think the nearer I get to it the more I realise that it had not even crossed my mind when I sat in the scan room that I would receive that news. I was expecting my picture. I did get one, but not the one I was hoping to get.

I am worried that if I don't think positivley then something will go wrong but when I think positivley I can't but think that I am being silly.

I am writing my 2nd essay for uni so I think I will chuck myself into that and deal with each day, it doesn't help I am so ill with this pregnancy either so sometimes the days do drag because I am gagging away!

I used to think I was strong but I am not at all. I have crumbled under this pressure.

I think after my 12 week scan I am going to go to the Hospital Chapel there is a book there for all lost babies in pregnancy and I might put a a message in. I might just sit there for a while I don't know.

samtoby

P.S I 2nd the kangeroo type pouch. Yes please!

tea_lover

Think I may have reached the limit of what my stiff upper lip can cope with. Thought that 6 months later I'd be feeling better, having managed surprising well at the time. If anything I feel worse. Could happily go home to bed and just stop there.

Maybe you can't bypass grief by keeping busy, am starting to think it's just sitting there festering, waiting to drag me under.

samtoby

Sometimes things do hit you harder after the event. I dealt with my Fathers sudden death well at the time I thought but it all came crashing down over a year later.

I hope you feel better soon tea lover - have you thought about going to speak to anyone? (Tell me to beep off if thats not your bag)

xx

please-let-me-be-lucky

Thank you for your kind words Betty and Lara :A Xx

Sam and Tea Lover, sorry you are both struggling at the moment. Sometimes I think I'd go under if I didn't keep having yet more drama to deal with!! It's when everything calms down and you have time to think that things suddenly seem unsurmountable. Hugs to you both Xx