Miscarriage support

sweaty_betty

Just echoing what everyone else has said.

We're hoping to have our follow up appointment (from testing me, the placenta etc) in a few weeks and I just want them to say "this is the reason it happened, this is how we can stop it happening again". Or at least "here's a plan we can put in place when/if there's a next time".

Trouble is I was having appointments every 2 weeks as it was (because I have diabetes) so I'm not sure what else they could monitor

Air cooled - I'm almost 39, so in a similar position to you. I'm very lucky to have my little boy but I really wanted a sibling for him. I guess all we can do is try, when we feel ready (although I'm not sure when that will be...).

Air_Cooled_75

Sweaty, I think they might keep an even closer eye next time ( from what I've read, but this varies around the country).

Hope you're doing 'ok'

My mum is still annoying me but I'm not letting it get to me, that's for another time.

Toooldforthis

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Just out of curiosity, have they given you any treatment plan for trying again? My gynae mentioned aspirin and progesterone if I get pg again, even if my results come back clear.

That's said, my second lot of blood tests seem to have gone awol now, my first were incorrectly stored and had to be repeated.

Hugs xx[/QUOTE]

The only thing the letter says is to take asprin which I did last time xx

Kitten_Pie

Betty, for our subsequent pregnancies we have had more monitoring than most people have but not as much as every 2 weeks (which we had with the boys) although they did take their cues from us and when I started getting anxious they upped the scans and near the same time in the pregnancy we lost the boys (32 weeks) they were happy to scan me every day if I wished. I ended up being in hospital from 35 weeks being monitored and then induced at 36 weeks as I was going a little insane and there were potential problems that could arise were I left.

I hope you get some answers to help put your mind at ease a little. It helped knowing the reason we lost the boys were because they were twins so when in subsequent pregnancies they were singletons there was no reason to think anything would go wrong. (not that it helped much but every little...)

lilymay1

Betty, I know how you feel about wanting 'an answer'. My situation is a little different to that of you and Kitten Pies as she was a singleton and it was human error.

Kitten is right that the care varies greatly all over the country. I really did have to fight to begin with with DS's pregnancy although my midwives were more helpful than hospital staff. With this pregnancy, EPU would have scanned me every day if I had wanted but of course I need good care at the end of my pregnancy when it matters, not at the start when we are all at the mercy of fate. I am yet to see what my consultant this time around is like, although she seemed okay when I saw her in the infertility clinic.

I have said some things I regret to hospital staff but I have come across many (mainly registras) who seem unable to listen. The one phrase I can not stand still remains "I know how you feel". A male registra said that to me when I was about 28 weeks with DS and I just saw red. I think he learned something med school couldn't have taught him that day.

I really hope you get some answers in the coming months and that, in the nicest way possible, what happened was just 'unlucky', for want of a better word.

fran-o

Just checking in to send love and sympathies to everyone whose finding this royal baby coverage too much xx

claire16c

I just watched them come out of the hospital & I am really trying not to cry as I should have had my baby by now. But I also felt very happy for them & liked how real and 'normal' they came across as. I think I'm only managing though as I'm pregnant again, I'm so pleased it happened before this or id be so upset, as they got married just after us, the due date was just after ours, she even started being sick just after me & when I was ill all they were talking about everywhere was morning sickness, but then my journey ended & I had to endure all the bump picture etc although I'd never wish anything bad on them.

Just an odd day for me.

Air_Cooled_75

I just thinking how happy they are, and how sad I feel. I've been crying over it all. I'm pleased for them, I just want to say 'love this baby to bits'. I'm pretty sure they will. I don't really know what I'm trying to say, I know people have issues with the royal family but all I can think at the moment is that I'm glad they have their son in their arms x

any_name_will_suffice

yep, an odd day for me too

claire16c

I'm spending each & every moment thinking about miscarriage right now, I just can't seem to enjoy being pregnant even though I've wanted it for months. Now it's finally happened I feel really pessimistic.