Miscarriage support

pigpen

Huge hugs Betty xxx You shall be in my thoughts today and I'll light one of my favourite candles to guide their way, it's not much I know . It makes perfect sense they should be together. I hope today goes exactly as you want it to and you get at least a little closure. xx

lilymay1

I know how hard today will be for you Betty. I will be thinking of you, your family and your boys.

Lily xxxx

Metranil_Vavin

Thoughts with you today Betty xx

TeamLowe

thoughts are with you today Betty, and your family and your boys too, who'll always have each other xx

please-let-me-be-lucky

Thinking of you betty Xx

Aircooled I hope you are doing ok too Xx

claire16c

Betty im thinking of you. I don't really know what else to say other than I'm so sad for you xx

sweaty_betty

Thank you all for the lovely messages. I feel a bit numb to be honest.

I carried the coffin from the car until it was time to put them actually in the grave, my OH couldn't bear the thought of doing this. I think he was more openly upset than I was, but possibly because I've forced myself to face things by writing the funeral, organising the flowers, going to see them at the funeral directors. However, saying this, it might hit me hard later on... The service was nice (I would say that!) and when we released a couple of balloons with their names on, it was such a clear day that we could see them drift away for quite a distance. It was really hard just leaving them there though - I'm trying not to think about it.

Thank you again and hope you're all doing OK.

lilymay1

Everything you have said is exactly how I felt, except the weather was horrendous. We wanted to have it all done by the graveside but had to go into the church. I remember sitting on the edge of the grave staring at her coffin thinking this is really it. It look a long time for me to get over the fact I would never be able to hold her, smell her or touch her again. OH had to virtually carry me away the last time we visited her at the funeral home. I literally just couldn't leave.

The idea of letting some balloons go sounds so lovely. I think it is totally normal to feel numb at this point. What do you do now? Where do you go from here. I'm not sure the funeral gave me closure - more just forced me to move on.

A friend of mine (who had also lost her baby) said to me "We belong to a club that no-one wants to join". I like that somehow. Burying your child is just wrong on so many levels.

Take care, and I wish you all the very very best

Lily xx

msb5262

sweaty_betty wrote: »

Thank you all for the lovely messages. I feel a bit numb to be honest.

I carried the coffin from the car until it was time to put them actually in the grave, my OH couldn't bear the thought of doing this. I think he was more openly upset than I was, but possibly because I've forced myself to face things by writing the funeral, organising the flowers, going to see them at the funeral directors. However, saying this, it might hit me hard later on... The service was nice (I would say that!) and when we released a couple of balloons with their names on, it was such a clear day that we could see them drift away for quite a distance. It was really hard just leaving them there though - I'm trying not to think about it.

Thank you again and hope you're all doing OK.

Betty - I don't know what to say. You are all in my thoughts and will continue to be. Take care of yourself xx

ncsmummy

Thinking of you Betty & also you too aircooled. x