Miscarriage support

please-let-me-be-lucky

Big hugs Claire.

I agree with abis, my due date (mid may) was hard, but afterwards I felt a little bit of a release. There were days up until 2 weeks later whereby I tortured myself thinking "would he/she be here now or would I still be pregnant and waiting?" but it did get better.

I planted some rhododendrons in memory of my little one in the garden, because they flower in May, and I can honestly say I now smile when looking at them. Baby won't be forgotten but the hurt will lessen I promise.

Xx

purcy81

Thinking of you today Claire xx. Big hugs x

any_name_will_suffice

hugs claire xx

it's a year today since I found out about my first mc, and my best friend is currently in labour.

I do have a glass of wine though

claire16c

Oh god you guys have set me off again

I totally agree about the deadline thing, I am SO sick of thinking 'I should be pregnant now'

Well from tomorrow onwards - or I expect like you say please let me be lucky 2 weeks or so I can finally stop thinking that.

Yes I will then think ' I should have a baby now' but I don't know somehow the pregnant thing is worse.

Had a bit of a cry earlier but feeling a bit better as I'm actually having a normal cycle & bizarrely ovulating today/tomorrow so happy about that & at least can spend the evening trying to make another baby!

I don't think we'll do anything really to mark it, I think I'd just end up a bawling mess. I've thought about this date for so long I just want it over.

The only annoying thing is that as its the 4th of July I will always be reminded of it in films /tv /songs etc x

claire16c

any_name_will_suffice wrote: »

hugs claire xx

it's a year today since I found out about my first mc, and my best friend is currently in labour.

I do have a glass of wine though

That's hard. I can't even bear to think of that day in December. I hate how miscarriages create so many awful milestones.

Peonie

For me it's hard to see the photos of babies on FB that were born around the same time as mine was due. I'll forever what their development and think mine should be that size, crawling etc.

claire16c

Peonie wrote: »

For me it's hard to see the photos of babies on FB that were born around the same time as mine was due. I'll forever what their development and think mine should be that size, crawling etc.

Yup and I'm gonna have bloody Kate Middleton for that so no getting away from it. Forever.

They got married 10 days after me so I thought it was funny when I found out she would probably be due about a similar length after me. They even said she might have had the baby in our local hospital if the baby came by surprise & we joked I'd go into labour the same day, and the hospital would shut down & I'd have to give birth in the car park or something.

Now it's just annoying.

claire16c

I just heard that a friend of a friend who is pregnant got told at the 20 week scan the baby has heart problems & probably won't survive.

Sometimes I wonder how any of us are actually here x

any_name_will_suffice

oh no claire, that's so sad

Well, on 4th july, it was one year since I found out I had had a mmc, the first of three.

This year, I still haven't had my results back from the hospital and feel I'm no further forward with finding out if there's a problem. On 4th, my closest friend gave birth to a baby girl, and another old friend gave birth to twins.

Last night, I tried to talk to OH about how sad that made me feel, but he made some cutting comment about not reading anything into the significance, and that was that really. So, I have to tell you guys, because I can't talk to anyone else (I can hardly tell my friend!)

I suppose I am always going to have a painful reminder, but it's nice in a way that that date will also be marked by something so happy and joyous.

We stopped ttc in April, while we waited for results from the mc specialist, but if I'm honest, the break has done my head a lot of good, and I feel more relaxed and calm about things than I have felt in a long while. But I am definitely ready to start again, it's just frustrating I haven't got the results yet.

If they come back negative, I am wondering if they will test me for celiacs. I was diagnosed with IBS some years ago, and my mum has just been diagnosed with celiacs, and I understand there's a hereditary link, so I'm wondering if maybe it's not IBS after all. There's lots of research to suggest undiagnosed and unmanaged celiacs can be a cause of recurrent miscarriage. I'm terrible for self- diagnosing, but I do feel shattered all the time, and have lost quite a bit of weight recently without any real changes to my lifestyle, on top of usual IBS symptoms.

Although, I am aware I am just sounding quite desperate, and I can't imagine the consultant being very happy if I walk in with armfuls of internet research and complaining about losing weight :rotfl:

big hugs to all ladies who need them xx

msb5262

any name will suffice -
sorry you're having a hard time with your OH. I think it's almost impossible for some men to understand where we're coming from where miscarriage/loss is concerned.
Glad you are feeling better in your head and you don't sound desperate to me, just completely normal. Hope you get some results soon and can move forward.

Love
MsB x