Miscarriage support

Air_Cooled_75

Iris, you are brave going back to work in your environment. I have a couple of friends who are due around my due date. I feel the same way about them as I do any pregnant lady though...it's not my baby you're having...I don't have a problem with it...does that make sense? And again, I am so sorry for your loss.
Lilymay, that sounds beautiful. We aren't religious either which is why we've found a Humanist Minister to conduct the ceremony. We were told the chaplain at the hospital was very good though, even in a non-religious capacity. Isn't it awful though, planning a funeral at the best of times isn't great, to do it for a little baby just seems so much worse.

Thanks to all you ladies and your very kind words and support. Coming on here really has helped, it feels so lonely and as though you're the only ones going through it, you are all very warm and accommodating in a way family and friends wouldn't necessarily be (try as they might)

And Sweaty Betty, we are really going through it together! So much in our lives that are similar, sadly not in a good way but I'm here for you if you need a shout or cry or whatever. And I extend that to anyone else here! I might not offer the best advice but please feel free to contact me...

It sounds corny but I really wouldn't wish this on anyone, no matter what they had done...my worst enemy or whatever.

Went back to bed about 7am after another shocking night's sleep (think I will go to the Drs on Monday if I'm still having the same) and felt pretty good when I got back up, took the dog out for a walk in the afternoon and just started crying half way up the road.

msb5262

ncsmummy wrote: »

My OH is very supportive and he encourages me to talk t him about things, its just the mental block I seem to have when it comes to talking. I know he has found it hard too but he has been so strong for me. I feel like I am crazy for being so emotional, I know other people go through far worse and I almost feel guilty for being so emotional if that makes any sense? x

You are completely NOT crazy for being so emotional - this isn't a competition to see who's had the worst time; please try to give yourself permission to feel however you're feeling until you don't feel like it any more.

I think women also suffer particularly with hormonal ebb and flow making the natural ups and downs worse...also it's hard to avoid pregnancy announcements etc from friends, colleagues and acquaintances if you're in that age group.

Keep posting and if you're struggling, maybe think about getting some help, whether it's from your GP or from the Miscarriage Association or from another source - but don't suffer in silence thinking you are mad. You are not mad and you are not alone.

Hope that helps,

love from MsB x

Air_Cooled_75

Ro, thank you and sorry x

Ncsmummy, sorry too x

I feel the need to apologise, I can ramble but seem to ignore some lovely and helpful comments, please believe me this isn't deliberate and if at any time I've come across as offhand I'm very sorry xx

msb5262

Air_Cooled_75 wrote: »

I feel the need to apologise, I can ramble but seem to ignore some lovely and helpful comments, please believe me this isn't deliberate and if at any time I've come across as offhand I'm very sorry xx

Please don't say that about yourself! I don't think anyone feels you are offhand...be kind to yourself, Air Cooled, you are having a very hard time. Hope your sleep improves a little, although a visit to the GP sounds like a great idea anyway.

Take care of yourself - and accept any RL help/support you are offered

MsB x

ncsmummy

Thanks all. I know its just the natural emotional ups and downs, it just always takes me by surprise when it hits.
Air cooled, you are exactly right, it does all feel very lonely and thats why places like this are so amazing, bringing people together to support each other and finding people who know what it feels like. x

ncsmummy

I agree with msb, definitely nothing to apologise for, you are going through an awful time and noone would think you were beng offhand x

sweaty_betty

Thank you all for lovely messages, it's good to known others appreciate how we're feeling (even though I wouldn't wish this on anyone...)
I've had an awful day, a real black cloud has come down over me, I couldn't bear to see anyone, didn't have the energy to interact with my little boy (feel like a rubbish mum for that) it's been dreadful. I've had periods of depression in the past and it was as bad as that, if not worse. I've ended up getting some pills from the out of hours GP to help me sleep, I'm going to make a GP appointment first thing on Monday.

Sorry to put a downer on things, I'm hoping tomorrow will be much better

msb5262

Sorry your day has been so dark, Betty - and nobody would judge you for struggling to interact with your little boy. I hope you have some support and help, and I'm glad you're planning to see your GP. Lay it down the line how awful you're feeling.

Take care of yourself and I hope the next few days go ok

love from MsB x

Air_Cooled_75

Just lost my post

The gist of it was I also don't have the energy for my LO.

I've also suffered from depression in the past bit luckily not for about 10 years now. I'm not feeling 'the cloud' at the moment but sleep was always a bit of an indicator in the past that something was on the turn.

I'm going off ok but then wake after a couple/few hours then just keep going over and over the night I went into labour.

*Ro*

Air_Cooled_75 wrote: »

Just lost my post

The gist of it was I also don't have the energy for my LO.

I've also suffered from depression in the past bit luckily not for about 10 years now. I'm not feeling 'the cloud' at the moment but sleep was always a bit of an indicator in the past that something was on the turn.

I'm going off ok but then wake after a couple/few hours then just keep going over and over the night I went into labour.

I hope that as you have experienced depression before you can try and get help earlier by recognising much earlier if you need help, if you need it get it. Going over things is very hard, I do wish there was a magic off switch. I think that I watched so many films I had a love film subscription to try and occupy myself, if there is anything you can do to occupy yourself it might help.
Having a child to look after whilst going through this I cannot imagine. They will be fine, healing yourself is more important at this time just take it a day at a time and do what you can with your child, do not feel guilty x