Miscarriage support

*Ro*

Big hugs to all those struggling with loss.

Iris36- I came across your post and could not read and run. Three months on is still early days, be gentle on yourself you are allowed to be upset. My mother said to me don't underestimate how upset you may be and she was right but time does heal although you never forget. I sat next to a pregnant colleague after my mc (I didn't tell her) that was a struggle but working in a baby room must be vrry hard, can you change rooms? Sorry if you can't. After my mc we planned a couple of months down the line to go away for a quiet break and it helped us heal but I still had ups and downs for some time after, don't expect too much take it as it comes. I wish you all the best with trying again, this thread is a good support, we have a son now so want to say you can get there X

Air_Cooled_75

Sorry for your loss Iris.

I had a particularly bad start to the day. I woke up at midnight, got back to sleep about 4 then LO came in about 5.

Trip to funeral directors this morning too. Ruben is there with them now. I don't want to see him, I think he'll look too different from the last time...

Saw the Humanist lady today and she was brilliant. She even left us feeling 'better'

Now I feel carp again as I have my mum on my mind x

*Ro*

Air cooled 75 :grouphug: I think you could use as bigger hug than that. I am Glad that the humanist lady has helped, I hope she is able to come back again. I am sending you strength to get through this difficult time. I hope that by talking about what is happening helps in a small way and that we are very much listening. I am sorry about your mum being on your mind x

claire16c

Iris I'm so sorry for your loss. You are welcome to post on the ttc thread too. I'm in a similar situation to yourself.

Air cooled what an awful day. I read your other thread & I'm annoyed for you your mum isn't being supportive.

Iris36

Ro Thank you for your kind words I know its still early days but I just keep thinking of where we should be now. We planned to go away but finding the time and money is difficult. This thread is a good way to express myself and it's good to read about good news in between all the sad.

Air cooled you must be so strong. It must be so hard going through what your going through and our thoughts go out to you at this time.

claire Thank you and I think it might be helpful for me to write on the ttc forum. We wish you all the luck in the world.

X

sweaty_betty

Air cooled - just PMed you.

We seem to be mirroring lives at the moment - I was in touch with a lady who'll be running our funeral today. I've written most the funeral (I used to write services, although I never envisaged writing my children's funeral) which was partially cathartic but really hard, I cried most of the way through writing it.

It looks like our funeral won't be until the week after next now as apparently there are 4 other baby funerals being run by our funeral directors next week - I don't mind waiting too much as I'm dreading it, but at the same time I just want it over with.

I have gone from never wanting to put myself through this again to being desperate to try for another baby asap - I think it's just the hormones and the overwhelming urge to "put things right". My OH is still in the other camp, I can't say I blame him, I just hope he changes his mind as it's all I'm hanging on to at the moment.

Sorry to ramble on...

sweaty_betty

Sorry, meant to add, Iris I really feel for you. Especially dealing with babies every day. I really wish there was some advice I could give you. At the moment I'm feeling that I can be around babies, but not pregnant women at the same stage I was - this is going to be tricky as a few of my friends are also pregnant. I'm hoping that if I give them a wide berth for a while (they don't live locally so I can do this without offending/them noticing hopefully) then I should be able to deal with things better once I see them again.

skintchick

Iris, I had that with one of my miscarriages - we went for the scan and the baby had died. It was one of the worst moments of my life, I can still picture it now and it was over a year ago (I think it was my fourth mc but I've had five so I forget which was which sometimes).

It takes a very long time to begin to heal after mc so give yourself time and space and post here for support cos we have all been there and we know how it feels.

(((hugs)))

*Ro*

Just popped on to see how you are all coping am thinking of you all xx

Iris - I used to be the same thinking where we should be, you can't help it, it was a lot of effort to try and distract myself. That little puppy who's not a puppy anymore on my profile pic who is my mums was my great distraction, I look after him for my mum. Hope in time you are able to find the time and save to go away though I know it's hard with bills and all.

Skintchick- am sorry for your losses x

Sweatybetty- Sending you strength, am sorry too and ramble away that's what this forum is all for and there is always someone to give support. Sometimes I think it's easier to say the things you really can't say in RL on here x

Iris36

Skintchick i'm sorry for your lose. I am finding it helpful to post on here and read about others.

I know i am lucky because i have the love and support of my family behind me. My husband is very supportive and he is the one who encouraged me to write on here. I would be lost without him to hold me together.

Big hugs to everyone and the support on here is amazing. X