Miscarriage support

BugglyB

tea_lover wrote: »

Thank you for this, that is very much how I feel, and in some ways it is a reassurance that someone else can understand that (although of course I would never for a second wish this on anyone else, but I'm sure you all get what I mean).

I'm not ruling out counselling, I do think it would help to talk to someone as at the moment it's like my head is just churning. It would be great to get it all out (somewhere other than here!) I had so much time off during IVF though, and I'm now full-time again so appts would be tricky. My boss is great, and would tell me to just go, but I feel like I've taken advantage already over the last few months.

There was a tiny newborn at church yesterday and that pretty much finished me off. My face still hurts from clenching my teeth so hard all morning.

Yeah. I've been there.

I remember when Carla Bruni (of all people) announced her pregnancy, I read it on the subtitles of the BBC news on the telly behind the bar of our local pub., The first thought that popped into my head was 'f*****g b**h' (sorry for the swearing!) - which then made me cry - I'm not like that! - and then I had to go home. Thats what prompted me to go to counselling! I had to regain control of my life!

I had counselling through an 'affordable counselling scheme' in my town - it was £35 an hour. A lot of money, yes, but what price sanity. Mine was an evening session too, at half seven, so I didnt have to have time off work.

faithhope

Hi

Thanks for your replies and support. When I was told by text it would be a guy calling I was thinking hmm, will he understand? But then I thought, don't be negative before it's even started and who's to say a woman would have any more understanding if she hadn't been through a mc? The thing is he was really nice but sounded as if he had just graduated or something so he knew all the theory but didn't sound like he'd had any major setbacks or lived really. It was getting recorded for his training so at least I hope someone says sh*t! You shouldn't have said that!

I will see how it goes with the CBT. I am seriously considering paying for counselling but it is such a lot of money that we don't have. Although we had a survey on our house, now that we're in it seems to be like the house that jack built and we keep finding things that need doing.

My problem as well is I always feel worse when I'm due to ov so last night when we had to BD I was being really weird with DH and then started crying before it. Still we managed

Hugs to you all, i know you're going through a rough time too xx

Peonie

Hi, tomorrow's the first anniversary of my miscarriage. Another milestone and still no pregnancy.

msb5262

Peonie wrote: »

Hi, tomorrow's the first anniversary of my miscarriage. Another milestone and still no pregnancy.

Oh Peonie - I'm sorry. These wretched milestones loom up and smack you in the face.

I hope you can have some quiet time to yourself tomorrow if that's what you'd like, will be thinking of you

MsB x

Peonie

Thanks MsB, unfortunately I'm at work but at least it should stop me from moping around. I want to mark the day some how, as I don't want it to be just another normal day, but I don't know what to do. Any suggestions?

Toooldforthis

Spoke to hospital they have the results from the last miscarriage just waiting for them to tell me now. ... scared

claire16c

Hi peonie I'm so sorry to read that. There are so many awful milestones.

Toft - good luck.xx

Air_Cooled_75

Hello everyone, I'm sorry for all your losses, I really am. This time last week I went into labour at 21 weeks. My waters had gone 2 weeks earlier. Our baby boy was born in the early hours and lived for nearly 4 hours. We registered his birth and death today.

I'm sorry if I'm posting in the wrong place, I'm not really thinking too straight at the moment.

starshinning

hugs to everyone xxx air cooled hug hugs sorry for your loss post where ever you like xxx hugs x

TeamLowe

Too old be thinking of you, I hope the results are helpful x

Air cooled so sorry to hear of your loss, please take good care of yourself, the ladies here are very supportive so post as much as you like x