Miscarriage support

claire16c

amus wrote: »

Feeling a bit !!!!!! here today. This is the month my baby was due so am finding it a bit difficult seeing heavily pregnant women and thinking it should be me.

Im dreading that day.

I hope you can get through it ok big hugs x

Jox

I'm taking St John's Wort for my self-diagnosed depression, been taking 3 tablets a day for about a week, waiting for it to kick it. Also went to the gym last night for the first time in ages. I've been comforting eating since the miscarriage in August and have put on a stone and gone up a dress size, nothing fits. The exercise cheered me up. It's very quiet and boring at work but glad to have a job, I need the money!

Sorry for you ladies struggling at the moment xx

claire16c

I keep meaning to do my wii just dance but haven't felt like it yet. I'm aiming for by the end of Sunday, it always makes me feel better afterwards.

Just annoyed by this minute spotting, if you can even call it that. Just want my cycle to get going.

clare1angel

Hi claire,
I have been off work since 21st November and my work place have a strict sickness policy and although they may be caring they can't change the policy and like I said I should be going back today but I just can't face it so I'm going to see my doctor later and see if he will sign me off for a bit longer but I still feel like a fraud because there is nothing physically wrong with me and a work friend of mine text me a few days ago asking when I would be going back and I said I wasn't sure and she replied by saying that I needed to get back to normality which made me feel even worse!
I've never been through this before and everything is so raw I mean I can't even bear to touch my stomach and do not even like looking at it which probably sounds daft but I just feel empty. I'm also worried because when I was having my scans at the EPAU they found a cyst and I have an appointment on Thursday so they can check it out properly so that is also playing on my mind because I'm worried that could harm my chances of trying again.
Which leads on to me and my husband being intimate! We have always had a good sex life and over the last 6-7 weeks I have been bleeding and spotting on and off and also haven't felt like sex - which my husband completely understands - but now I do want that intimacy with him but as I am not on any contraception I have said that we will have to use condoms for a while as I wanted to have a period before we started trying but then I start panicking about me actually getting pregnant again and miscarrying again :-(
I have found a local meeting to go to which I'm hoping will help but they don't meet until next week and it's only once a month but I suppose I will just have to see how it goes.
Sorry if I have gone on too much - again!
I hope everyone is doing ok

Clare* :A

amus

Hi clare,

I dont think there is any right or wrong reaction, everybody copes differently.

Personally I went back to work as soon as I could as I felt that sitting at home stewing was bringing me down, so going back to work helped take my mind off it.

Does your local PCT offer any counseling you feel you would benefit from?

If you feel ready to start trying again I found that helped me.

clare1angel

Hi amus,

The work I do isn't particularly demanding and I would be doing just as much thinking over things there as I would at home and I will go back to work but I just feel like I'm not ready yet which is strange for me as I usually just get up and carry on but I don't feel I can do that at the moment.

I asked my doctor about support groups, which I got a number for, but I think this whole situation has bought up a lot of issues from my past that I haven't dealt with before so when I go later I'm going to ask him about some counseling.
I'm also having a lot of trouble with my sleeping which is getting me down as well.

I do want to try again but just nervous and scared which I suppose is normal for anyone who has been through a miscarriage.

Clare* :A

please-let-me-be-lucky

Hi Clare, sorry you are still feeling down and I hope the Dr will sign you off for a bit longer if you think that will be best for you.

Re the cyst, did they mention at the hospital if it could be a pregnancy supporting cyst? I was pregnant unbeknownst to me (I had a coil fitted so had assumed I wouldn't be pregnant!) in 2011 and I only found out when I was taken into hospital with severe stomach pains. The urine test showed a positive pregnancy result but they were worried it was ectopic as they couldn't see a baby in the womb, just a mass in the fallopian tube. Anyway, short version of a long story is that the coil had caused a miscarriage and the baby had gone, but the mass was a pregnancy supporting cyst. When I went back for a follow up scan 3 months later it had disappeared. Xx

Ps, re the post I made a few pages back asking if I should get checked out as I was still bleeding 5 weeks after ERPC, a lump of tissue then literally fell out of me :eek: so I rang the hospital and they asked me to go back in. The bleeding then stopped immediately so I assume this had been the problem and they hadn't got everything during the op. However, I've been referred to a consultant gynaecologist to get checked out properly. I just wanted to say for anyone reading this in future, trust your instincts. If it doesn't seem right, it probably isn't! Xx

clare1angel

Hi please-let-me-be-lucky,

I think they referred to the cyst as a dermoid cyst? I was going to google it but I think it will just worry me more so was trying to resist the temptation and just wait until I go to my hospital appointment on Thursday and see what they say.
They were telling me not to worry about it but I can't help thinking that this cyst affected my pregnancy but I think I'm just looking for an answer to why and I know there often isn't even a reason :-(

Thanks for your reply

Clare* :A

fraz_babe

Hi ladies can i join your thread please?

I have just recently suffered another miscarriage on sunday and just still bleeding still at the moment with awful cramps

I had my son december 2010, miscarriage september 2011, chemical pregnancy november 2012, and then i got pregnant in december but sadly miscarried again.

I have a follow up scan at my epu next monday to check everything has come away which i hope and i think it seems to be coming away ok. I passed big blood clots and just passing small ones now hopefully thats a good sign that its the sac.

Me and my boyfriend have both decided we would like to ttc again straight after i stop bleeding. We just want another healthy baby so bad .. but im also scared as i cant face having another miscarriage.

Hope everyone is well gutted to the awful start ive had to 2013. xx

please-let-me-be-lucky

So sorry to read your news fraz. Big hugs.

I hope 2013 gets a whole lot better for you soon Xx