Miscarriage support

msb5262

Hang in there Claire - it sounds as if it's all 3 steps forward, 2 steps back. Tomorrow night won't be easy for you so see if you can plan something completely different for yourselves...go to a film or watch a DVD, meet up with people you don't see very often...just try to make it busy so you have something to focus on.
Things are going to get better for you, just not all at once. I hope you find a way to feel a bit better soon.
MsB x

Jox

Sorry you're still feeling down claire, it's gonna take time, it's been 4 months since my miscarriage and I'm not over it yet, just started my period, really gave the TTC thing a big go last month as well! Hubby was happy to be getting so much attention!

Here's to a better 2013 for all of us, but that's life, good times and bad and what will be will be etc...

TeamLowe

Claire I remember that feeling well, I'm not a patient person and very much wanted to will myself better and would get frustrated on the days when I was overwhelmed with sadness because I just wanted to be happy again.

it will come, just not on your timescale, grief has its own weird and wonderful way of ebbing away until it's gone from completely surrounding you to being pocket sized.

patience is a virtue and a hard one to attain x x

claire16c

msb5262 wrote: »

Hang in there Claire - it sounds as if it's all 3 steps forward, 2 steps back. Tomorrow night won't be easy for you so see if you can plan something completely different for yourselves...go to a film or watch a DVD, meet up with people you don't see very often...just try to make it busy so you have something to focus on.
Things are going to get better for you, just not all at once. I hope you find a way to feel a bit better soon.
MsB x

That sums it up exactly. I go forward and then get dragged back again. I feel so positive but then remember that Im not pregnant anymore and its awful.

Jox wrote: »

Sorry you're still feeling down claire, it's gonna take time, it's been 4 months since my miscarriage and I'm not over it yet, just started my period, really gave the TTC thing a big go last month as well! Hubby was happy to be getting so much attention!

Here's to a better 2013 for all of us, but that's life, good times and bad and what will be will be etc...

I hope so too Yes poor hubby has been lacking in that dept for a very long time as I was so sick when I got pg!

TeamLowe wrote: »

Claire I remember that feeling well, I'm not a patient person and very much wanted to will myself better and would get frustrated on the days when I was overwhelmed with sadness because I just wanted to be happy again.

it will come, just not on your timescale, grief has its own weird and wonderful way of ebbing away until it's gone from completely surrounding you to being pocket sized.

patience is a virtue and a hard one to attain x x

Yes Im extremely impatient! I cant wait for anything. And I waited 8 months to get pg and then it was all taken away. So now Im desperate to start getting my cycle back.

Its not like I even think I will get pg straight away, I just want to be in a position to at least try!

Metranil_Vavin

Here's hoping 2013 brings happier times all round, it's certainly been a difficult year for so many.

Only time passing helped me to slowly feel better claire. Don't put too much pressure on yourself to feel better quickly.

It used to really hit me when I least expected it. I used to be going along just fine at work for example, and then BAM..it would hit me again like a ton of bricks, and I would have to take myself off to the toilet on the top floor of the building and cry my eyes out.

claire16c

That's what I'm worrying about happening next week as at the moment I'm planning on going back on Monday.

Had a dreadful night last night hysterically crying mainly brought on by the new year, & feeling that the year we lost our baby was already over and I said to DH the only way I could explain it was it was making me feel like we had 'left' our baby in 2012 & the whole pregnancy seems like a dream now.

He said we will never forget them so it doesn't matter it's 2013 it's just a number. Which is true. I just get these thoughts in my head about stuff like that that make me feel so upset.

I just want to get rid of all the Christmas stuff in my house now to try to help with moving on.

SusanC_2

claire16c wrote: »

Had a dreadful night last night hysterically crying mainly brought on by the new year, & feeling that the year we lost our baby was already over and I said to DH the only way I could explain it was it was making me feel like we had 'left' our baby in 2012 & the whole pregnancy seems like a dream now.

I can understand that - I took bump photos after my baby had died because I felt like I needed to keep "proof" for myself that I'd been pregnant since I wasn't going to have a live baby. I think when you don't get the baby at the end of pregnancy it can feel like a dream or an imagining because you expect that end result and that is the whole purpose of the pregnancy and the usual result.

claire16c

SusanC wrote: »

I can understand that - I took bump photos after my baby had died because I felt like I needed to keep "proof" for myself that I'd been pregnant since I wasn't going to have a live baby. I think when you don't get the baby at the end of pregnancy it can feel like a dream or an imagining because you expect that end result and that is the whole purpose of the pregnancy and the usual result.

Yeah I have some pictures on my phone I can't bear to delete that I took a few weeks ago and I have the positive pregnancy test in the drawer upstairs. Just seems almost surreal now.

amus

Feeling a bit !!!!!! here today. This is the month my baby was due so am finding it a bit difficult seeing heavily pregnant women and thinking it should be me.

TeamLowe

lots of love to you amus, are you going to do anything to mark the day/make it easier? me and DH went away for the weekend when it was mine, nearly a year ago now as my due date was 7 January x