Miscarriage support

skintchick

Hi everyone, how are you all doing? Especially Clare and Claire?

I'm not so good today, keep thinking how I should have been eight months' pregnant, and thinking of my little babies in heaven, and have had a cry

I find Christmas a really hard time of year.

TeamLowe

lots of love skintchick, Christmas can be so hard when there's people missing my due date would have been January 2012 so last Christmas was very hard but as always, time has made the pain less so it's not as bad this year
would doing something for them help? I have a special candle I light when I'm thinking of my baby, I like to think she can see it and know how much I love and miss her
thinking lots of our newest members, I hope that you can enjoy Christmas as much as possible x x

claire16c

Skint chick huge hugs I'm so sorry you are having a bad day. Before this happened to me I could feel bad for someone who had a miscarriage but its only now I can understand the true pain of it- which I guess is true for a lot of things in life but I didn't understand before how awful it really is. You haven't just lost your baby (and in fact I'm not even liking the word 'miscarriage' right now) you've lost hopes and dreams you had for the future.

I'm still so tired but will definitely post a full
Update when I'm ready. DH and my parents have been fantastic in taking turns to look after me whilst the anaesthetic wears off.

claire16c

One thing that's not good today is I've got the morning sickness if I don't eat anything for a while feeling, plus a headache. Just want these hormones to sort themselves out!

clare1angel

Hi everyone, skintchick I hope you are feeling a bit better? I'm feeling out of sorts still it's like I don't know how to feel! I'm very good at hiding my emotions/feelings because I don't like to upset others or have them worrying about me I have always pulled myself together but I really don't think I'm going to be able to do it by myself this time.
I got a number for a miscarriage support group in my area but they only meet once a month and I got the info too late for this months meeting.
I find it worse when my hubby is at work - like now he's on nights - I find it hard to settle anyway when hes not here but its worse now :-(
Well I hope everyone is doing ok and claire16c I hope you are doing well and getting plenty of rest xx

Clare* :A

claire16c

Clare my DH is at work til mid day today work be honest I'm avoiding getting out of bed for a while. This was supposed to be my last day at work before Christmas, I thought it was gonna be a fun day in the office as we'd just be waiting to be told when we could go home. Instead I'm in bed wanting to cry. Xmas day should be ok it's only me DH & my parents but the next day my aunt. Uncle & nan are coming which I'm dreading as lovely as they are.

fran-o

Claire and Clare - just to say thinking of you lots and please take it easy and look after yourselves over christmas - don't feel obliged to do the whole festive thing if you aren't up to it.Your body and heart needs time to heal so be kind to yourself. Your close family will understand if you're not ready to be happy, and others don't need to know if you don't want them to. x

Skintchick - so sorry you are having a hard time with it at the moment. I hope you can have a peaceful christmas x

I'm looking forward to christmas though hoping it will be a quieter one than usual - I can't imagine we'll as loud or late into the night as usual. Although I am now having more good days than bad, my emotions are still very near to the surface all the time so am tearful at everything, christmas carols, christmas movies, christmas adverts even! I think NYE is going to be harder for us as its such a time for reflection, but we're going to spend it just the two of us.
I probably wont post on here for a bit, but just to say best wishes to you all for a peaceful and restful Christmas and thanks so much for all the support over the last few months, this board is golden x

SusanC_2

Hugs to everyone who is finding it hard at this time of year.

lemonmelon_2

I'd like to echo Susan's post - big hugs to everyone who finds a need to post here.
I think Christmas is so hard because its one of the big milestones we imagine being able to tell people at Christmas or eat a ton of mince pies because they'll be hidden by a bump or have our baby's first Christmas day or be a real family and when it feels like everyone else has these things it's damn hard to accept that we haven't.
I think we will one day though. I try to think that yes, things haven't gone the way I'd hoped and dreamed they would, but one day they will and we will all know how unbelievable precious that moment is. I'm feeling sad this Christmas but I'm still hoping that there will be a Christmas in the future when I do have all the things I've dreamed of. For now I've got my OH and we'll be enough for each other just now, we can still be a family together and we can still be thankful for each other.

newcook

Ive not been on here for a while but thought I would pop by and give a big virtual hug to those who need them xx

Had a bit of a few crappy weeks but Im getting by and trying very hard to move forward but its little things that seem to remind me of what could have been – a girl at work is a couple of weeks behind what I would have been so everytime I see her I look at her bump and wonder what mine would have looked like. I also would have been due for my 20 week scan around now which would have been an amazing Christmas present to know if it was a boy or a girl. I also found out the other day that my ex’s SIL is 5 weeks pregnant. Im really happy for her but at the same time feel deflated.

Well, it will soon be a new year so a new start and new beginnings – onwards and upwards eh?!