Miscarriage support

Jox

Hugs newcook, sometimes it takes a tragedy to test a relationship's strength, hope you have people to be there for you.

newcook

Thanks, my family and friends have been amazing! One of my friends has actual had 13 miscarriages (though she does also have 3 beautiful children so there is hope for those here who have had multiple losses) and she has been a tower of strength and an inspiration to me to be able to pick myself up and dust myself down.
Sometimes life is carp but then I take a look around and realize there are others who have had it so much worse but still come out the other side smiling.

SusanC_2

I'm so sorry to hear that newcook and I'm glad you have other supportive people in your life.

Wrt to getting back to normal, I ovulated within 2-3 weeks with the early ones and the later one I had my first period after five weeks and then normal cycles. I think it varies quite a lot though - I have a vague recollection of someone saying their Dr wouldn't do anything about lack of cycles until 90 days.

tinkwings

HUGS Newcook - I am having the funny coloured dis-charge end of period stuff at the moment so think it is pretty normal xxxxxx

lemonmelon_2

Oh I'm so sorry newcook - glad you have other people looking after you but it must be a really tough time for you. Please don't feel like you are on your own though, we are only a keyboard away. Thinking of you x

Toooldforthis

Sorry to hear everyone's bad news (((big hugs to all) ... I feel like I'm skating on thin ice at the mo ... Had a very faint positive line today ... Bloody scared !! X

any_name_will_suffice

Sorry to hear that newcook, I know OH and myself had a rocky patch during my last mc, and talked about going our seperate ways, although we managed (probably with the help of a well timed holiday) to come out the other side.

I'm totally fed up today. I think I'm maybe having hormone changes as I feel really grumpy and I know I've been short tempered, which is not good in my work and I'll probably end up with a complaint or something.

I've been working with a colleague who is pregnant and due around the same time as I would have been with my first pg this year. I had to apologise and explain that I was genuinely pleased for her, and didn't mean to be dismissive, change the subject and generally scowl at her for talking about babies, I ended up explaining how I had had 2 mc in 4 months and my head wasn't in a nice place. I felt like i blurted it out at her but i wanted her to understand i genuinely didn't mean any offence. I haven't told many people at work so I'm hoping she will be discreet.

And, I've started spotting again, and I'm getting paranoid that i will mc naturally, but it will happen at work or something. The hospital offered me a cancellation for this Friday, but it was too short notice and i panicked and turned it down before thinking it through. i wish i hadn't been so rash, I'm sure my friend would have agreed to take me.

Sorry for going on, just needed to off load. I'm in bed and I'm going to have a jolly good cry, which if I'm honest will be the first since the news at my scan, so it's probably well overdue.

Hugs to all,

Any name

portsmouthali

Well, here I am again

I found out I was pregnant at the end of September. My specialist put me on daily clexane injections - all my recurrent miscarriage tests came back negative but he's had a fair bit of success with this and felt it was worth a try so we went with it.

I had a scan 2 weeks ago which showed an embryo measuring 6+2 and a nice heartbeat. Went back today, there was good growth - but no heartbeat :(

Everyone at the hospital was incredibly kind. I'm going in tomorrow for an ERPC. Luckily my OH already had this week booked off as it's half term so he'll be around to take care of me.

I guess it gets easier in a way as I know what to expect but I can't really get my head round the fact that this the 5th time this has happened and no-one can tell us why. Having had a trouble-free pregnancy with my son 11 years ago I can only think it's my age (I'll be 40 in March) The consultant today said that next time we could try progesterone -part of me is willing to try anything but another part of me wonders if I can face all this again.

I hadn't posted on the less than 12 weeks thread as I've been on there so many times! I could write a book about the first 12 weeks of pregnancy! It's the 28 weeks after that I want to experience

Sad to see so many familiar names on here, and to see the thread so busy at the moment. Thinking of you all xxxx

fran-o

Hugs to everyone.
Spent half an hour with occupational health a work this afternoon, benefit of working for a large organisation. The adviser was lovely and basically told me I had no obligation to tell anyone the reasons behind my health problems, even my manager. All sickness is recorded and you normally have to supply a reason but adviser told me I don't have to give a reason if I don't want to. Anyway I decided I would tell my boss as I felt that's the best way for him to be understanding of me and he was fab. Phew.
Hospital appointment tomorrow, should be another scan to confirm what we already know followed by discussion around next steps. My mum is joining me as hubby is stuck at work.
I just feel exhausted at the moment- making tea, doing washing etc is such an effort and I'm mentally emotionally drained, not had a tear-free day since friday. I'm also having horrible dreams, I often get this when I'm stressed but last nights dream was a creepy woman telling me I had killed her baby...
Hugs to you all and thanks for your support xx

lemonmelon_2

Oh portsmouthali I'm so so sorry. Its just awful :-( :-( :-( thinking of you x

Fran I hope tomorrow goes as well as possible and you can make the decisions you need to. Well done for telling your boss.