Miscarriage support

skintchick

Lemon melon, I've had five mcs and will be TTC again in January after I've had bunion surgery. If you want to ask me anything go ahead. I have one DD who was my second pregnancy then we lost two in 2011 and two this year. I've had a break from TTC to get investigations done.

Hugs to all who need them. X x

SusanC_2

lemonmelon wrote: »

Does anyone have experience of ttc after three miscarriages?

Yes, when TTC#2 I had three pregnancies that all ended at different stages before having a successful pregnancy. I'm happy to answer any questions.

tinkwings

Hugs to all in need

I had horrid dreams last night really freaked me out :(:(:(

Took dd2 doc's yesterday & doc asked me how I was as she had the letter from the hospital. She said that I would have early scans next time & would be closely mointered

sweaty_betty

I'm also having horrible dreams - I wonder if it's a common experience after something like this?

I'd like to ask opinions if that's OK? I didn't originally intend to tell work about my miscarriage as I'm fairly new there and didn't want them to know. However, I'm now wondering if I should, as if it goes on record this sick absence can't be counted against me (pregnancy-related stuff isn't considered when looking at sickness patterns etc). Apparently the only person who would have access to the self-certification sick note I'd complete would be our HR woman, so hopefully no-one such as my line manager would find out...

Does this make sense? Any views would be appreciated

lemonmelon_2

Hugs tinks for horrid dreams - I've been having them too. I love your cakes on the ttc thread (I'm still reading but too scared to post again) - very seasonal That's really good about getting extra scans next time too - I've heard that just getting extra care and reassurance can make a difference so really hoping this will be true for you.

I'm so sorry for your loss budget budd - Its okay to be upset and angry and just feeling like things are so so so unfair, particularly when others seem to float through life. Let it out.

Sweaty betty - personally I have told my work every time as I was on long term sick last year I needed to tell them so I wouldn't be put on disciplinary things. My boss has pretty much ignored it though (I'm sure she just doesn't know how to deal with it but its still a bit hurtful that she hasn't even said sorry). I would just go with what you're comfortable with - If you can self certify and nobody else sees it then it might be worth telling them the truth but nobody would think badly of you if you didn't want to say - its a very personal thing.

MV - hope you're doing okay, how was the christening?

I'm feeling pretty up and down at the moment - I'm trying really hard not to wallow as I know doesn't help but I can't face seeing anyone. Our due date from my miscarriage in March is tomorrow and I was feeling much more positive about it thinking we'd be pregnant again but its quite hard to face feeling so empty.

tinkwings

HUGS for all the bad dreams & Cake!!!

Jox

yummy, thanks!

tinkwings

Betty - I told my work about my 1st MC ......I was on Mat leave for my 2nd so didn't say and this one I had already retired so just me as self employed to tell.

Metranil_Vavin

Lemonmelon, the christening went as well as can be expected, and actually it was so chaotic that I did actually push to the back of my mind what has happened recently. I went out with my best friend and her prtner on Saturday night after the christening too and got quite drunk which was fun..again we had a laugh and I didn't really think about anything.
The following day brought a bit of a crash though as I always feel crap after drinking.

I am so with you on the struggling to want to be around people. I can be a bit antisocial at the best of times, but trying to be on form around people at the moment is really difficult.

Hugs for your approaching due date x

newcook

Morning all,

Well, test is now showing as negative so fingers crossed I wont need any further treatment. Just need to wait for my periods to kick back in so I know all is back to normal working order – anyone know how long this takes?!

Also (and probably a TMI moment!) is anyone else still getting a funny colour discharge? Its almost like it’s the end of my period but its been going on for a week (since the bleeding stopped). I hope it stops soon as I am sick and tired (and in all honesty, a little sore) from having to wear panty liners/thin towels.

On another note, me and OH have split – we weren’t exactly rock solid before I found out I was pregnant and the miscarriage has pretty much crumbled anything that was keeping us together. I have to keep positive thinking though and tell myself that it was meant to be as if it hadn’t happened I probably would have ended up a single mom by the time the baby was born (not that I wouldn’t have been able to cope or manage but Im guessing no one would choose that for their kids).

Big hugs to those needing one and fingers crossed to those who are trying again xx