Miscarriage support

any_name_will_suffice

Aw TeamLowe and Abis, big hugs.

Lots of people at work are pregnant at the moment, one girl is due a few weeks before I would have been with my first pg this year which ended in mmc.

I have listened today to a conversation about baby clothes, and how many days until maternity leave.

I'm counting down the days until my erpc, and hoping my nausea goes then.

Sometimes it's just not fair.

lemonmelon_2

Big big hugs Abis, Team Lowe and Any Name. Sounds like a really rubbish day all round :-(

Abis, grr to mothers and their insensitivity, sometimes people really don't think before they speak but its a horrid feeling. Massive hugs for the BFN too, its a really tough ride

TeamLowe big hugs for not being happy :-( thinking of you

Anyname - I find it really tough with pregnant ladies too, it feels like other people have it very easy sometimes and I don't know why we don't. Thinking of you for the erpc, if it helps I have found my symptoms stopped quite soon after.

I have had my first day alone today since the miscarriage, OH and I were on holiday last week so he was there to hold my hand through it all, he has gone to work today (which I think will be really good for him) but I am not at all ready, I didn't want to see anyone so I have been for quite a long walk and made some soup and some spiced apple puree but I'm feeling quite rubbish. I really don't know where we go from here. I'm worried that this means we will never be able to have a baby and it makes me so so sad. Does anyone have experience of ttc after three miscarriages?

Big hugs to all of you. This really sucks.

Metranil_Vavin

Evening ladies. Sorry for all the sadness around. I doubt I can bring any cheer to this thread as I am still feeling really depressed about everything.

Lemon - I remember when my OH went back to work after my 1st mc, I found it really difficult. I didn't want to see anyone either, so I cooped myself up in my flat and festered.

I am effectively ttc after 2 early mc's, and I'm finding it thoroughly depressing. Try not to think negatively (says she..the Queen of negativity!). I honestly felt after my first mc that I would never have a baby, and I did.

If you have the time, read back to the first few pages of this thread. You can see the state of mind I was in then, and things did turn around. Don't know if it will help or not, but I found it quite comforting to read for myself in my darkest days.

Abis - I can understand fully why you are angry with your mother. Mine is a bit the same, has treated things I have told her in confidence in the past as gossip. I remember her once telling my Auntie that I had, had a payrise, and actually telling her exactly how much I earnt! I was so angry, she didn't seem to get that, that is really personal info and not for public consumption.

This is ov week for me, and although I am not OPKing or charting this week, I am already feeling the stress of knowing we should BD a few times this week. Neither of us is particularly in the mood, and I have visions of it turning out like last month..shudder.

budget_budd

Never thought Id be posting on this thread again, so sorry that its still so well used on the front page...
So sorry for everyone that is here, my second scan confirmed today that I have once again had a missed miscarriage and have booked ERPC for next week.
Feel empty and so angry just so angry, this one seems so much worse that the last one.

I am so mad at my mum cos when I told her I was pregnant she said "you know *my sister* is too" and I said yes she said "I hope hers is ok, no offence" Well my sisters 12 week scan shows hers is fine, my 12 week scan shows mine is not.

Sorry just so ANGRY.

xcarlyx

I want to send hugs to you all

I'm 19 and I have PCOS which means I have a high chance of miscarrying sadly and suffer with depression sometimes .

Aida_2

xcarlyx wrote: »

I want to send hugs to you all

I'm 19 and I have PCOS which means I have a high chance of miscarrying sadly and suffer with depression sometimes .

XCarly having PCOS doesn't mean you have high chances of mc. With PCOS it just difficult to get pregnant. Once you're pregnant you have the same chance to mc as any healthy woman.
Hope you have a mild form of PCOS...

any_name_will_suffice

budget_budd, sorry to hear your news.

it's very much ok to be angry. Sometimes it just doesn't seem fair!

Hugs x

budget_budd

Thanks any_name, made me cry a little...

hugs for you too x, waiting for ERPC with all the sickness is no fun. Its just such a tease. I have all the sickness, sore boobs etc and no baby, my sister has no sickness / symptoms but has a baby grrrrr.

xcarlyx

Aida wrote: »

XCarly having PCOS doesn't mean you have high chances of mc. With PCOS it just difficult to get pregnant. Once you're pregnant you have the same chance to mc as any healthy woman.
Hope you have a mild form of PCOS...

Yeah I have but ive recently had the implant injection and now my periods are totally messed up.

fran-o

Hugs all round ladies. What a miserable day and dark miserable evening
First day back in work today since having mc confirmed on Friday, swapped my usual desk for a quiet space in a shared office with a colleague I like and trust enough to tell my news. Was nice to escape my phone and be able to sit with head on desk for five minutes if needed.
Been trying to reach epu to get a date for erpc but keeping getting answer machine which is annoying. Feel like the longer I wait to get the procedure the later it'll be before I can start to move on.
Lemon melon- one of my close friends had three miscarriages (within about 15 months) and then conceived her older son on holiday. Second baby came reallly soon after with no mc. I don't know all the ins and outs of her health but anyway just wanted to let you know it's possible.
Thanks all for your support and hugs.