Miscarriage support

abis21

I did still do the OPK's even tho they didn't make much sense to me

But I thought I got a +ve on the 17th and we did DTD on the 17th. Neither of us were in the mood on the 18th so we didn't bother, and on the 19th I knew I ought to, but was so pooped I went to bed. This is a first! For the last few months I have forced the issue even when we weren't in the mood which has led to some not very good BD sessions, as then it does make it harder for DH to complete when we aren't in the mood.

I'm a control freak too, and I hate waiting for things. Feel like this has been the biggest n longest test of my life coping with it all, but I know it has made me a better and stronger person. I'm defo number 3 on tinks picture now, altho its taken a while to get there. Its also strengthened my relationship with DH no end too as he has been absolutely amazing with everything.

I think sometimes it can do you good to have a cycle away from TTC, but also it can be the wrong thing for you to do as well - especially for your mental health.

I would cope so much better to know I will be pregnant by x date or that it will definately work out next time we do get pregnant. But there isn't any guarentees sadly. I think I am starting to accept a little more that its a game of luck and theres not a lot you can do or not do to change your chances.

tinkwings

MV & Abis - You both sound just like me .

I just want to stop bleeding & stop getting + PG tests.:mad::mad::mad::o:o

Metranil_Vavin

Oh no you're still testing + Tink..that's rubbish I read back yesterday though, and the same thing happened to you last time.

It didn't take too long for you to test - though, and then conceive your lovely DD

abis I know what you mean about just wanting the ccomfort of knowing you will conceive and get your forever baby one day. I think if I knew for sure things would be ok eventually and I wasn't too old, I'd feel a lot better!

tinkwings

Metranil_Vavin wrote: »

Oh no you're still testing + Tink..that's rubbish I read back yesterday though, and the same thing happened to you last time.

Totally PANTS :mad: Just spoken to the doctor at the hospital & I have been called in for a scan tomorrow looks like it could be another erpc for me :o:(:(:(:(

Metranil_Vavin

Oh no

Big hugs hon x

TeamLowe

aww tinks that's totally rubbish!
at least they're taking good care of you x x

lemonmelon_2

Hugs Tink, that really sucks
Hugs to you too sweaty betty, I hope the episode were kind and the scan answered your questions, its horrible not knowing what's going on. I'm so sorry that you find yourself here.
It has been nice today to read from some of you how far you have come and how much stronger you are now. It has been reminding me that we have managed through this before and we can again, even though it doesn't feel like it at the moment and I wish so much we didn't have to.
I have decided to have an erpc tomorrow as its the only option I feel I can cope with at the moment, I wish I was strong enough or brave enough to do it naturally but I've done it before and I know that I just can't handle it this time. I'm hoping tomorrow will be as calm and peaceful as possible.
Thankyou so much to all of you for your support this week x

Metranil_Vavin

Glad you have come to a decision lemonmelon, and think you are doing the right thing.

I hope all goes well tomorrow and you can start looking forward again x

tinkwings

Lemon Good Luck for tomorrow will be holding you in my thoughts.xxxx

babyizzard

Thanks for you replies

Feeling a lot better today, but still not quite with it. Had a bit of a temp last night so took me forever to get a bit of sleep.

Thanks for the heads up on the other threads I'll go have a look for them now.

Sorry to everyone else who is still having a horrible time......wouldn't wish it on anybody