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lemonmelon wrote: »

Thank you all for your kind words (and thanks to anyone who posted on the less than 12 week thread but I just can't bring myself to look at that just now) I just feel so torn apart that our baby died and I didn't know - I should have known.

I haven't miscarried naturally so we need to think about the next steps to take but its hard to process. Thankyou again for the support x

Lemon I am so very very sorry Hugs Hugs Hugs xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

lemonmelon_2

Thank you Tink and for your picture, its very beautiful but at the moment it feels like the middle option might just get its way

abis21

It won't destroy you Lemon. It just feels like it will at the moment

Am still thinking of you lots and sending virtual hugs your way.

Are you staying off work for a while?

How is your OH/DH doing?

I found giving myself little things to take my mind off things helped in the first few days. I did a couple of jigsaws and made a new flavour of buns. Helped make me me zone out and not think so much about the bad things for a while.

MV - how you doing now? The first day back is always hard I keep seeing bumps n babies everywhere too I wrote on my status this morning that I felt ill n tired which I did, and someone wrote back that at least I had my new car for when I was feeling sicky and tired. I think I over reacted to her comment cos it looked to me like she was hinting I was pregnant and I thought everyone else would think she knew something they didn't. Think I am maybe getting a wee bit paranoid at times now

Babyizzard - So sorry for your losses There is also a multiple miscarriage thread which may help you? Skintchick has had 5 miscarriages and she started the thread. She has just been diagnosed with Factor V thingie too. Obviously you can chat to us too, but I'm afraid I won't be any help with a lot of what you will be going through

Tinks - How you doing huni? Thinking of you xx

sweaty_betty

Hello there - I feel a bit of a fraud posting here, after reading the last couple of pages I'm so sorry that many of you have had this happen more than once.

I'm sat here having a bit of a cry. I am/was between 4-5 weeks pregnant - it was a surprise as we weren't planning it, but a welcome one as we were planning on trying during the next year (we have a 2 year old LO). Anyway, I had a bit of bleeding last night and went to bed hoping it was just a one-off, however this morning there was lots of bright red blood and clots (sorry if TMI) that has kept coming, so I'm pretty sure this is the end. I have an appointment with the EPU in a couple of hours to confirm it.

I just feel very sad. I've not told anyone else (apart from my OH and our GP) so feel like I've no-one to talk to about this

Metranil_Vavin

Welcome Betty, sorry you have to post on here. Don't feel a fraud. No mc is easy no matter how early it was. I've just had 2 early one's in a row, and although my GP didn't seem to think it was much of a big deal, to me it's just horrendous.

I hope all goes ok at EPU, at least you are getting in there for an early scan and will get some answers asap. Hugs to you, it just sucks.

abis - I'm ok I guess. Still feeling pretty depressed about the whole thing, and can't get excited about anything much right now. How are you doing?

One thing I did do yesterday which helped me a bit was have a read right back at the beginning of this thread when Ali first started it. I was going through my first mc before my DS, and I was in a similar frame of mind to how I am now, thinking I was never going to get through it/never have a baby etc.

Seeing how things panned out helps a bit, and gives me a bit of hope that all will be ok again one day. How long that will take I do not know though.

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lemonmelon wrote: »

Thank you Tink and for your picture, its very beautiful but at the moment it feels like the middle option might just get its way

Oh Lemon I understand totallu how you feel You are stronger then you know xxxx

abis21

Sorry to see you over here sweaty betty Hope your appointment at EPU goes ok.

MV - I had a look back a while ago at when I first posted and how far I have come since then. It was wierd looking back on my old self and remembering how awful the pain was back then. It does really take time to heal I suppose. I remember the days going so slowly at first, it was such hard work.

I'm a lot brighter and more relaxed at the mo. I think I'm about 7dpo, and this month I am actually doing sooooo much better and its probably the least I have thought about being/getting pregnant in the last 2-3 years. I seem to have taken a chill pill, but not quite sure how or why that happened?! Its a good thing tho so I aren't complaining Its my birthday in 10 days, so if I am out again this month at least I can get vair drunk

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sweaty_betty wrote: »

Hello there - I feel a bit of a fraud posting here, after reading the last couple of pages I'm so sorry that many of you have had this happen more than once.

I'm sat here having a bit of a cry. I am/was between 4-5 weeks pregnant - it was a surprise as we weren't planning it, but a welcome one as we were planning on trying during the next year (we have a 2 year old LO). Anyway, I had a bit of bleeding last night and went to bed hoping it was just a one-off, however this morning there was lots of bright red blood and clots (sorry if TMI) that has kept coming, so I'm pretty sure this is the end. I have an appointment with the EPU in a couple of hours to confirm it.

I just feel very sad. I've not told anyone else (apart from my OH and our GP) so feel like I've no-one to talk to about this

Thinking of you at the EPU sending hugs xxxxx

Metranil_Vavin

Glad to hear you are feeling more relaxed abis. You may find that does the trick and you get your BFP this month

We are going for the more 'relaxed' approach this month too (well, as relaxed as I can be right now)

OH has convinced me to leave the ov sticks/CBFM alone and even though I am a total control freak and need to feel like I am doing something positive, I do understand what he is saying and actually not having the 'oh my god we have to BD NOW!!' panic which was so ruddy awful last month!

Also having has 2 chemical's in a row, and my cycle being 30 days last month rather than the usual 28, I really have no idea when (or even if) I'll ov. Fertility Friend has predicted me in for 3 possible ov dates..it's a s confused as I am!

So just going to try and bonk a few times the right week, and then try again properly from next month.

Maybe my womb would benefit from a whole cycle of not ttc.

I hate waiting though