Miscarriage support

skintchick

Oh Tinks. I am so so sorry you are going through this again. WHy do we keep trying? how do we? Because we have so much desire for a baby that even the worst life can throw at us can't quench it.

I know I've personally found that after five losses I'm crushed. But I still want to be able to try again soon, because I want a baby, I just also want some answers.

If your three haave all been since your last child you can now get referred to a recurrent miscarriage clinic. I'm sure it's all too raw for you to think about now, you just need to get through the days as best you can, but maybe later you could think about whether you;d like some investigations, and if you want to know more about those I'm happy to talk.

For now, just cope. Look after yourself and allow yourself to grieve. I didn;t do that after my last one in July and I'm now in counselling and struggling to cope with even just life because I bottled it all up.



That poem made me sob! and I love the idea of those services, I want to have or go to something like that for my lost ones.

abis21

Tinks, I know you feel alone, but there is so much love and support for you on here - not to mention your DH and your 2 girls and friends/family. I have been thinking of you often and I know lots of others have too. As for the trying again, well its too raw and too soon at the moment to think of these things. With time, the great big gaping chasm in your life will close a little. It will still be sad, but it won't overwhelm you at some point in the future.

Lilymay - Thinking of you and your DD also today and sending over love and hugs.

Skint - How are the tests going? I sent a message on your thread a while back as I think of you and cleofish often too. The service was lovely, in a very sad kind of way. It was wierdly peaceful grieving amongst others who understood the pain - a bit like a real life version of this board but with songs and poems too. That poem makes me cry every time I read it. I don't especially believe in god, but I found it comforting in so many ways to think of things in that way and think that my baby was born and is waiting for me.

skintchick

Abis, I've just updated on that thread. I did read it the day you posted but I only felt strong enough to lurk so I didn;t reply, but I have now.

newcook

Hello all, I lost my little bean last Thursday at the minute I seem to be in a daze and on autopilot. I also have moments when Ive been with friends and I almost forget what has happened because they are all sat laughing and joking and I’ll subconsciously put my hand on my belly - and then I remember. It’s the same when I wake up in the morning and for a brief moment Im happy, then reality hits me like a sledgehammer.

tinkwings

Hugs Newcook xxxxxxxxxxxx

tinkwings

[FONT=&quot]Today I looked into the sky and it was beautiful. I then realised it's because you are there. You fly with the angels now but part of you will always be with us xxxxxx[/FONT]

mrsj28

tinks - so so sorry Sending lots of love and hugs, which I know makes no real difference, wish I could take the pain of the loss away. Please know that we are all here for you if you ever want to chat or just write down your feelings.

newcook - I'm so sorry to read about your loss, too. A miscarriage can completely throw you - for the first week after mine I found really simple tasks like arranging what time to meet a friend for a coffee very stressful and it took me about half an hour to write a text message. It is such a shock physically and emotionally, and it is not only the loss of the bean you had for a few weeks or months, it's the loss of everything you had hoped and dreamed that little bean would become. Have you taken time off work? I would really recommend taking some time out if you can, and do look after yourself and your DH. This board is a great place of support so please come and ask any questions/rant/chat on here if you would like to.

Thinking of all you ladies who have experienced a loss, it is such a hard time and I wish it hadn't happened to any of us

mrsj28

tinkwings wrote: »

[FONT=&quot]Today I looked into the sky and it was beautiful. I then realised it's because you are there. You fly with the angels now but part of you will always be with us xxxxxx[/FONT]

tinks - that is so lovely, thank you for sharing xxx How are you doing today?

tinkwings

mrsj28 wrote: »

tinks - that is so lovely, thank you for sharing xxx How are you doing today?

Bad day today just feel so empty

mrsj28

tinkwings wrote: »

Bad day today just feel so empty

Massive hugs xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx