Miscarriage support

Lauralou

Hugs Tink. I have been lurking and thinking off you. I don't think i could cope with going through anymore miscarriages.

Big hugs SK. Still think about you often and keep wishing.

Big hugs to anyone going through a tough time xx

newcook

hi ladies, just thought I would see how you are all doing.

I keep wondering if Im coping too well - I still have a good cry a couple of times a day and its always there in my mind but Im beginning to get back to 'normal'.

I keep saying to my mom that people must think Im heartless (there are only a few people I will cry in front of) but she thinks its possibly because OH and I wern't trying for a baby and I had so few pregnancy symptoms that its just the way my body is shutting its emotions away (plus the codine the doctor gave seems to make me feel a bit numb). she is also keeping a close eye on me along with the rest who know just in case the emotions all break through at once.

big hugs to you all xx

Kitten_Pie

Hugs to you too newcook.

This friday will be the boys first birthday, it has gone so quickly. We will be going away with the cub and letting off some lanterns. It just really hurts at the moment and OH is also taking it badly. I keep seeing his red eyes where he has been thinking of them. Glad it isn't just me that is hurting but also don't want him to feel like this, wish I could take it all away.

Our friends and family seem to have forgotten them already and now cub is here it is as though everything is now better, it isn't and it never will be.

Sorry for the rant just a really hard week for us here.

Love to all who needs it.

mrsj28

Kitten_Pie wrote: »

Hugs to you too newcook.

This friday will be the boys first birthday, it has gone so quickly. We will be going away with the cub and letting off some lanterns. It just really hurts at the moment and OH is also taking it badly. I keep seeing his red eyes where he has been thinking of them. Glad it isn't just me that is hurting but also don't want him to feel like this, wish I could take it all away.

Our friends and family seem to have forgotten them already and now cub is here it is as though everything is now better, it isn't and it never will be.

Sorry for the rant just a really hard week for us here.

Love to all who needs it.

Kitten - massive ((hugs)) will be thinking of you on Friday. I can't imagine how tough this must be for you and your OH. I hope you have a really special time going away and letting off the lanterns.

Nephthys

Oh Kitten_Pie, huge hugs for you. I was just thinking about some people the other day and you were one of them and I thought the boys birthday was around now. I have never really posted before to you as I never felt that i could say anything helpful as I have no concept of how much you have been hurting and I had no wish to say anything that would not come across the way i wanted it to.

In your posts you come across as so strong even if you don't feel that way. It must be really hard to have your family and friends think that just because you have another child that it automatically makes things all right.

I will be thinking of you on Friday and will keep you, your OH and your children in my prayers.

(and I really hope that nothing i've said is in any way irritating or upsetting - it's not meant to be)

Nephthys

newcook - I was much the same after both of mine. It was as if someone else took over and let me get on with things. The emotional side took a little while to hit but when it did it took my DH by surprise.

The one thing I have learnt on this board is that everyone reacts in their own way. There is no right or wrong way to react or grieve. There is only your way. How you cope with things is up to you. There are so many good people on this board who are here if you need to talk/let off steam/get upset. It can really help just to type it all down if you can't talk to people in RL or if you have no-one who understands. I didn't really and I found that lurking on here with the occaional post helped me realise that I wasn't going mad and that my reactions were ok.

skintchick

Hugs for newcook, Kitten and Tink. Thinking of you all. xxx

I've updated about me on the multiple miscarriages thread. I now know why mine happened and it can be treated, so I'm really hopeful for the future now.

lilymay1

Kitten_Pie wrote: »

Hugs to you too newcook.

This friday will be the boys first birthday, it has gone so quickly. We will be going away with the cub and letting off some lanterns. It just really hurts at the moment and OH is also taking it badly. I keep seeing his red eyes where he has been thinking of them. Glad it isn't just me that is hurting but also don't want him to feel like this, wish I could take it all away.

Our friends and family seem to have forgotten them already and now cub is here it is as though everything is now better, it isn't and it never will be.

Sorry for the rant just a really hard week for us here.

Love to all who needs it.

Kitten, I know I have said this before, but I know exactly how you feel. I can also relate to everything you say about friends and family thinking everything is better now you have a new baby.

Last Sunday was the anniversary of DD's death. 2 years already and it still feels like yesterday. You are right. It won't ever be better and it won't ever stop hurting. They are not here and the should be.

I was actually thinking of you last night because I remembered the 19th. My son (and light of my life, much like I imagine Naomi is for you) turns 1 on the 20th.

Big bigs hugs. The first anniversary is the hardest. xx

Nephthys

lilymay - many hugs to you too. Again, I have no idea how you are feeling and i would never assume to. Like with Kitten_Pie I have read your story and never felt that anything i could say would be helpful as i just have no idea how it would feel. Just know that i am thinking of you and praying for you and your family too.

Courgette

I'm just wondering if anyone knows how long pregnancy symptoms go on for? For at least a week every month before AF I have very strong pg signs that are extremely distressing. Also, cycle lengths still all over the place. Any idea when they should settle down?

Mc at 11 weeks on 1st July