Miscarriage support

Metranil_Vavin

Hugs V. So sorry it sounds like you have been through a horrific ordeal.

I hope hubby is looking after you x

lilymay1

Tinks. I am so sorry this has happened to you again. I have been thinking of you this weekend.

With regards to your question, you try again because it's all you can do. It's 2 years today since my daughter died. That was horrific. Her birth and death were very messy. The whole thing was An unecessary waste of her life and has cast an ever-lasting shadow over mine. But In the weeks and months afterwards I realised I had a choice; to either give up and kill myself (I got fairly close) or to carry on. The rest of the world wasn't going to stop just because mine had.

You are such a strong person. You have come through 2 devastating losses before. But you also have 2 lovely children so you know it can happen for you. I really really hope you find the strength to come to terms with what has happened and you know where we all are when you are ready. Xxx

tinkwings

lilymay1 wrote: »

tinks. I am so sorry this has happened to you again. I have been thinking of you this weekend.

With regards to your question, you try again because it's all you can do. It's 2 years today since my daughter died. That was horrific. Her birth and death were very messy. The whole thing was an unecessary waste of her life and has cast an ever-lasting shadow over mine. But in the weeks and months afterwards i realised i had a choice; to either give up and kill myself (i got fairly close) or to carry on. The rest of the world wasn't going to stop just because mine had.

You are such a strong person. You have come through 2 devastating losses before. But you also have 2 lovely children so you know it can happen for you. I really really hope you find the strength to come to terms with what has happened and you know where we all are when you are ready. Xxx

Thank you xxxxxx

tinkwings

Metranil_Vavin wrote: »

Hugs V. So sorry it sounds like you have been through a horrific ordeal.

I hope hubby is looking after you x

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Jox

So sorry tinkwings......... xxx

Metranil_Vavin

I had my first mc at 9 weeks too Tinks.

I also like you, had 2 scans due to heavy bleeding, and both showed a good heartbeat, both times I went fro the depths of terror and despair to hope..both times short lived, and on my 3rd and final visit to EPU, rather than the sonographer spinning the screen over to me straight away to reassure me all was well, she just sat there in silence clicking away, frowning and saying 'I'll explain everything shortly'.

i just knew it was all over...I'd known before I was scanned, but to have had those 2 brief carrots of hope dangled in front of me, and then to have it all snatched away was too much to bear. I remember very little about what was said after that as I collapsed into a heap of tears as my mum tried to ask questions and my OH tried to get me to my feet.

It's all hideous, tragic and depressing, and I wish none of us here ever had to go through it.

People who have never suffered loss like this have absolutely NO idea what it's like, and all the well wishes/hugs, real and virtual etc won't make a jot of difference, only time, tears and coming to terms with what has happened will dull the pain eventually.

Lily is right, you'll carry on because you want that 3rd addition to your family unit, and she is also right in saying you have your 2 beautiful girls already and you know you can do this.

Unfortunately it is just a longer, more difficult road for some than others.

Thinking of you xx

TeamLowe

Tinks I hope you're feeling better physically and my heart bleeds for you, it really does
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maire1

Tink

My second mc, which happened in July, was similar to yours in that I too had bleeding and was told all was well at a number of scans only to go on to lose the baby at nine weeks. It was much worse than my first natural mc at 6 weeks as I kept having my hopes built up.

It has taken ten weeks for my hcg levels to decrease to zero and now we are beginning to try again simply because I feel like there is no other option.

I agree that it's something you can only fully understand once you've been through it. That's why I've taken a lot of comfort from this thread.

Take care, allow yourself time to grieve and worry about ttc again when you're ready x

emylou

So sorry you've gone through such a traumatic time again Tinkwings, thinking of you xxxx

portsmouthali

Sorry you're here again Tinks. After each loss (other than the first) I've said "never again" but time heals and at some point I always change my mind. As lilymay says, it's all you can do xxxxxxx