Miscarriage support

Jox

Sorry samii11, that's really sad, hope you're ok.
It's a month since my miscarriage, think I'm anaemic, will take iron.
Take care

mrsj28

Cookie and Plummie - I just wanted to say how sorry I am to hear about your recent losses. Nothing to add to the good advice already given on here, but just to say you have our online support any time; this thread has been such a support to me.

Cozza - so sorry to hear about your 3 miscarriages, I can't imagine how difficult the due date must be. Hope your OH will be home soon.

I am sure it is only natural to feel better and then to feel worse again - and jealousy of other pregnant people is all part and parcel of it. I have a very very close friend who fell pregnant about two weeks before I did, and I am finding it difficult hearing about her scans, and a ridiculous part of me almost wants to avoid seeing her as I'm not sure how the bump will make me feel. I cannot believe I am having these horrible thoughts - this is my best friend who has been ttc for 18 months and had a miscarriage last year. Deep down I am really really happy for her; I just get a bit panicky when I think that we should have been having the same sort of milestones together. She is so sensitive about it, too, I have no good reason to be jealous!

cookiecrumbs

Thanks everyone for your kind responses.

I feel like I have good days and bad, I really TRY to think positive all the time and hope that it will happen again quickly and everything will be ok.

On the other hand I am terrified it will take a long time, or that it will go pear shaped again, I know it's only natureal to feel like this but I am quite scared!

I have just got married and we have such a nice perfect life in all other ways that I almost feel guilty about wanting this so much. I feel as though I have everything I could ever want in life except for the thing I want the most...

Does any of that even make any sense??!

mrsj28

cookiecrumbs wrote: »

Thanks everyone for your kind responses.

I feel like I have good days and bad, I really TRY to think positive all the time and hope that it will happen again quickly and everything will be ok.

On the other hand I am terrified it will take a long time, or that it will go pear shaped again, I know it's only natureal to feel like this but I am quite scared!

I have just got married and we have such a nice perfect life in all other ways that I almost feel guilty about wanting this so much. I feel as though I have everything I could ever want in life except for the thing I want the most...

Does any of that even make any sense??!

All of it makes sense and I know I feel the same way

Metranil_Vavin

Me too.

And I already have a son of 20 months who I love more than life itself, yet I can't stop longing for another.

mrsj28

I think it's reassuring that we all want this so much - whether it's a first or tenth baby we are hoping for! It means that when our turn comes (trying to be optimistic...) those babies will be very lucky because they will be loved so much. Not that other babies aren't loved so much, of course I don't mean that, but... you know what I mean...

Metranil_Vavin

I know exactly what you mean mrsj28.

My best friend put it really nicely the other day, she said our next forever baby was waiting patiently in line for their turn.

It made me cry a bit but also smile.

Greener_Grass

Hugs to everyone on here, especially those who's loss is recent and all too raw i know its a cliche but it does get easier. the first month or so after my mc i felt like the world had ended and i couldn't stop crying, i felt like it was an insult to my baby to ever be happy again. Its now been almost 3 months and although the pain is still there on a whole i feel much better. I still want to sob when i see someone else who's pregnant and then i'm reminded I should be too. In some ways the fact I was ever pregnant is almmost like a dream I don't quite believe was real.

Its been 79 days since my MC and i've still not had a period. has anyone else found their cycles were messed up after? I'm dreading getting af as its just a big reminder i'm not pregnant but at the same time I want her to come so i've actually got a chance of getting pregnant

Metranil_Vavin

Hugs GG. So sorry for your loss.

I found after my first mc (at 9 weeks), my periods got back to normal about 6 weeks after I stopped bleeding.

this time I only had a chemical pregnancy so was only about 4 weeks long, and my period started a couple of days later than it normally would. I'm hoping things are back to normal so we can try again, and am using ov sticks.

I know what you mean about not wanting AF and wanting it at the same time. In a way once it's been and gone, you can kind of close that chapter and start to move on.

I am also using the fact that you are meant to be more fertile after a mc as a small positive.

Greener_Grass

yes i was clinging to that hope too but when its been almost 3 months without a period you kind of give up hope of that. we've now been trying for a baby for almost 31 months. i'm getting to the stage where i think it might just be time to give up trying.

i know the fact you had a chemical pregnancy is devestating but please see the positive that you did get pregnant the first month you were trying again so fell very quickly. hopefully you will fall quickly again xx