Miscarriage support

tinkwings

samii11 wrote: »

heya, ive come here from the 'less than 12 weeks pregnant' forum. I started bleeding sunday night (going by my LMP i would have been 8 weeks) the scan showed i was either only about 4 weeks or starting to MC as the embryonic sac and yolk where present just no baby, so i knew it was a MC as 4 weeks wasnt possible. I do have a scan booked for Wednesday to check and see if baby has grown or it was a MC, however after being rushed to A&E last night with very heavy bleeding, large clots ect my blood test confirmed that i have had a miscarriage (this is my first MC after 2 DS) so i think im here for some advice/support from people who know. Anyway thats me, hope everyone else is doing ok xxx

Hi Sammii

Sending HUGS

I had DD1 then had an MMC with my 2nd PG we went for a scan at 9+ weeks onlt to be told that bean had passed away at about 6 weeks I had to then have an ERPC I then caughter after my 1st af with dd2. We had another MC in aug 2011 .

Take all the time & space you can to deal with your feelings xxxxxxxxxxx

tinkwings

metranil_vavin wrote: »

hello again everyone. I hate dragging this thread up to the top again, but feeling so sad
have had a chemical pregnancy, so technically my second loss now.
Had loads of pregnancy symptoms, strong nausea and tiredness like you wouldn't believe. Tested at the weekend at my parents house with a digi, and got a pregnant 1-2.
We were so excited, and felt truely blessed as it was only or first proper month of trying for no 2, and i had been planning the age gap i wanted/getting stuff in order.
I should have known that life is rarely that kind. Started bleeding heavily yesterday morning, and am having the heaviest period i can recall since my mc 2 years ago.

I feel almost bad bringing this up as it was only 4 weeks, but i am really, really disappointed. It doesn't matter how early a loss is, you still start making plans and thinking about your future.

I guess i should have known better having been through a loss previously, and although this isn't anywhere near as awful as i haven't had scans etc, it's brought back a lot of unhappy memories and i'm full of remorse

sorry to rant, just not really got anyone to talk to as we only told my mum and dad as we were at their house when i tested. My poor mum doesn't really know what to say, and actually there isn't much. Guess it's just a case of onwards and upwards, although at the moment i feel like it's never going to happen, as i'm 40 next year and have probably left all this too late.

We're going to try again straight away as i desperately want a baby soon.

Hugs to anyone else who is going through this crap x

mv - hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

mrsj28

samii - so sorry to hear about your miscarriage As Tinks said, take as much time and space as you can. Do come and chat on here - I was really grateful for the support when I had my miscarriage a few weeks ago.

Jox

Hugs to MV and samii, it's a horrible thing to go through....sorry to both of you, hope you get lots of emotional support from your loved ones.

I had a mc on 25th August and this week had a little bleed so not sure if that was a period or not.

I'm reading a book called "You and Your Bump" by Emma Cannon which covers pre-conception, conception and pregnancy so I hope I can pick up some tips for next time.

I'm still taking folic acid every day.

We've all just got to take it one day at a time and hopefully our much wanted and loved babies will be with us next year xxx

Nephthys

Samii and MV - Hugs to you. I am so so sorry you are having to go through this. It sucks - for want of a better phrase. Nothing I say can make that pain any less just now but I'm thinking of you (and anyone else who is going through this - hugs to you all).

I did learn that there are no right or wrong reactions - some people need more time than others, some react stronger than others. Take your time, vent in here. The nice thing about this place is that we all understand regardless of our journeys.

Samii - I had an ERPC on my first pregnancy at 10 weeks and then fell with DS on my second cycle afterwards. I then had an MC in January this year and conceived again at the start of May I think so took a little longer this time. Physically i was fine when it happened both times - my body did what it was supposed to do the second time - just needed help the first time. Emotionally was a little bit harder (in both cases the full extent of it didn't hit me for a little while) and it was helpful to have the support in here even if I didn't post much. Hug and talk to your OH a lot. I found that helped me(it was his baby too). He struggled to talk about it but it got easier with time. Just hang in there.

Jox and mrsj28 - you both sound a little better this morning. How are you doing?

mrsj28

Nephthys - thanks so much for asking. I really am doing a lot better, back at work full time and feeling almost 'normal'. I am lucky to have a great DH and supportive friends (in RL and on here!) and I think that support has made the recovery so much easier.

Just very desperate to be pregnant so we have decided to try straight away.... I'm trying not to obsess too much about ttc, but I think we all know how difficult that can be!

Hugs to all on here - no matter when your loss was I know it will always still be a very sad part of your journey.

Nephthys

Mrsj28 - I'm glad you feel a bit better. Supportive friends and family are amazing! And you're right ttc can become an obsession! Did for me anyway. I'm keeping everything crossed for you and hope you get your forever baby soon! I hope everyone does.

Nephthys

MV - have pm'd you.

Jox

I feel a bit better too, my OH and friends and family have been great, so that's helped!

My OH had emergency appendix op on Wednesday so that's taken my mind off things and no chance of any nookie until he is better so we will resume TTC maybe next month.

Metranil_Vavin

Mrsj28 - glad you are feeling better. Going back to work can be helpful when the time is right. I found the first few days back with my first mc difficult, but it did get better.
Jox glad you are feeling a bit better too.
Supportive partners make all the difference, mine has been ace.